1st poss. preg after misc. Scared like h
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1st poss. preg after misc. Scared like h
| Sun, 07-09-2006 - 9:31am |
I had a misc at the end of March this year and we've been trying ever since my obgyn ok'd it. I think I'm preg again (got a very faint secound line on a preg test) I think I have symptoms and I'm pretty sure I'm passed due (Irregular). I had a bit of brown show last night and I was up most of the night with a stomach ache and cramps which I have confirmed (thank god !) this am was definately something I ate. I knew I'd be nervous but I never realized the sheer terror and helplessness I'd feel. As, well my friend came by last Sunday to tell me the good news after she also had a misc last year and Tuesday she called to tell me she had misc again after 6 weeks. I'm going to have the blood test tomorrow morning, wish me luck! I realize spotting is normal but that's what I thought last time and it did me no good. So I know that no matter what I tell myself now that every bit of colour I see is going to make me want to run screaming. I was so scared last night that I couldn't breath! I know if I discuss this with anyone around me the'll just give me the old "don't worry things will work out the way they're supposed to". Bullsht! God I hate it when people tell you that "everything happens for a good reason"! So that makes it all ok right? Asholes! Sorry! I know someone ot there knows how I feel..?
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| Sun, 07-09-2006 - 10:25am |
My goodness I know exactly how you feel. I to had a misc the end of April. I know what the fear feels like. I haven't gotten preg since but(hoping for this month conception) the thought of it happening again is a bad terror feeling. And yes I heard my share of Everything happens for a reason. And with all the "Everything will work out the way it's suppose to". In a sense it does for them but what about the way we are left feeling a month or two later when it's still something so real that happened. And we are still wondering with the "What if's"? I have to say I have a very good support group within my family but..... My husband is really great but I still don't think he can totally understand the lose. He was really sad too, but doesn't seem to have the drive like I do to try again. I have one Child she is eight with my husband and we didn't really plan on having anymore because his son from his firt marriage always lived with us up until about a year or so ago. And when I was preg. this last time it made me realize how I guess I do want another. My daughter is so good with our neice of eleven months old.I don't have any concerns with her being a great sister. Plus I'm not getting any younger. I'll be 31 next week. Plus my husbands business is doing well and I'm currently able to stay home. Which I love now that the summer is here and school is out. I guess what we need to do is just let people say what they think they need to because I think they say those things to try to comfort us. I mean really what is there to say it's a very sad thing. So I really hope everything goes good tomorrow when you go to the doctors. Let us know. Your in my thoughts. Tracy
| Sun, 07-09-2006 - 11:10am |
I'm going to be 34 next month. We have no kids yet and we've been trying fo a couple of years now. Not only that but my husbands family (on both sides) has not one grand child as yet and we are the only candidates. Talk about pressure! Thanks for the support and good luck to you a well. I was told by my OBGYN that the first 3 months after being pregnant are your most fertile because your body wants to be back in the same state or something. So I'll tell you the same thing that everyone keeps telling me; You're young still, so keep trying. I'll let you know how my test go's, wish me luck!

