Absolutley terrified!!!!
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| Wed, 09-17-2003 - 11:59pm |
I've actually been pregnant before. When I was 22, I was engaged to a guy I had been dating for 7 years. We were going through horrible problems (he was bipolar and abusive), plus it was around Christmas AND finals AND three of my older relatives died within days of each other. I had a miscarriage without even knowing I was pregnant. I remember that I had had morning sickness, but I had just begun a new package of bc pills (bc pills always gave me morning sickness). Because of all the drama, I don't really remember how my body felt. The miscarriage was a total surprise.
Like I said, I'm 25 and unmarried. I have a degree and work in a lab making chicken scratch. I live paycheck to paycheck and have no money in the bank. I've been in a monogamous relationship for 7 months. We really care about each other but have yet to say the "L word." I am actaully head over heels in love with this guy, but he was hurt very badly in his last relationship and has requested that we move very slowly. I've met his parents on a couple of occasions, but he still hasn't taken me over to their house for dinner or anything. I have no problem with this, because I think he's worth the wait, and I definitely can identify with him being hurt so badly he needs to protect himself.
But I'm terrified. When I had my miscarriage, my fiancee flipped out and dumped me. If I really am pregnant, I'm so scared this guy is going to do the same. I know he isn't ready for this...hell, I'm not ready for this! I was hoping to have a few more years of reckless youthful abandon before I had insta-family. Actaully, this guy is incredibly wonderful, and I can't actually imagine him flipping out the way my ex did...but I can't be sure that he's going to be all smiles and support either. I'm so confused. This just isn't the way I pictured my life at 25.
Any advice anyone can offer would be greatly appreciated. Maybe I'm totally jumping the gun, and I'm not actually pregnant. But I'm not going lie...I feel WEIRD. I've had plenty of crazy periods and funny discharges and god-awful cramps. But NOTHING has ever felt THIS weird. That's why I'm so convinced. When should I test again? Should I just go ahead and make a doctor's appointment?
Thanks guys!
Sherry

You may even want to tell him now so that you can go through this together. You are obviously scared and freaked, so why shouldn't you be able to confide in him, because he is part of this also, whether he likes it or not! You didn't do this by yourself!!! Then you two can discuss your feelings, what you think/want to do about it, etc. I don't think (especially if he really loves you) that he will totally panic and feel "trapped" if he sees that you are just as scared about it...it's not like you did this on purpose or anything! It's up to you how you handle it, but I just thought that I could maybe just say a couple words that would possibly help you out! Keep me posted! Good luck! Like my mom always tells me when I'm freaking out about things "things always have a way of working out!" I didn't believe her in the past, but I've seen it happen! Just have faith that everything will work out!