2 weeks late and afraid to test

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Registered: 09-19-2003
2 weeks late and afraid to test
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Fri, 09-19-2003 - 3:03am
Hi,

I've been going through this for six years. I give up, start school figuring we couldn't get pg. I'm doing really well in college and bam I'm now 2 weeks late. I really don't want to mess up school and I've obsessed during the last six years enough for everyone on the board. I have had false positives in the past which the docs think was due to cysts.

So my husband and I decided to say to heck with it and moved on with our lives. It's been really hard lately because several of my friends are either pg or just had a child. I do not want to psyche myself into thinking I'm pg if I'm not. I stopped tracking everything a year ago but I have been tired with some wacky muscle pull feelings in my lower abdomen. I snuck in a pg test this past Sunday which was BFN. I didn't look to see if it was expired and can't remember when I bought it but it was some time in the last year. When you get two or three false positives over the years you tend not to trust the tests anyway. My lmp was 8/7 and as of today I'm officially 2 weeks late. I missed my yearly last year so I don't know if I should call the doc or not. My husband wants me to wait especially since we have had so many disapointments in the past. I really do not want to go through thinking I'm pg only to find out my body is playing tricks on me. I usually have 24 to 28 day cycles and do not count it late until the 29th day. What do you suggest I do. Should I wait or call the doc and schedule a yearly asking for a blood test? I'm 30 years old and don't think I can emotionally handle another disapointment. I won't allow this to get to me and my husband is doing the best he can to be supportive but it's hard for him too. Thanks for any help or advice. Good luck to all who are trying!!!

Shellie

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Fri, 09-19-2003 - 8:41am
Shellie, I'm so sorry for your tough times. This is going to sound strange (and very hard to do) but try not to think as though you might be pregnant. Call the doc asking to get in because your having some AF trouble. Say there is a possiblitity you might be pg but that you don't have a very positive history. Go in thinking it's just a doctor's appointment nothing else. Try to keep yourself in that frame of mind. I know, it's going to be extremely hard, but give it a try. That way, you can get into see the doc and they will run a blood test just to be sure. If you go in expecting it to be negative, then it will just be a wonderful surprise when it comes out positive. If it comes out negative, then maybe it wont be as disappointing because the test was just a base that needed to be covered. I know this sounds nuts, but the mind is a very powerful thing and the stress of not knowing can be unbearable.

Are you having any pg symptoms? Remember, if you are pg, you can still go to school. In fact, if you are it's really perfect timing because it will be a May baby.

Good luck to you and try not to stress too much. Call your doc and find out for sure what's going on. You are a strong woman that can handle anything that comes along. Keep telling yourself that. I am strong, I am strong, I am strong.

Susan

ttc#2 c2 (c1 m/c) cd21 dpo9

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Registered: 09-19-2003
Fri, 09-19-2003 - 12:09pm
Thanks for your reply. I don't want to think about the perfect timing even though it would be amazing timing since I had planned before all this to take next summer off from school. I'll be transferring to UF next fall. Baby sitters wouldn't be a problem and I'd have the first 3 months with the child. All the more reason to not think of it. I'm having some symptoms but I try to ignore them. I've had symptoms in the past. My body does not handle hormones very well so I get pms and sore breasts as well as migranes and some lightheadness with my normal periods although none of those have occured as usual. I did get my ususal emotional self 2 weeks before my period was due that was 4 weeks ago.I did have more facial breakouts than usual. I normally get one or two but this time I had five or six. I also get the veiny look before my periods in my breasts but now its going on three weeks. My breasts have been tingly and I've had some low blood sugar issues in the last two weeks. I always have to pee a lot because I have not so good kidneys from birth, but it does seem I go more. One thing that has been weird is the amount of cervical fluid. Last year when I kept track I would get a lot of cervical fluid during supposed ovulation but not much after and the last week or two there has been a lot Mostly milky white or clear and stringy. I'll call the doc and make an appointment once again thank you very much for your reply. Good luck to you in your ttc.

Shellie