? for tose with older ones

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? for tose with older ones
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Tue, 06-22-2010 - 4:56pm

Title is supposed to be Those!


I am an only child so I do not know what is it like to have a sibling and all that comes with that.

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Registered: 04-19-2005
Tue, 06-22-2010 - 11:37pm

I wish I had some advice for you... I expect to be dealing with the same thing soon enough so I look forward to hearing what the others have to say.

I think that yes she is likely getting some of that from what Cole is watching but who knows. Noah likes to watch Phineous and Ferb and I detest that show specifically because of the sassiness that is portrayed. I hope it gets better for you :)


 


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Wed, 06-23-2010 - 12:15am

In answer to your specific questions:
1) It could easily be from the shows Cole watches, things she overhears him say with friends, etc. First kids lead much more sheltered lives than older kids, so the younger ones get exposed to a whole lot more in general and it's earlier.

2) Totally normal relationship. Yes, there are kids out there who never pick on each other, but most siblings bug each other at least some of the time.

3) I'd probably try to explain by first telling her we don't say that because it's unkind, then give her something else unkind she can equate it with (like if you've made the same point over a word like stupid or dumb, because then she can put it in the same category). I'd also ask her where she heard it and what she thought it meant. A lot of times they're just parroting things in what they think are appropriate situations without knowing an exact meaning.

4) Daddy comes into play because she loves him and wants his respect. If she spent most of her time with Daddy, then she'd say the same thing about Mommy. We want people to like us and not have others tell them the less than flattering moments of our lives, so it's probably the same thing.

FWIW, sassiness seems to go in phases with my kids. Just try to be consistent and explain constantly and hopefully it will be a short-lived phase.



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Wed, 06-23-2010 - 12:22am

Amie,

I am not Reagan but you always have such a clear way of explaining things and an awesome approach! Thank you :) you ROCK!


 


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Thu, 06-24-2010 - 9:29am
Thanks Amie.
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Tue, 06-29-2010 - 5:21pm

Amie .. ALWAYS gives the best advice! She can always put her thoughts into words so well. :-)

I agree with what she said for sure! Someone said .. the 'age of your kids', is often based on the age of your oldest. That is SOOO true in my family ... Koben at 3-4 was still watching little kids shows yet, Brantzen started LOVING shows like Phineas and Ferb at age 3 .. and basically skipped Blue's Clues and many shows like that. The younger kids DEFINITELY grow up sooner, and of course .. emulate what they either hear their older sibs say/do or things they see on TV. :-/

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