20 and Terrified

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Registered: 12-06-2007
20 and Terrified
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Fri, 12-07-2007 - 12:00am

This is the first time I've posted here so I don't really know how this works. The only thing I know is that I have to talk to someone, someone who isn't biased towards the situation. I am terrified out of my mind and I need another perspective, an honest opinion based on facts. Here is the run down:

-I just turned 20 years old
-I am not currently dating this guy anymore, but we occasionally have sex
-Last period 10/31 through 11/06
-Had sex with this same guy on 11/14
-I'm not on BC and he pulled out (STUPID, I know, trust me, I know)
-Should have gotten period around 12/03, 12/04, somewhere in there
-It is now 12/06 and NO PERIOD
-I am never dead on with starting my period, but it is always around 26, 27 days between periods
-I am in college so we have finals coming up, but I'm not really stressing over them
-12/01 spotted once (seriously, just like two drops on TP)
-12/03 spotted once (a little heavier, but stopped within ten minutes)
-12/04 spotted once (a little on TP)

WHAT IS THIS??? I am freaking out, which is probably not helping with the whole stress-level-throwing-off-period thing. I can NOT be pregnant. I mean that. This would be one of the worst things in the world at this point in my life.

I've been doing a lot of research and, I don't know. I've got mixed thoughts about whether I am pregnant or not!!

My boobs aren't sore or sensitive or fuller, I haven't been nauseous in so long I can't remember, I am not going to the bathroom any more than usual, my temperature hasn't risen, I haven't gained weight (although, I would only be less than a month along so this isn't really an issue), my sense of smell hasn't gotten more sensitive, I haven't been dizzy or fatigued, I don't have odd cravings for things I don't eat or repulsion from things I do eat, if anything, my food intake has gone down (due to worrying about this and because of lack of time between classes)..

Everything logical, looking at those things I just said, indicates that I am NOT preggers, but...I've missed my period by days now (more days than is normal), and I am spotting. I have never, NEVER spotted before, so that is very unusual.

I seriously need some help because I am FREAKING out, out of my MIND. Please, please, please help me!!!




Edited 12/7/2007 1:44 am ET by browneyes120587

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Fri, 12-07-2007 - 5:01am

First of all, when all conditions are perfect, you have about a 20% chance of conception on any given cycle.

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Fri, 12-07-2007 - 5:31am

I am a 25 day cycle girl. I've been charting for more than a year and it has never been off, until last month when it was 10 days late. It happens, and for no reason. I'm sending you AF vibes as well! I wish you the best!


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Registered: 12-06-2007
Fri, 12-07-2007 - 1:11pm
But what about the spotting? That's what really scares me. I mean, I saw that usually that means it is implantation bleeding, but it took like 20 days after sex for that to happen, so..the implantation would have taken place earlier, right? But..I don't know. I'm so confused and scared!!
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Fri, 12-07-2007 - 1:42pm
Implantation bleeding would have happened earlier.

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Fri, 12-07-2007 - 3:08pm
Oh Sweetie.... sending you a ton of vibes.

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Fri, 12-07-2007 - 6:27pm
I know where you are coming from. I have been where you are right now, and I wasn't pregnant. As you get older you AF changes, and sometime when you don't think that you are stressed, she still maybe late. I didn't use to spot either, but as I got older I started about two days before I start. Like the others said go get a pg test from the Dollar Tree, they work just as good as the $20 ones do, then you will know for sure and you can stop stress and focus on your finals. Sending you hugs.
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Fri, 12-07-2007 - 11:40pm
The best thing for you to do is take the test if you haven't already! Good luck Gurl!!!
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Registered: 03-04-2007
Sat, 12-08-2007 - 7:45pm

I agree with everyone else, you should definitely take a test. You could be or you could very well not be pg. You said you were under a lot of stress right now---sometimes that can delay or affect your period and make it irregular. Whatever the outcome, I wish you lots of luck. Keep us informed!


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Sat, 12-08-2007 - 9:26pm

any faint line is a postive pregnancy test and should darken over a 4 day period. the only thing that will give u a false positive test line is use of fertility drugs
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Registered: 12-06-2007
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 12:49am

so...just keeping you updated on this mess

It is day 5 or 6 of having no period and, while I am much more calmed down about the whole issue, I am also still freaking out internally.

I still haven't had any symptoms. No nausea, no breast swelling or soreness, no headaches, no changes in my apatite, no mood changes..NOTHING like that

And I haven't spotted since the day before I wrote this first post, which was like three days ago or something like that.

BUT I also still haven't gotten my period yet either!! GRR. I know I just need to take a hpt but I am so scared to do that, and I know like everyone that works at every drug and grocery store in this itty bitty town, so that would be awkward (really not an important issue here, I know).

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