40 and 1st pregnancy - when do I tell?

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Registered: 12-17-2006
40 and 1st pregnancy - when do I tell?
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Sun, 12-17-2006 - 6:24pm
I am 40 and pregnant with my first (& last) baby. Since I know there can be many complications with a pregnancy at my age - when do I tell family and friends about the pregancy? I am 9 weeks pregnant.
thank you!
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Registered: 09-27-2006
Sun, 12-17-2006 - 7:36pm

Congratulations on your first baby!! This has to be a very exciting time and I'm sure you are wanting to tell everyone. Good news is that I have heard the risk of miscarriage drops dramatically after the nine week mark. Have you seen a doc yet? I'd say if you have seen a doc and everything looks okay so far I'd tell them now or maybe if you are a little worried wait unti the first trimester is over at 12 weeks and then tell. Good luck. Have a wonderdful 9 months!!

Annie
TTC #3

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 4:31am

Hello,


CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!


I have heard different thoughts. Many people wait until the 1st trimester is over just in case something happens. My thought is that I would tell closest family because if something were to happen,

TTC to conceive #1 officially since 2001. Dh had Varicocele surgery 2005 and has low sperm count. Dh tried Clomid..it didnt really help, HSG in 1999 and 2005, Charting since Jan 2006, <

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Registered: 12-18-2006
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 2:35pm

Hey, Jazzy Girl!

I am in a similar situation. I am 39 - soon to be 40 and 10 weeks pregnant:). But...

A little over a year ago, we were pregnant (1st time) - but miscarried at 13 weeks. We had JUST told our families and friends of our great news ONE week before we lost our baby. I am not telling this to worry you, but to tell you that I really wished I had told everyone early - so they could have shared in all the excitment and joy - before they shared our sadness.

It was the hardest thing I have ever gone through but to this day I am overwhelmed by the support, love and understanding we recieved. Not to mention the 8 million other women I knew who shared with me that I was not alone.

So please share your great news with anyone you would want a hug from or a shoulder to lean on if the worst happened. Don't save all their love and support for tradgedy only. You have much better odds of delivering a healthy, intelligent, beautiful baby than any other outcome.

Call your mom or whoever today and tell them why you want them to know "this soon". Wouldn't you love a call from your best friend who told you she felt silly telling you she is only 4 weeks along, but it was important that you share the whole experience with her.

Who wouldn't love to feel special and connected to your child - before he/she makes her way into our wourld.

Congrats & have a great pregnancy.

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Registered: 01-17-2006
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 4:42pm

They usually say around 12 weeks the

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