Am I having to many children?

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Registered: 09-19-2003
Am I having to many children?
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Fri, 09-19-2003 - 12:09pm
Hello

I am a mother of 4 children already ages 8, 4, 3, and 2. I just found out that I am 6 weeks pregnant!! I don't know what to do!! My husband is fine with it, but I just started going back yo school and have a fairly new full time job. I am afraid ends won't meet or I will neglect my other children. I already work 40 hours a week and go to school 6 hours and I spend my weekends trying to study and cram as much time in for my children and my husband. I go to work every day feeling guilty, but I have to work. I wanted another baby but just not right now, I quess I just need some reasureance that everything will work out okay. I am so afriad of what everyone will say when they find out that I'm pregnant again!? Is anyone else out there in kind of the same situation?

Please put my mind at ease.
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Registered: 08-25-2003
Fri, 09-19-2003 - 12:22pm
Children are such a blessing from God!Who cares what anyone else says.Just be happy and enjoy all of your blessings.I have 5 children ages 11 ,9 ,7 ,3 & 2.The oldest and youngest are girls and my boys are in the middle.And I want one more baby very bad.I know that when I finally get a BFP that there will be a few people that will have something to say about it but it is my life.Remember the Bible says that God doesn't put any more on us than we can handle.So you'll be fine.Remember you are truely blessed.Keep me updated and e-mail me if you want.I've not met anyone else with alot of kids like me.LOL

April
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Registered: 04-24-2003
Fri, 09-19-2003 - 12:24pm
I envy women like you who can balance family, home and work. It sounds like you are doing a great job and I wouldnt get down on yourself! Congrats to you...

Jackie TTC#3

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Registered: 09-14-2003
Sat, 09-20-2003 - 5:41pm
I have a daughter that is almost 3, a full time job and 2 night classes. Sorta like your situation...I agree with Jackie that you are doing great with all that you do and 4 kids to boot. My stay-at-home friends talk about "those" people (they always say that they don't mean me) who spend all their time working and not with their kids as terrible. I feel like I am setting a good example for my daughter that you can have family life, work hard and achieve things that you want. I mean that not to offend my stay-at-home friends but I never judge what they do as "terrible" like they do to me. And I would love nothing more than to add another child to my busy life...I feel that I make up for missing time by doing quality time with every second we are together. Hope that helps and good luck to you.

Lisa

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Registered: 01-04-2003
Sat, 09-20-2003 - 11:20pm
I am not in your situation, I only have one child but I don't think that you have too many children. If you are trying to make ends meet yourself and not just relying on welfare like some of the women that I know do, then it is nobody's business how many children you have. You said that you go to school for six hours, have you ever considered online classes? I am currently taking online classes to finish my BA. I am still able to get pell grants and student loans and I take the classes when I can. It's really easy. It's on your time. If you want to do it when the kids go to bed, then that's when you do it. Also, have you ever considered starting a day care. It might be better financially to do a daycare than to try to work full time and pay for daycare for your other children. I don't know where you live or the laws in your state, but where I live, you can watch up to 5 children besides your own without being licensed. Just some ideas. Good luck to you!




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Registered: 08-10-2003
Sun, 09-21-2003 - 12:24am
I'm working on #4 right now. I am only 21, and I have a DD who will be 5 on Oct 10, and twin DD's who will be 3 on Dec. 24. If I would have had one DS then maybe I wouldn't want another, but I would like to hope we will have at least one DS. My oldest has been telling me that she wants a brother...so we'll see what we can do. LOL I think the main reason though, is she gets tired of her sisters always wanting all her jewlrey and other girly stuff...but maybe she don't realize that even with a brother, her sisters are still going to be around. I just keep telling her, just one more year, and they will understand better about who's stuff is who's....
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Sun, 10-19-2003 - 7:07pm
Thank you VERY much for your Kind words, you have just renewed my faith again and reminded me why we were all put here, and by the way if this one is not a girl we may try again! God Bless you and your family and may HE keep all of you in your presence. I aplogise for not responding sooner.

God Bless

Avi

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Registered: 07-18-2003
Sun, 10-19-2003 - 7:24pm
I came from a family of six kids, me being the second to youngest. On my dad's side of the family, three of his five brothers and sisters have over 6 kids, on my mom's side two of the six (one died at 2 months old) so I guess that makes seven, have 5 kids. My Science teacher my 8th grade year had 11 kids, and now, 6 years later has just had his 15th, he has about four sets of twins and one set of triplets......I want a Soccer team!!! For those of you who don't know how many players there are on a soccer field, there's 11 counting in the goalie, so therefore to have a "Soccer Team" you'll needs subs, so about 15:) I want a huge family....my husband agrees with me, we're both huge soccer fan's and soccer players, so having a huge family wouldn't bother us! Also, who cares if you're having "too many kids" they are yours, your blessings, your responsibility, if anyone ever complains, ask them if they'd like to take them all for a day or two, and if they freak out or refuse, than you can tell them, where to go and how to get there cause it's not any of their business how many kids you have or want to have!!! We were put here to "multiply and replenish the earth" and for those of you who have big families, you're all on the right track!:) Good luck to you all.

Shana

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