Bad Influences

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Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2000
Bad Influences
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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 6:51am

Have you ever told someone......spouse, co-worker, friend, etc. that you wanted to lose weight, had a plan, and after you started this plan they kept offering you foods that you could not have??  How did you handle it and what was their reaction??

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2009
Fri, 09-21-2012 - 3:04pm
Ouch. I have never had that happen. How rude! I wonder if people even realize that they're sabotaging someone's diet or if they think they're just being polite by offering.

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Community Leader
Registered: 06-16-1998
Fri, 09-21-2012 - 6:07pm

My husband, to some degree. He's usually very supportive and remembers to not tempt me but sometimes he forgets. The other day he was someplace where they were selling cupcakes to raise money for a charity so he bought some and brought them home. He even chose a couple that he thought I would like...sweet of him except that he knows that I'm trying to limit my calories. Since I'm trying to see this controlled eating more as a lifestyle than a diet I decided that I could have a cupcake---life happens! So I had one, enjoyed it, and then told him that I was not going to eat the other one. (he ate it). The next day I was talking about the difficulty of tracking nutrition when I don't know the info for some foods (such as the cupcake) and he apologized for bringing it. The man doesn't really "get" diets...he doesn't have much of a sweet tooth or issues with emotional or binge eating, he seems to have a naturally high metabolism, at least a lot faster than mine LOL and he's very active (a runner/endurance athlete) so weight gain is much less of a problem for him; and when he does want to lose some weight he just cuts back on starches for a few days and bingo--sucess,  so he's never had to restrict calories in the same way that I do.

I see it as my responsibility to decline things that don't go with my plan, I don't expect others to know what I cannot or should not eat or if I'm on a diet this week etc. Part of my lifestyle thinking, in real life we run into situations where we have no control over what is served or available so its up to us to make the best choices possible and decline some things or decide that we will splurge then resume our healthier eating the next day. I'm trying to train myself to be able to estimate serving sizes so I can serve myself/consume appropriate portions when I'm away from my kitchen. 

If somebody kept offering me things things that I was trying to avoid, I think I would just keep declining and occasionally remind them that I'm trying not to eat sweets or seconds or whatever. My MIL is one of those people that pushes food on everybody, she always has, and its kind of funny because she is very careful about how much she eats so she can stay trim. So I'm used to politely saying no 10 times to her! At least she doesn't take offense.

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Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2000
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 11:34am

SOunds like a good plan and also a great way to live.  I have known people who WILL NOT eat anything out of their plan.  This seems like something that you can live with...and your hubby understands what is going on!  Great job!

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-04-2012
Thu, 10-04-2012 - 4:35pm
Your avatar ...of those delicious... are they super-duper oreo cookies or just some fabulous icecream/cookie/yumminess.... That is a bad influence right there!
But seriously, I have not had that happen yet, but it sounds like a mean thing to do to someone who has told you that they want to try a new plan! I am interested to read the responses in this column.
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Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2000
Fri, 10-05-2012 - 8:11pm

Yep....my cookies are bad......not sure why I picked them.  May have to look at something else.........hmmmmmmm

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Community Leader
Registered: 06-16-1998
In reply to: elc11
Fri, 10-05-2012 - 8:23pm

Sue, I thought your avatar was Skinny Cow ice cream sandwiches! I bought a package of them once and they were pretty good. 

I also thought it was funny that you had junk food for your avatar...more than once I've looked at them and it made me want ice cream but sometimes it doesn't take much to set off my cravings!!

Avatar for weberdns0
Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2000
Sat, 10-06-2012 - 9:15pm

I think that I was hoping that it would take away some cravings!  Let's pretend that it is a Skinny Cow and then I can keep it!  LOL!!