The Evolution of the Pillow Menu

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The Evolution of the Pillow Menu
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Sun, 11-18-2012 - 11:20pm

DH sleeps propped up on many pillows, it began with 3 and at the last count it was up to 11, arranged in quite a precise way.  He has asthma and feels better able to breathe like this, so I don't have any issue with the numbers, but let me tell you, bed making is not the simple affair it once was.  I should point out  now, before I progress, that DH does a lot of  housework, and cooking,  but bed making has always been my responsibility.

In the beginning DH had  just 3 pillows, and as long as they were the same 3 pillows he didn't mind in which order they were, he marked each of them with and "X" so I could make sure he  always had those same 3  and they didn't get mixed up with mine, and while ever all the "X" pillows were on his side all was good.  Then over time the asthma got worse and the number of pillows began to increase, so a new system had to be devised.  The "X"s changed to numbers, which may seem easy, except for some unknown reason the simple 1-2-3-4 etc format changed to 2-3-5-4 , with number 2 halfway down the bed, sort of under his lower back, then the other 3 in a stack, with numbers 1 and 6 at the side of the bed in case he needed extras during the night.  He even put a post -it note above the bed because sometimes I couldn't remember which order they were supposed to be in.  But don't get me started on the time we went to my Mother's and I forgot to make a note of which order they were meant to go in!  Wink

Are you still with me?  I hope so, because it's about to escalate to a whole new level.  DH has recently changed his identification system again and we are now using letters as well.  E has replaced 2,  A, B and C are in the stack, but D is slightly wedged under A bit (he has written this on the actual D pillow for me.)  Numbers 1 and 6 are still at the side of the bed, but we also have an assortment of pillows without Xs, letters or numbers which he uses to top up the base stack.  How the additional pillows are arranged depends on the night.  Getting the balance right can be a time consuming and at times frustating affair for him, and sometimes he just gives up and sleeps in the spare bed, where there is another stack of pillows which I just place there in random order.  Sometimes I wake in the night and my second pillow has mysteriously migrated to his side of the bed, or beyond.

With all these pillows and the need for correct placement, bed making can take quite a while, throw in 3 cats jumping around on top and under  while I am trying to get the job completed and the stress levels begin to rise.  So.....next time you change the sheets, spare a thought for me and the "pillow menu".  Who knows where it will go to from here. 

Elaine

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Mon, 11-19-2012 - 7:59am

OH dear! G and I have 3 pillows each, but only use 2 for sleeping (unless sinus issues are bad and one of us needs extra propping up) and we are each fairly picky about which 2 we sleep with as opposed to the extra one for reading or TV watching, but we are each resposible for our own final pillow placement so the daytime stack is always random. 

I am with you all the way on cats who "help" with bed making, Willow, in particular, used to delight in burrowing under the blankets as I was trying to get them on the bed!

Good thing DH helps out with other stuff around the house, it must take you hours to get the bed made!

Carole

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Mon, 11-19-2012 - 9:38am
Oooooooooh, friend ... that is LOVE. Cuz I would tell him to make it himself! Or at the VERY least place his own pillows to suit. You are a saint! LOL We each have one pillow. There is a pillow in the middle, though Red has taken to SLEEPING in the middle recently ... as in in the last month ... with no warning ... after 27 years ... and I am STILL adjusting to THAT, since it puts me sleeping on the very EDGE of the bed! We each have a pillow for reclining to watch TV as well, but he rarely, if ever, uses his. And our bed NEVER gets made! He often adjusts things just before bed, but unless we're having company, it's always a mess!

&nb
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Mon, 11-19-2012 - 12:48pm

LOL! I do not do a whole lot in the way of housework unless we are expecting company :) but I (almost) always make the bed. However Rhi doesn't usually make her bed and I rarely do it for her, I am not really sure why I bother to make ours either, but it's probabaly a hang over from my student days when once the bed was made the whole room was basically tidy lol!

Carole

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Mon, 11-19-2012 - 2:40pm

I think most cats seem to be attracted to bed making Carole, Minki burrows under as well, then tends to stay there, so we have the big lump on one side of the bed.  Then I have to remind DH not to sit on her as she tends to settle on his side of the bed.

Elaine

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Mon, 11-19-2012 - 2:46pm

We have a king size bed Geo, so we have enough room for us, the multitude of pillows and 2 of the 3 cats, one is banned from our room overnight. I guess DH could decide to sleep in the middle too,. but so far it hasn't happened.  Probably because one of the pillows is poisitioned between us.

Yeah, it must be love.  But DH is so good with help around the house, it's not something I would ask him to do. But I sometimes wonder what the neighbours must think when they see all those pillowcases on the clothesline every week, and needless to say, we don't have that many matching pillowcases!

Elaine

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Mon, 11-19-2012 - 10:01pm
Wow that is a lot of pillows. I don't know that I could do that bed making routine. We usually wind up sleeping in different rooms - we go to bed together and then Bob starts moving over onto my side of the bed leaving me a mere 6" of space, which I really can't fit in and then he starts SNORING plus he likes it a LOT warmer when he sleeps. So since A rarely sleeps here and since he usually sleeps in the living room when he does sleep here I usually sleep in his room with the window open, nice and cool and QUIET. Plus I have plenty of room. Some of you mentioned watching bed in TV - really do you do this often? I refuse to have a TV in the bedroom. When I sleep I want it quiet, dark and cold.
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Mon, 11-19-2012 - 10:51pm
LOL about the pillowcases!

&nb
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Mon, 11-19-2012 - 10:58pm
I fought having a television in the bedroom for a long time, but Red finally won. When he did, I then insisted we connect it to the satellite dish. It was useless without since we can only get even our network channels through the dish, and we went a year before THAT happened. I don't use it very often, but it does provide a place to record the shows I want without interrupting someone else's viewing in another room. I have morning shows on while I'm getting ready for work sometimes, and occasionally, I just have to have a stay in bed all day day. Then, I watch movies or catch up on recorded shows. Then, it's pretty handy. But I will NEVER admit that to Red. ;)

&nb
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Tue, 11-20-2012 - 1:25am

We have a TV in the bedroom, have done for years.  I usually go to bed before DH so I have it on for a while, watching the news before I go to sleep.  And like Geo, I have it on while I'm getting ready in the morning.

Elaine

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Tue, 11-27-2012 - 5:50am
Omg Elaine!!!!! Seriously this is divorce material!!! Or at least sending to a good psych! Numbering & lettering pillows ..... now that is anal! We have 3 pillows each, one each to sleep on but we use the other to prop ourselves up to read ....... oh & I have asthma! :op

 



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