How do you handle race/ethnic issues?
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|Fri, 07-16-2010 - 11:10am|
I had an issue come up yesterday and I was curious as to how other moms would handle this.
My mom pulled me aside and told me that Lily was playing and out of the blue she said, I don't like Mexicans. They are bad people. Their food is nasty, they smell and they are lazy. My jaw hit the floor and I was flabbergasted. My mom told me that she told Lily that none of those things were true and then asked her if she liked her cousins and if she liked the girls that live across the street from my parents, and Mr. G from mommy's work. Lily said yes and my mom explained that her cousin's dad is Mexican so they are part Mexican and the girls across the street are from Mexico and so is Mr. G at mommy's work. Lily replied oh, well I like them, they are sweet and fun. My mom then said so you can see how the things you said aren't true and how they could hurt someone for you to say that. That you wouldn't want someone to say that about your cousin or his dad would you? Lily replied no and went back to playing.
I teared up when my mom was telling me this. I am totally clueless as to where she got this from and it breaks my heart that at 4 she is getting this from somewhere. It certainly isn't from family. My family is very multicultural and we'd have to hate ourselves if we were racist, LOL! I know she was parroting something she heard somewhere else because the words don't sound like her they sound like something she heard someone else say.
So anyway, do you think my mom's handling of it was enough or should I say something else? I am clueless as how to handle this. I don't want to make a huge deal of it but I don't want her to think that type of thinking is okay or that what she heard is right. How would you handle this and how do you teach your kids that these types of stereotypes and racist statements aren't true?