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am i pregnant?
| Wed, 06-13-2007 - 3:08pm |
i had sex april 27th, bleed on the 29th for 2 days. didnt have a period in may and didnt have one in the beginning of june. on june 12 i was spotting and through the day the bleeding got heavier. today it is not as heavy as my usual periods. whats going on? im only 14 and scared

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Listen honey,
I can understand that lonely place you're in right now. I've been there. I remember being 14 and 15 and trying to conspire with my friend how to get pregnant by some guy cause we wanted to have a baby. That was the stupidest thing I could've ever done. Today, nine years later, I look back, and I'm thankful I didn't get pregnant as a teenager, especially with how promiscuous I was. I lost my virginity at 14 and even today, I sometimes I wish I had waited.
Motherhood is the most honorable occupation in this life that any women could ask for. Babies are a blessing from God, not an accessory to life. Wanting a baby, because you want a baby is selfish, especially if you're not prepare to give that baby a loving, nurturing environment, with two parents. Yes, this country has made it glamorous to have pre-marital sex and have babies out of wedlock, but it's always better if you wait. And even if you decide in five or six years to have a baby, at least you would have graduated from high school (although it's better to graduate from college, because it's very hard, nearly impossible to get a job without a college degree).
Honey, you don't want to have a baby and regret it later. You want to have a strong sense of self, and be secure in your own skin before you have a baby. Aside from the financial responsibility of a baby, babies need emotional support too. This little person is someone who you'll eventually have to teach to go potty, feed themselves, count to 20, tie their shoes, cross the street, and all the things your parents taught you. I don't think all of your friends would desert you, but you don't want the added responsibility right now. Enjoy your teenage years. Enjoy dating, roller skating, bowling, going to the movies and to parties. I'm not saying that all ends when you have a baby, but once you have one, you have to find and pay for a babysitter. In the meantime, if you're going to continue to have sex, use condoms. If you can, talk to your parents about getting on birth control. There are so many options.
I hope that you don't feel that anyone came down on you too hard. Everyone just wants to help and doesn't want you to do something that you're not ready for.
Allison
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