am i pregnant?

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Registered: 06-13-2007
am i pregnant?
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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 3:08pm
i had sex april 27th, bleed on the 29th for 2 days. didnt have a period in may and didnt have one in the beginning of june. on june 12 i was spotting and through the day the bleeding got heavier. today it is not as heavy as my usual periods. whats going on? im only 14 and scared
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Registered: 02-19-2007
Tue, 06-19-2007 - 7:17pm
I am sorry lisa. I did not mean to scare you. With all the pain i went though I love both of my girls. and I would love to do it again
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Registered: 02-19-2007
Tue, 06-19-2007 - 7:28pm
Yeah you seen your friend go through it, but when it is your turn to give birth you are not gonna want to do it again. You are going to lose all of your friends because no one is going to want to hang out with you. Just because your sister is enganged, and your friends have boyfriends dont let it get you down. Don't let people peer prepruse you into doing things like having sex or even a baby. You are not going to have time for yourself when you have a baby cause the baby is going to need you every second of the day and night.
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Registered: 07-17-2006
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 10:10am
Ya'll are now just being downright mean to this girl. Stop chastising her. I know she's 14, but apparently she's no stranger to the adversities of teen pregnancy. And on top of it, what women isn't afraid of the pain of childbirth. I think everyone knows it's painful. Maybe more painful for some than others. No, I am not an advocate of teen pregnancy, but I think you all have made your point. Are you trying to make her feel stupid or something? It's one thing to help someone realize the mistakes they may make, but with the way you're talking about pregnancy and motherhood, you almost sound as if you regret it. My lord, why won't ya'll just drop this thread?
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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 10:31am

Listen honey,

I can understand that lonely place you're in right now. I've been there. I remember being 14 and 15 and trying to conspire with my friend how to get pregnant by some guy cause we wanted to have a baby. That was the stupidest thing I could've ever done. Today, nine years later, I look back, and I'm thankful I didn't get pregnant as a teenager, especially with how promiscuous I was. I lost my virginity at 14 and even today, I sometimes I wish I had waited.

Motherhood is the most honorable occupation in this life that any women could ask for. Babies are a blessing from God, not an accessory to life. Wanting a baby, because you want a baby is selfish, especially if you're not prepare to give that baby a loving, nurturing environment, with two parents. Yes, this country has made it glamorous to have pre-marital sex and have babies out of wedlock, but it's always better if you wait. And even if you decide in five or six years to have a baby, at least you would have graduated from high school (although it's better to graduate from college, because it's very hard, nearly impossible to get a job without a college degree).

Honey, you don't want to have a baby and regret it later. You want to have a strong sense of self, and be secure in your own skin before you have a baby. Aside from the financial responsibility of a baby, babies need emotional support too. This little person is someone who you'll eventually have to teach to go potty, feed themselves, count to 20, tie their shoes, cross the street, and all the things your parents taught you. I don't think all of your friends would desert you, but you don't want the added responsibility right now. Enjoy your teenage years. Enjoy dating, roller skating, bowling, going to the movies and to parties. I'm not saying that all ends when you have a baby, but once you have one, you have to find and pay for a babysitter. In the meantime, if you're going to continue to have sex, use condoms. If you can, talk to your parents about getting on birth control. There are so many options.

I hope that you don't feel that anyone came down on you too hard. Everyone just wants to help and doesn't want you to do something that you're not ready for.

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 10:54am
First of all, I don't regret having my two wonderful daughters. In the case why would my husband and I are talking about having baby #3. She is to young to be thinking about raising a baby. If you have a problem with me giving my two cents that is to bad, I am 26 years old and married. I have the right to say what is on my mind.
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Registered: 07-17-2006
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 12:04pm
Being 26 and married doesn't give you the right to offend people, though. And I didn't say you regret having your kids, I said your comments make it appear that way. Darling, I read and I see you're trying for another baby, and I read that you love your girls, just your tone was contradictory, is all. I'm not condoning her behavior or her desire to have kids at 14, but she sounds a lot like me at 14, and her feelings do need to be taken into consideration, period. I don't disagree with you in that she's way too young for kids, I'm just big on tact and effective communication. And certain tones and phrases can make people take the offense. As you see with her having an answer to everything you all said.
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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 12:08pm
I was not offending her. I was just saying what was on my mind. And I think some of these people would agree with me that I have the right to say what is on my mind.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 12:17pm
I agree with you,and saw absolutely nothing offensive about what you said,anyway!
Allison
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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 12:20pm
thank you allimc
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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 1:14pm
i know my family would help me out and when im old enough im gonna get a job and the way my school works if u have a baby and u have good grades like A-B's they will give u $100 so thats another way cause im good at school i have straight a's. i know it will be hard but i think im ready for that. i know how it is to have to wake up in the middle of the night and all that cause i took care of my friends baby and my cousins so i know how that is.