am i pregnant?

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Registered: 06-13-2007
am i pregnant?
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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 3:08pm
i had sex april 27th, bleed on the 29th for 2 days. didnt have a period in may and didnt have one in the beginning of june. on june 12 i was spotting and through the day the bleeding got heavier. today it is not as heavy as my usual periods. whats going on? im only 14 and scared

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Registered: 06-13-2007
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 1:15pm
its hard not to let that stuff get to me when its there 24/7 and they dont try and hide it around me or even cut down the kissing or wutever in front of me.
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Registered: 07-17-2006
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 1:16pm

Of course you have a right to say what is on your mind, as do I, and every other living human being in this country. This has turned into some debate : )

You're taking everything I say so personally and you really shouldn't cause I'm just saying what's on my mind. Just because you and those who agree with you didn't find your words offensive, obviously someone did, and that's how all of this started in the first place.




Edited 6/20/2007 1:20 pm ET by missnia211
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Registered: 06-13-2007
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 1:29pm
yea its just hard right now for me. i dont think i am pregnant and if im not im not gonna try to get pregnant cause i do understand how hard it would be. but how am i supposed to get through this im always depressed and stressed out i stress over the little things that i know i should but it so hard. sumtimes i jsut feel like running away from here cause its hell sumtimes. i cant stand the fighting all the time then me not having that special person to talk to or to comfort me its hard at my age. i dont have to talk to my parent to get on birth control i already called the clinic i can just go up there and i have to fill out this form and i can get on it without my parents knowing
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Registered: 02-19-2007
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 1:30pm
All i know it is stupid to want a baby at the age of 14. My two daughters are going to wait until they are married to have sex and kids. It is going to mess her life up by having a kid. If you don't like me saying my two cents don't read my post than.
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Registered: 07-17-2006
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 2:00pm

I know being 14 is hard and so many of your friends are probably doing things and have this life that you wish you had, but trust me, the grass is not always greener on the other side. No one's life is perfect and we all have things that we're going to stress over and battle with internally. I know you're still rather young, but the first thing you need to realize is that you don't need a boyfriend to make you feel special or to talk to. Talk to a friend or someone in your family who's understanding. Even talking to people on here can help.

It sounds like what you're going through is normal 14 year old stuff. I have a 16 year old cousin who wants to come live with me, because she can't understand the rules her parents have. It's all normal, and you'll get through it. Let's see...at 14, I just focused on hanging out with my friends, going to the movies, hanging out on the pool, going to the mall, and just enjoying my life. That's all you need to do. HAVE FUN!!!!!! Enjoy not having responsibilites, cause trust me, once you grow up and start paying bills, it never ends. You just accumulate more bills as life goes on. I wish I was back in high school.

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Registered: 07-17-2006
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 2:12pm

It's naive of you to believe that you can make your daughters remain virgins until they are married. I'm not saying that it's not possible, and although you come across sort of brash, you're probably a very good mother and will have a talk with your children in prepubesent ages about the dangers of premarital sex, and the importance of waiting. I'm not trying to be smart, because I have the same hopes for my future children.

But in all of this, try to take into consideration that children do have opinions, whether you consider them stupid or not. And yeah, it may be "stupid" to want a baby at 14, but didn't you know at that age that you wanted to be a mother?

And please stop taking everything so personally. We all have a right to an opinion and I respect yours.

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 2:27pm
Crissy, hugs Hon.
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Registered: 07-28-2004
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 6:06pm

OMG you guys please stop going back and forth on this whole thing.. I tell ya she is 14 years old and to me she is crying out for help and came here looking for that.. She just wants someone that she can talk to and someone that will listen to her. She keeps tell us all that she just doesnt have anyone to turn to well be that someone she can turn to.. She feels all alone in this world.. Well lord let her have a shoulder to cry on for once.. If she is coming on here in hopes to find that then give that to her.. I dont feel that at 14 you should be having a baby but I just have to say that I was having sex at 14 and I felt the same way she does.. I tried to get pregnant and I had an eating disorder so I know just how she feels.. So please, and Im not trying to be rude or mean so dont take it wrong.. But just give her a safe place to come and ask for help.. This place would of helped me out a lot at her age.. Give her something I never had and maybe something you laides never had... Please...;)

Katie
Married 8/28/04
Mommy to Mason Russell 6/3/06
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