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Tue, 03-31-2009 - 12:26pm
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Tue, 03-31-2009 - 1:10pm

Oh big hugs to you.


I have found that when I let Jacque help with doing her own hair its easier. I sit her in front of the mirror with a little comb to comb her bangs. Then that way she feels like she is helping. Not sure if that would work with Lilly but its worth a try

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Tue, 03-31-2009 - 1:50pm
I used to battle with Amelia on her hair, too, but something changed a few months ago (not really sure what). These days she gets to pick the barrettes she wants in her hair, and what I do to her hair (with in reason). That seems to help quite a bit. I know I've tried the trick where as soon as her hair is done, she can comb my hair (which she likes). Also, I have DH make a big deal of how pretty her hair looks combed... so now, she jumps up and goes running afterwards to see what he says. It's so funny (she then comes running back to tell me "Daddy say pretty!"). I hope you figure something out!!

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Tue, 03-31-2009 - 2:14pm

She has such pretty hair.

Have you tried doing it in front of the tv to distract her? I remember struggling with Jane with this for a long time too. Has she had it trimmed recently? I know bad ends tangle worse than fresh cut ones. Would she let you loose braid it for bed so it doesn't tangle so much at night? Good luck.

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Tue, 03-31-2009 - 2:50pm
Thanks ladies. I have tried everything y'all have suggested. We even spent 30 minutes in Wal-mart one day letting her pick out her own hairbrush. Then another 30 minutes letting her pick out hairbows/clips which she still won't let me put in her hair. My DH took her Saturday to get her hair cut, they cut off two inches, and he said she was a perfect angel. Didn't scream or cry at all. So I am really thinking this is some kind of power struggle for her more than it actually hurts. As soon as we take her to get dressed in the morning she starts talking about how she doesn't want to get her hair brushed. By the time we are done dressing her she is in tears and begging me not to brush her hair. Could it possibly hurt that bad? Of course when I tell her we are going to get her hair all cut off she cries and begs me not to do that either. She got hysterical with me one day because she told me that she loves her pretty long hair and doesn't want it cut off. This morning she was actually throwing things at me so I couldn't get near her! Of course that is when she got her butt spanked but really why the drama over just brushing her hair? I just don't get it. Even my youngest sister who is notorious for not even liking to be touched because it bugs her doesn't understand what Lil's deal is. Lily isn't like this about anything else. I just don't understand.


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Tue, 03-31-2009 - 4:59pm

I have been having hair battles w/ Sammie too. And she has had long hair since she was tiny, and has never complained until now. I agree w/ you that it's a control/power issue.


Maybe just get Lily ready except hair, then get her in her carseat and brush her hair when she's buckled in? I don't know, maybe then she'd refuse to get in the car.


Oh, and I have Super Double Bad Time Out now since regular time out isn't the horrible sentence it used to be... for those really, really naughty times, I make them stand -- not sit -- in the corner with their face to the wall. They hate it, and it's been working as another deterrent/punishment.

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Tue, 03-31-2009 - 5:10pm
fought that battle..I have some stuff I use in my hair and I told her it makes her hair soft to brush so I put it in, then she brushes her hair and then I brush it. I find that if I do a little at a time and hold it in my hand like a pony it goes ok. Her saying it hurts is the brushes scratching on her scalp . GL .





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Tue, 03-31-2009 - 6:17pm
No advice on the hair (except don't shave, we did that to Aidan and he was devastated lol), just hugs. I am SO over the power struggles too, and like Lily, Aidan saves it for me. I hope she lets up soon.
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Tue, 03-31-2009 - 6:23pm
How is she with having her hair brushed post bath?


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Tue, 03-31-2009 - 6:48pm
Just wanted to pop back in to say that, hair doing aside, I HAVE HAD IT TOO!!!!! I am sitting here because I had to step away from the dinner table because the whining and complaining is on my last nerve. Nothing is ever just "okay" anymore. Everything is a huge ordeal, even deciding what to drink with dinner, what cup to have it in, how much is in the cup, etc., etc., etc. Not to mention what I MADE for dinner! AAAAHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! I am trapped in a toddler-preschooler insane asylum!!!

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Tue, 03-31-2009 - 8:28pm
Oh, maybe I should try super double bad time out! I bet she would really not like that. My mom made us stand in the corner and I had forgotten all about how much I hated it. Thanks for the idea.


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