Nancy's Journal ...

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Tue, 11-15-2005 - 6:36am
Pre-holiday challenge/countdown journal.

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Sat, 01-21-2006 - 6:09pm

Sat - Jan 21st.

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Sat, 01-21-2006 - 8:05pm
How are things going with you now?? Either post a message or you have my e-mail address!
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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 11:12am

Welcome, Nancy! I'm back, too. Sorry to hear things are so crazy in your life right now, but great that you are taking time to make yourself a priority, and exercise and good diet choices are a step in the right direction.

I've been dieting/exercising for two weeks...determined to lose the weight I gained when I moved over to my new department at work (stressful change). Gained about 30 pounds in the process (ugh), and have lost 5 so far....so 25 to go. My goal is Memorial Day, and we do have a long term challenge going. Will be posting for updates...would love to have you join.

Lynn

 

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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 2:01pm

Long story short ... I want out of my marriage but DH continues to have his head in the sand.

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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 2:03pm

Once upon a time, I would (always) lose weight when I was stressed.

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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 2:49pm
So sorry that it has come to this, with him ignoring pretty much everything.
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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 2:51pm
Probably at your age it is producing cortisol which keeps weight on!
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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 6:28pm

Nancy, thats a bit unnerving to just have him say he owes you a response & he will & then nothing. Do you think he's consulting w/a lawyer before he responds? My advice to you is do not pack up & leave that house or the kids even for just a few days, because it would be constued as abandonment on your part. He could wind up w/the everything including the kids. And never take anything for granted in this, even your asking for separation & you figure he'll probably just forget it. He won't, he is figuring his plan & men usually figure about house & monetary assets 1st. & then the use the kids to get what they want. Don't go by his past behavior because you'll get blindsided, if he isn't kissing your Butt to get back on your good side & try to save the marriage then he's up to something else. Don't for 1 minute think he's just sitting around waiting for this to pass because unless he's completely clueless & I don't think you would marry an idiot & stay w/him as long as you have if he were, he's formulating a plan.

Good luck, btdt & know way too many people who have also. need anything give me a yell you know my email & my ear is always here for you.
Hugs, dee

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Tue, 01-24-2006 - 6:16am

The saddest part is that he really IS that clueless.

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Tue, 01-24-2006 - 7:49am
Sounds like you have a plan and all in order!