Can we have a Roll Call ........

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Can we have a Roll Call ........
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Wed, 11-07-2012 - 6:13pm

like we used to in the "olden" days?! Wink

I need to be reminded where everyone is! Embarassed

Hey does Debbie post at all? Does anyone hear from her?

Ok me- Still in Adelaide, South Australia, still working as a Finance Officer in a Primary School. Happily married for almost 26 years ....... oh & separated for almost 5! Madly in love/lust with Mark- together 3 years. Looking for land to build on but inner city suburbs so not an easy task.
Kids- DD 24.5 is married & is a teacher at my school. DS is 22.5 & is a butcher at a nearby Woolworths, he has been with his girlfriend for quite a while. Youngest DD is 17 & is a recluse <sigh>. She rarely leaves her room & has not been to school for a year & only sporadically before that. She has been seeing various psychologists for a couple of years but nothing changes ......... My dogs are mad & have ruined the garden & house. I keep on saying they are growing out of it but ....... Thebby is about 4 & Quinn (who is the size of a small horse!) is 1.5.

 



Tracy

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Wed, 11-07-2012 - 7:27pm

Maybe I can post today. 

We're in Arkansas now living in a VERY rural area.  Moved here to be close to youngest DS who is medically retired from the military and still dealing with from PTSD and a TBI.  Challenges are a daily event.  I work from home these days for a nurse in SC and an attorney in Florida and whomever I find interesting in my typing queue.  DH is retired.
Oldest DS is thinking of moving stateside for security reasons.  His career in the film industry (behind the camera) is going well.  His wife is operating her own business as a band promoter - their son is a fashion model - overachievers of the family.
We have 2 dogs, Amos a schnauzer who does not realize he is a dog and is too smart for his own good and Babalu who is a 150 pound mastiff - they make an interesting couple.  Babalu is a crybaby and Amos a bully. 

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Wed, 11-07-2012 - 10:33pm
How fun that you get to see older DD every day !, and DS is working as a butcher, we had Woolworth stores in the UK, but none of them had any fresh groceries or meat. Do the all have that in Australia or just some of them? I hadn't realised that your youngest DD (Libby yes?) was having such problems, poor girl, I hope something improves for her soon. Is it related to her diabetes at all or just a random thing? The dogs do sound crazy, just like mine :) - I keep telling Raffles that it is a good thing for him that he is cute!

Carole

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Wed, 11-07-2012 - 10:36pm
Carole here, still living in Ottawa, Canada; with hubby and DD, Rhi who is now 14 and in her first year of High School. We only currently have Raffles the Airedale in the pet part of the family, but we are planning to get another hamster soon, and a kitten probably early next year - Raffles is lonely!

Carole

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Thu, 11-08-2012 - 12:14am
Well the big news is that I can post from my mobile and see replies too! We're still in the Seattle area...you know ALL about my job...lol. Joe is still working for the city but his position was eliminated so he transferred to a different department but then they moved that position into his old department and he reports to his same supervisor....I don't think I will ever understand the thought process of this city. So weird! Caity is good...we had the boy crush but it seems he has transferred out of her school and his facebook account has been shut down. She came home with a science test that she did not even come close to passing. It was on astronomy which is one of my favorite subjects. Fortunately, she was allowed to retake it today so hopefully she passed. She was on forced study time last night. The night before she had me check her math homework and it was mostly wrong...but that was mostly just rushing through it. She and I sat for two hours going through each problem...i made her write everything out including the "rules" (negative times a negative equals a positive type rules) and told her when she has a test the first thing she should do is write the rules at the top so she doesn't forget them. She loses interest so quickly because it's boring. I'm trying to figure out realistic scenarios for her to apply this type of math to. The teaching never ends! The boys are mellowing out...they'll be 3 in december (i know! Already!) which means we will celebrate the 3rd anniversary of our home-ownership in december too! That seems like yesterday! My brother's treatment seems to be slowing things down which is great. He has been in good spirits lately which makes me happy. :) Dad made the drive back to Arizona this week...seems I'm the only one who didn't know he was leaving (not even a goodbye!). Not surprising though...I'm never in the loop. ;) I can't believe how happy being able to post from my phone makes me...lol. It's the little things!

Sarah


 


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Thu, 11-08-2012 - 4:17am

Tracy, I'm sorry to hear that DD17 is still having problems, I hope that something changes for her soon.

I am still in touch with Debbie, but she is busy, busy, so I don't hear from her as often as I used to.  No surprises, she has rescued yet another kitten, this one has really stolen her heart.  I told her about the changes at iVillage,  with hindsight I should have waited until all the kinks were ironed out, she had some issues with reading posts I think, but she will try again later after (hopefully) things improve.  Fingers crossed.

DH and I just keep plodding along, no changes there, lol.  I am not too sure how much longer I will have a job, the company I work for has a contract with a government agency which expires in December and the contract will go out to tender, there may be an extension until March, but after that we just don't know.  Even if we are kept on with a new company the hours will definitely be reduced.

