Anyone else feel overwhelmed

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Anyone else feel overwhelmed
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Thu, 09-17-2009 - 4:26pm

with life after going back to work? I know thousands of women work and raise kids so it really can't be that hard can it? This is my 3rd week back at work and I feel so overwhelmed. I get up at 5:30 every week day so I can exercise for 30 minutes. Because of Liam breastfeeding it may take me an hour to get that 30 minutes in because of having to stop to nurse him, but I try. Then it is getting myself and both kids ready and fed and in Liam's case fed and fed again, LOL! Take the kids to my mom's, then work for 4 hours, rush to my mom's to feed Liam, rush back to work for another 4 hours. After work it is cook dinner, clean up, give baths and get kids ready for bed, snuggle/read stories, breastfeed probably 5 times in there(since he isn't eating during the day except for my lunch break he makes up for it when I am home), get the kids in bed, do laundry, pick up the house, get lunches ready for the next day, wash and pack pump stuff, pay bills, try to talk for DH for at least 5 minutes, try to get in bed before midnight and get up with Liam several times to nurse before the alarm goes off again at 5:30. I guess maybe I am being selfish but everything is just rush rush rush and I don't even get 5 minutes to sit down and read a book much less watch a TV show. I wouldn't have any computer time if it weren't for my iphone or slow times at work. I just feel like I am juggling a hundred balls and any second I am going to drop one and then they'll all come crashing down. I don't know how much longer I can keep up this pace. It wasn't this hard when I went back after having Lily. Someone please tell me I am not the only mom who isn't super mom.


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Thu, 09-17-2009 - 5:46pm

So I don't work out of the home, but I completely understand!

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Thu, 09-17-2009 - 6:10pm

Thanks Kelly! Coming from you that means a lot. I do consider you super mom, LOL!

I really didn't find having a second child made life harder until I went back to work. I was really enjoying having a 2nd child and thought things were going well until I had to add work back into the picture. Work just messed it all up.

You are right about it being hard on a marriage too. My marriage is strong, but the last few weeks have been hard. I feel bad for whining about this when your hubby is on another continent, but we miss each other. Because of how much Liam is nursing we aren't even sleeping in the same bed anymore. We are lucky if we speak 20-30 words to each other a day. Heck we text each other more than we actually talk, LOL! We know these days will quickly pass so we are trying to tough it out and sneak in time where we can. It is just hard though.

Thanks for listening to me and letting me know I am not as alone as I feel. :)


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Thu, 09-17-2009 - 10:09pm

Lorie...

 


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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 1:01am

I don't have any advice but I am where you were 3 weeks ago as I prepare to go back to work and I am a mess in fear! I have LOVED being home and haven't thought that it was all that hard of a transition but I fear what is to come.

None of us are supermoms and I just have to keep that in mind and hope you do to! I hope like Kelly said that it gets better.

(((hugs)))




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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 9:45am

Lorie - You are such a wonderful mom to fit in that mid day breastfeeding and make it all work while working full time. Liam is at a high needs age, but it won't last long. In the blink of an eye he will be sleeping longer, then eating real food, and then life will change again because he gets mobile, and so on. Each of these little stages is such a short amount of time on the full timeline of your life. Just do what you can to get through it, and try to enjoy it for what it is while it is happening.

I don't even work, but I am having a terrible time getting everything done lately. I just try to prioritize and do only the most important things and let slide what I can. My neighbor also has four kids, but her oldest just left for college and her youngest is in 5th grade. She keeps reminding me to just enjoy this time when they are young because it flies by so fast. She is having a terrible time with sending her son to college. I talked to her one day recently and she said she replaced their recent school pictures on the wall with their kindergarten pictures, and dug out a bunch of their other little kid pictures and put them in frames around the house. So, before you know it they will grow up and give you a whole new set of challenges.

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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 12:24pm
Goodness Lori! We really are in the same spot aren't we? Thanks for letting me know I am not alone in this. Somehow it makes me feel better. I hope it gets easier for you too. It has to, right?
I guess if it doesn't we can go have a short vacation in the nut house together, LOL!


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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 12:36pm
I hope you have a smooth transition Tara! I'll be thinking about you.


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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 12:50pm
Thanks Holly! I am trying to take everything moment by moment and keep in mind that this time will pass so quickly. I often think about how quick the time goes by and how one day all too soon I will have all the time in the world. Then that makes me cry and ask Lily and Liam not to leave me, LOL!


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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 3:09pm
I don't even work full time and am 100% overwhelmed! Hugs!
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Sat, 09-19-2009 - 10:45pm

Lorie, I'm so sorry it's so hard for you right now. Is there any way that your DH could take on the dinner a couple nights a week? Or maybe you could make a lot of something on the weekend that you could reheat - soup, lasagna, etc. That way, when you get home, you could nurse Liam while Lily watches a show and the three of you could really just decompress a bit. I just remember how much I loved nursing Lana for a good hour or so when I got home from work, it was such a recconection.

I agree with Holly, it will definitely get better soon. Liam won't be nursing as much, will be sleeping more, and the lunches get a little simpler. Just hang in there.

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