AF came today...need advise.

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Registered: 05-08-2003
AF came today...need advise.
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Fri, 08-29-2003 - 8:13am
For those of you who have been following my trials and tribulations over the past few days, AF came this morning with avengence. So sad. For those of you that don't know, here's my story and maybe you can offer me some advise as to what to do next.

I'm always very regular, every 27-28 days (mostly 27). The only time that I haven't been regular was when, of course, I was pg with my ds, for a couple of months when I stopped BFing, and last month I started at 24 days in stead of 27, but I thought it was just a fluke. So anyway, this month we started trying. I went back to my regular 27-28 day cycle so it would help me know better when I was going to ovulate. My lmp was 7/27. We bd on 8/5, 8/6, 8/7, 8/9, and 8/10. My AF was due on 8/23. She didn't come. In fact, she didn't arrive til today, 8/29. What's up with that? How can it be that I'm sooo regular and then on the one month we decide to start ttc#2 she's 6 days late. It's like a cruel joke. Could maybe I have been pg, then m/c?

Anyway, here's where I need the help. I want to start charting this month. Mainly because I'm not sure when I ovulate now seeing as how I've had a 24 day cycle in July and a 33 day cycle in August. I don't know what to think. How does charting work? I've never charted before. What am I going to be looking for? What's normal temps during cycle, what do I look for cm wise, ect.? What type of thermometer should I use when taking temp. I have an ear thermometer for my son, but everytime you put it in your ear it gives you a different reading.

Anyway, in advise would be appreciated. I'm pretty disappointed. I wouldn't have been if AF would have showed up on time, or even a couple of days late because it is our first month of trying, but when she was 6 days late, I had almost convinced myself I was pg. What other reason could it have been?

Thanks for listening and any advise.

Susan

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Registered: 05-20-2003
Fri, 08-29-2003 - 9:35am
I am sorry Susan! I just posted to you in the one titled "I am so confused" this morning asking you for an update! I know what you mean. If freaking AF showed up on time then you could get down to the business of next month trying. However this week late tease is just mean! I don't know about you but if I get AF and am not pregnant at least there will be relief from my mood swings, and insatiable hunger! I must have gained this week I have been starving! ANyway I have no idea about charting but many women on here use fertilityfriend.com and seem happy with it. Good luck and I am sure next month will be your lucky one!! Jamie
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Fri, 08-29-2003 - 10:31am
Thank you Jamie. I can't believe how upset I am. I knew starting out that it might take a couple of months. I guess it's partly the disappointment of not being pg and partly the release of the stress I carried with me all week not knowing. Anyway, trying to look forward to next month, but constantly have thoughts like...why was I late this month, maybe I was pg but baby wasn't able to stay attached due to my c/s scar, etc? Very negative, non-helpful thoughts keep running through my head. I have always gotten pg so easily. When I was young I got pg unexpectly due to a defective condom. I ended up m/c baby (probably due to the high stress, it was an unwanted pregnancy), then, when I got pregnant with my son, my husband and I weren't on BC but used natural family planning, that one time, my dh didn't get pulled out in time (I know, TMI), but he still pull out. I got pregnant and had a beautiful baby boy. Now, we are, for the first time planning a child and I guess I kind of expected to get pregnant right away. Then, when I was late (which I never am) I kinda just thought I was. Oh, well, I know people have a much harder time than this and I feel bad about even feeling bad, but I do.

Good luck to you. Keep me posted. I'm sending all my positive vibes to you. Best wishes.

Susan

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Registered: 05-20-2003
Fri, 08-29-2003 - 10:42am
I am sorry and I can understand how you feel. I am an otherwise helthy 27 year old who ovulates regularly but has had 2 m/c's After my last in june doc suggested genetic testing and a histosonogram which I still haven't done. He said it was up to me. Frankly I want to believe that I am a victim of bad luck, and not just poorly equipped to carry a child.

I see over and over how women unexpectedly get pregnant and when they try it is so hard that they wished they were more grateful when it was so easy, even if it was unplanned.

To be honest I wasn't trying this month but I have this sick feeling that until I do have a live birth I won't feel truly better.

Sorry for babbling but it's nice to know others who get it especially when often friends, family and SO's do not.

Take care and buckets o' baby dust to you! ;)

Jamie

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Fri, 08-29-2003 - 11:20am
I'm sorry to hear that Susan. I know we've both been hoping for this. I know what you mean about being late and not being pg, it's so confusing especially when you're never late. I still haven't started and don't think I'm pg, of course because my dr didn't say anything yesterday so I really don't have that much hope. I'm just waiting for AF to start so we can try again. Just let her start and get it over with, stop teasing me. When you're late it just throws everything off, you start later, you ovulate later and everything along with it is pushed back. I asked a question this morning on the charts discussion about how to start charting and when to take temps and when to read them as well. I've looked at some other people's on here and have no idea how to read them. But I assume I need to start AF before I can start charting. Hopefully I'll get a response and I'll let you know. Keep your head up and think positive.
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Registered: 08-12-2003
Fri, 08-29-2003 - 1:13pm
Im sorry ! I know how fustrating it is I have 4 and when we started TTc #5 after a mc I knew it would happen just like the rest NO trying at all! Well was I disappointed now im on my 5th month TTC !

www.fertilityfriends.com

read and set you up a chart , check your temps everymorn before getting out of bed and record them , check your cm to. FF has a hand book to show you how. This will help you to know when you O ! Goodluck !