Clueless

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Wed, 08-01-2012 - 2:49pm

Every pregnancy is different, apparently, so I'm utterly clueless about whether I'm pregnant or not. I just want some outside perspective on this before I ask my husband to buy another pregnancy test.

OK, back story: all through my life, my periods were pretty steady. Start off heavy and strong, usually last a week, and always started a same about of days apart. Nursed baby #1 (I nurse all my babies) for over two years (she seriously loved nursing), during which I didn't have any period until she was about 18 months old, and then they were weak, slow, and lasted about 2 weeks. Very irregular. Convinced that the nursing was preventing me from getting pregnant, and slowed down the nursing, and finally had a regular period that reminded me of my old ones, then got pregnant. Didn't have a period at all between baby #2 and baby #3, and baby #3, like her older sister, is a heavy nurser. I didn't have a period for almost 4 solid years. Finally, back in January this year, I had a period before my husband deployed. Each of these periods were very different from my old ones. They barely started, temporarily stopped on day 2, then start up heavy and strong like normal on day 3 or so. Every period since January has been like this, with each month generally starting earlier than the month before, and always either on a Wednesday or a Friday.

Husband returned beginning of July.

Three weeks ago, I felt a twitch in my side. My immediate thought was that it was an ovulation twinge, though I've never had one before.

Last week (the week I expected my period), I started waking up tired. Not only that, but my mind has started racing at night, a symptom I usually have when I'm either pregnant or nursing all the day (and night) long. My daughter has definitely slowed down in the nursing department, so I had been getting some decent sleep before last week.

Last week, I also started exercising a lot. Probably quite stupid of me. And I've been awful hungry. On Wednesday, my husband and I went on an all-day date and skated around a couple of lakes, and we're not skaters. By the end of the day, I was utterly exhausted, had eaten a lot, and was bleeding very, very very lightly, and it was brownish. Right on time, I thought.

But my bleeding has stayed very, very, very light. It had stayed brown. The only time I had bright red spots was on Sunday, when I helped out in the nursery of my church by holding and carrying crying toddlers (and there were a lot of crying kids that day, more than normal), and on some other day hen I had done some heavy work. The brownish stain never got heavy enough for me to use more than 2 squares of toilet paper as peotection. On Monday I took my pregnancy test, and it came up negative. Then yesterday, I drank a lot of red raspberry leaf tea, and my "bleeding" has stopped. It lasted 7 days, just like a normal period, but I know I haven't bled nearly enough for it to be a real period.

I'm still kinda expecting my period to start this week, since I'm sure it hadn't last week. But I keep thinking that if I'm pregnant, what was that bleeding about? Was I threatening to miscarry? It can't have been implantation bleeding because if it was, it would have started about when I started waking up tired and being unable to sleep peacefully, and I doubt it would have lasted more than a day.

I'm worried that I'm looking more into this than there really is. I'm also worried that if I really am pregnant and I push myself too hard, I might miscarry, though I don't really have a record of that (unless that's what all of those "periods" were between baby 1 and baby 2).I don't want to miscarry.

Thoughts?

Amber

wife to Danel

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In reply to: red_child
Fri, 08-03-2012 - 11:54am
Hi Amber,

I wanted to check in with you to see if you've tested again? It's so hard to know what could be happening. I know that when I was nursing, even after AF returned, it wasn't always so regular and I often had a few "off" months. Keep us updated and let us know how you are feeling!

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In reply to: red_child
Wed, 08-22-2012 - 10:12am

Thank you, you're very kind.

After I stopped bleeding, right on schedule my period started for real, so I guess that was a miscarriage. I was a bit sad, because in the past it didn't matter what I did, my pregnancies held on fine. so I started drinking red raspberry tea and such to try and strengthen my uterus. However, my last period was a normal period, one that reminded me of the kind I used to have (though it lasted 7-8 days. In the past, my normal was 7).

If I start having the pregnancy symptoms again, I'm not going to suddenly start exercising as a last-second attempt to get into shape ^_^; Just mild yoga ought to be fine. Yesterday, I actually was rather exhausted, so hopefully I'm pregnant again. I'll find out next week.

Amber

wife to Danel

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In reply to: red_child
Mon, 08-27-2012 - 9:35am
Good luck when you test again. One word of caution though, early on in pregnancy, red raspberry leaf tea is actually a bad thing because it can cause your uterus to contract and a miscarriage to occur. Usually it isn't advised to start using red raspberry leaf tea until the end of your pregnancy.