Confused?

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Registered: 06-11-2003
Confused?
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Tue, 08-12-2003 - 2:37am
Hi, this is my first time to this board. I have read a few messages to see if anyone has experienced the same symptoms as I have. I somewhat understand the abbrev., but please bare with me as I don't know much about short hand on message boards.

My last AF was on July 13. According to the fertility calender I should have ovulated around July 25 - 28. I had intercourse up to the date of the 24th, but we are doing the pull out method. So I was under the impression pg chances are low. On the 20th we didn't pull out. I was out of town during ovulation days and had intercouse on the 31st w/ pull out method. Aug 1st, I came down w/ a soar throat. I had this along w/ nausa the whole week. I will feel nausa with just the smell of some foods or if anything was cooked in oil. This happened mostly in the evenings after arriving home from work. Other pg symptom of tender bb's started as well. I normally don't have any feelings there, but did during 1st pregnancy. They are not extremely soar as before though.

I haven't been on BC for years and tried a new method (Nuvaring) in June. This changed my AF starting date from the 15 - 16 previous months to the 13th in July. I didn't stay on Nuvaring as I couldn't afford it so I skipped BC for July.

So now my questions is..... I am having symptoms of pg, but I took a HPT on Thursday Aug 7th late in the night and it was BFN. The soar throat stopped, but started again today along w/ sneezing and running nose. The reason why I emphasize on my cold symptoms is because during my first pregnancy I had a bad cold two weeks after conceiving.

I am usually on a 28 - 30 day cycle, but I am not sure because of starting BC in June and stopping in July. What date I should expect it? If I go based on my history it should be here on the 13 - 14th, but I usually experience slight cramping and little spotting two days prior to AF starting. It hasn't happened yet and it's already the 12th. When my cycle is changing I can also be a week late, but AF usually starts exactly a week later than the expected date.

I am going crazy as I would like to know now if I am pg or if I am just making myself feel I am because of the symptoms I had last week.(sorry if this is confusing) I either have a few days until AF is here or it could even be another week before it shows. Or it all could be PG. But, I won't understand how it happened. Should I take another HPT if AF is not here by the 13th or should I wait until I am a week late.

We didn't do the pull out method last night so I am also curious to know if pg is possible days before the start of the expected AF. I have known people to get PG during the period so I am very confused on how this ovulation and conceiving thing works because based on what I read I should be past ovulating and conceiving should be out of the picture.

If anyone has any insight please let me know your thoughts. Speaking to bestfriend doesn't help as she has three kids and is on #4. My 1st pg was 4 yrs ago so I am not sure what to think of how I have been feeling. PS. I have also been very moody and the sight of BF makes me sick sometimes.

Sorry so long, but first time here and so far I think all those on this board have great suggestions and are very kind.

Thanks,

MRV

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2003
In reply to: msladyvaz
Tue, 08-12-2003 - 9:46am
Welcome aboard the roller coaster ride of this board.

I wish I could give you some facts regarding your situation, but can only offer opinions.

First - you can get pg using the withdrawal method - this is a fact.

Second - BC can really screw up your hormones causing all kinds of differing symptoms - fact.

And last - a woman knows when something is amiss - intuition - so if you think all of these symptoms are related to being pg - you might be.

I would try and wait a week before testing since you said that AF can sometimes fall a week late. Keep us informed.

Wishing you the answer you want,

Melinda
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Registered: 06-11-2003
In reply to: msladyvaz
Tue, 08-12-2003 - 12:13pm
Thanks Melinda. Friends have told me the same about the withdrawl method. And since I was on BC for just one month I am so confused about how I am feeling and what I want the result to be. Thanks for your comments. I'll keep you posted on my outcome.

Melissa

 

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Registered: 06-11-2003
In reply to: msladyvaz
Wed, 08-13-2003 - 9:36am
Hi, just wanted to report that AF came to visit last night. I guess I am relieved because the waiting is over. I thought I wanted to be PG, but I guess it wasn't meant to be. We're not ready for it anyhow so it's for the best. Thanks for the support of this group. I'll come visit and see how others are doing.

Take care.

Melissa