Question about AD Friends/Poss. Bullies

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Registered: 09-25-2006
Question about AD Friends/Poss. Bullies
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Tue, 06-15-2010 - 5:48pm

Bella and I went to a friends house (just getting to know the mom) who has a son a year older then Bella.

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Tue, 06-15-2010 - 10:59pm

I would say, if the mother is making the effort to discipline the boy, you should let Bella see that is is NOT okay to punch/hs it/throw...etc. If she does see that the mom doesn't like it and is stopping it, then she probably won't get the idea that it's okay. Also, you can tell him, "No hitting" and remove him from Bella immediately, he'll get the message...if he wants to play with her, he can't hit her.

As the mother of an "energetic" kid, I worry about his energy overtaking him and him hurting another child, but my son is always so careful of anybody smaller than him, and he knows without a doubt, "NO HITTING EVER"...he raises his fists, he's removed from whatever he's doing, and he doesn't hit anymore

HTH...GL to you

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Wed, 06-16-2010 - 12:27am

I can completely understand your worry and concern!

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Registered: 08-16-2005
Wed, 06-16-2010 - 6:55am

I would do what others have said.


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Registered: 09-25-2006
Wed, 06-16-2010 - 10:45am

Thanks everyone.

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Registered: 03-08-1999
Wed, 06-16-2010 - 3:07pm
I do think 5 year old should know better, but he may not have the self control to always do what he should. I think boys more often than girls can have this problem. I wonder if his mom can see warning signs that aggressive behavior is coming. I know that Joey starts to get that way when he is tired sometimes. I hope the mom can work on it with him and that he moves past this stage quickly and it doesn't affect your friendship.
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