15 ?pregnant? Advice NEEDED

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Registered: 08-19-2007
15 ?pregnant? Advice NEEDED
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Sun, 08-19-2007 - 1:50am
Okay, can someone please help me on this one. I need some advice. Okay, My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. I was a virgin at the time BUT we did it. So like I was saying, we did it and everything was fine, the next month my period came and I was happy to atleast see that IT arrived. So it was a normal month but it became the next month and the family had some problems and I was under ALOT of stress and my period DID NOT arrive. My first thought was "can I be pregnant?" I was trying to find really good reasons why I can't be. I have this medical book and I did research and nothin seemed to help me enough to grasp what I am goin through. Next thing I thought was "Oh stress!!" So I went on with the month awaiting it. My period never came. So now its another month and still no sign of my period. I don't think that I am still stressed. I hope that it is just stress. But here is more detail to the situation so someone can give me advice. When he and I were havin sex he had a condom on and he did not ejeculate, because we had to leave/ we didnt finish. He asked to finish but I was too scared to even go near him. I bled a little but i think that is just because i was a virgin. I can't ask my parents for money for a pregnancy test from the drug store because they want to know want receips ans to see exactly what i bought. I think that's out. SO SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME OUT.

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Registered: 12-15-2005
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 7:20am

Oh Sweetie... I know you're scared.

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 10:36pm
oh sweety.... i would advice u to take the test... u can ask a friend that u really trust to buy it for u or to lend u the money.... or go to ur dr.... they cant tell ur parents... if he had a condom n didnt ejaculate... most likely ur not pregnant... but u should still take a test if ur period doesnt come soon.... it could still be stress... well i hope things work out.... God bless u... n take care....
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Registered: 07-23-2007
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 3:58am
Go to your local walk in clinic, they do them for free there. It only takes a couple of minutes. It'll be totally worth it.
Have you thought about whether or not your keeping it if you are pregnant? They only do abortions up until 13 weeks.
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Registered: 08-28-2007
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 8:16pm

Hi hun,
I hope by now you have found a way to test, but I just wanted you to know that almost the exact same thing happened to me when I lost my virginity. We were responsible, like you, and used a condom, but I was so stressed out with worries of getting pregnant that I didn't get my period for several months after (even though it turned out I wasn't pregnant). It also doesn't help that at your age your body is still undergoing hormonal fluctuations that may cause your period to be irregular. Please update us as to what has happened since you posted - we care! :-)

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Registered: 06-06-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 12:06am
So I'm thinking if you can't find a way to buy a pregnancy test, you're pretty much screwed unless you can find someone or someway to get to a Plan Parenthood clinic - I think they do them for free. If you go another month without you period, you're going to have to tell your parents. The first tri-mester is the most critical. You have to start being extra careful. I know it's scary but they ARE your parents and even though they'll freak out - it won't be the end of the world. Take a few deep breaths, think about friends that have vehicles - look for a Plan Parenthood closest to you and all of that. Considering he was wearing a condom and didn't finish, the chances that you're pregnant are low but not gone. Pre-ejaculation can still get you pregnant - it just depends on how durable the condom was...Good luck and be careful
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Registered: 08-06-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 12:14am
I graduated in 2002 and in school the local nurse if you go talk to her they might have pregnancy test there and it is cofidental they dont have to tell you parents but they will advise you about birth control and etc. The only time school will call your parents if your hurt or if you trying to hurt youself or others or if there abuse at home and also discapline (mispelled) problems or I think you can talk to you counseler to and you conversation with her are kept between you and her good luck
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Registered: 08-27-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 12:45am
if you call the kids help phone they will have a list of numbers and places in your area where you can get free pregnancy testing. if you dont feel like doing that just look up your local planned parenthood. also many walk in clinics do them aswell.. good luck! but i wouldnt stress too much...by the sounds of it you have nothing to worry about..your young and your period and be very unpredictable also combined with stress. but just to be sure i would get a test done as soon as possible:) have you thought about what you would do if you found out you were?? i found out i was pregnant pretty young too so if you want to talk let me know! good luck :):)
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Registered: 08-28-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 5:58am

Hiya Hunni.

With what you have said it doesn't sound like you are pregnant as i am always missing periods from doing lots of sports and maybe even getting stressed. When i was 17 i went to a family planning centre and they do a test for free. Go with a friend as it can be really scary on your own.

Good Luck and Take care.
Mika xxxx

Mommy to Mason, Morgan, Eddie, Lilly-Anne, Elli

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Registered: 08-10-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 11:02pm
Well let me first commend you on being responsible by wearing protection,That is very important.I don't know how things are now because so much has changed over the years but I think planned parenthood has free pregnancy testing and they are discreet as far as patient confidentiality is concerned.I became pregnant with my daughter at 15 yrs old and back then they helped me tremendously.The chances are slim that you are pregnant because you wore a condom but just so that you are informed a man does not have to ejaculate to get you pregnant so always keep that in mind through out your future encounters honey.If you ever need to talk about anything you can always e mail me.
Marlena
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Registered: 05-19-2006
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 4:59am

Do you have some good friend that can keep secrets for you. Do you know someone that can drive you to the clinic to get a preg. test. Don't buy those store bought preg. test because some are not as acurate as others are. Go get a blood test done it you can get a ride.

When I found out I was pregnant I was 16 and I was scared also. I went to get a blood test done so that I would know for sure and my sister in law took me. She was someone I knew I could trust and she took me to the free clinic and they ran a blood test and sure enough I was pregnant.

If you ask for a blood test they will know for sure if you are pregnant because the blood test shows exactly if the prengnancy hormone is there. And it can also tell how many months or weeks you should be at.

I really hope everything works out for you. Keep your head up. And be safe next time if your not pregnant. Always use a condom. And if it break make him get up and put another one on. Make sure he use one because some boys slip then off during sex and you never know.

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