DS is 30 and is in the process of buying an apartment, settlement is set for next Tuesday.  He has a contract with a government department which expires in December too.  He spoke to his boss before he went ahead with the purchase of the apartment and the answer was a "Yes, yes we want to keep you on", then the week after his offer on the apartment was accepted, funding for the project he is working on was cut, so there is a certain amount of tension mixed with excitment about becoming a first home owner.

DD247 became engaged in September, no date set for the wedding, but it won't be in the very near future, she and her fiance want to buy a house first.  No decision yet on whether the wedding will be  here in Canberra or Melbourne, but Melbourne is loooking cheaper at this stage.  Her contract with a government department ended in August and she now has a 3 month contract with an adult education institution.  Oh, and just as a side note, she and her fiance went to the Cook Islands in September for their friends' wedding and while they were there they went on a progressive dinner in local homes, one of the Australian  TV travel shows were filming in one of the homes,. so if I know in advance when it will be screened I will let you know.

We still have our two cats, we were hoping that DS's cat might move with him, but there is a balcony  which overlooks a really busy road, and he probably wouldn't last a day, so it looks like we are stuck with him for a while longer yet..  Truly, if that cat was a human he would be locked up for being a deranged stalker (or worse).  I just tell people not to let  the smoochiness fool them, he is the Jekyll and Hyde of the cat world.

Elaine

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Thu, 11-08-2012 - 7:44am
Tracy I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. Was this a sudden onset type of thing or gradual? I remember you talking about how well she adjusted to her diabetes at first. It's hard when your kids struggle.
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Thu, 11-08-2012 - 5:34pm

Mlbugher- I hope ds is improving, it must be so hard to see a child go through that. Mark's ex has their schnauzer, I am ALWAYS hearing what a wonderful breed they are <rolls eyes> Libby got diabetes 8 years ago!!!! How time flies! She had tummy problems on & off before that- blood tests & an endoscopy showed nothing other than IBS. She started going late to school, I made her go, her Dad did not when she was with him. I would not let her stay up late he did ....... so she stopped living with me oh the start of last year? I think! She rarely leaves the house, & sometimes rarely leaves her room! She is SO pale because she does not go outside. What happened to this outdoorsy outgoing kid??!! <sigh> Every now & then she has a slight improvement & will go out with Destiny or I, but most of the time she won't. She has seen different psychologists (when she will leave the house to go) etc she tells them what they want to hear & nothing changes. It's awful to see her wasting her life like this, & terrifying to think of what the future holds for her. Allan seemed to take ages to actually be concerned. Even now I think he is not the best person for her. I say take away her computer, internet etc- he won't. The High School counsellor & one psychologist suggested he needed parenting classes- he was not impressed ....... What can I do ....... I did all the discipline when they were little. As for Libby I have tried to drag her downstairs to go to appointments- she's taller & the same weight as me! I can not budge her! The scary thing is you hear of so many teenagers like this.

Carolejd- Destiny & I get along so well. We work together, excercise together (gym, walk & zumba) & shop together!!! All Woolworths here grocery stores, Big W is their dept like store (clothes etc). Libby has been suffering from depression/anxiety issues for oh over 2 years now. She has not been to school at all this year, & only a small part of last year. How old is Raffles now?

Suamomi- Lucky you! I can not post from my phone, nor from my computer using internet explorer. Only Mozilla will work!

Layneo- Say hi to Debbie for me! I hope things are ok with your job, it's a worry isn't it. Let me know about that travel show! :)

 



Tracy

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Thu, 11-08-2012 - 6:39pm
Tracy - Schnauzers are a great breed - Amos is our third. As for your daughter - has she ever been prescribed a psycho-stimulant? DS had lots of depression along with all his other issues, and since my doctor gave him a Rx for Vyvance he is a different person - not totally what he used to be but he is able to function, get out of the house and interact with people again at least on a limited basis as far as people go. My sister's daughter who is 18 or so has symptoms similar to your daughter that started at about age 12 - and my sister gave up trying ages ago. It is scary and you don't know what to do. Like you said when she is the same size as you are limited in your options.
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Fri, 11-09-2012 - 10:30am

Raffles will be 8 this year I think (or possibly 9!) I have to confess I can't really remember lol - he stiill seems like such a puppy! I will have to go look up his birthdate on his pedigree!

He is definitely lonely without Gypsy cat - she was here first and he's never lived without her till now. She was bossy and grouchy, but he loved her. We have to get him a kitten :)

Carole

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Fri, 11-09-2012 - 10:34am

Poor LIbby. We have friends who's 16 yr olf daughter is going through huge problems with depression. She's been hospitalised for long stretches on several occasions. It seemed to start when she was about 15, and it's a huge struggle for them.

It really does seem like A has not realised the extent of the problem even yet. I really hope things improve for her soon.

Carole

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