Could I Be? (Long, Sorry)
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| Fri, 07-13-2007 - 10:50am |
Hi everyone, this is my first post...and it's another "could I be pregnant?" post, sorry. Anyway, I've been on the Pill for about four years and I take it correctly. I just finished my "period" two days ago. Although I didn't think of it at the time, looking back now I realize it was a few days shorter than usual, VERY light and did not have any real blood- just a tiny bit of that brownish stuff. I'm usually a very heavy bleeder, even on the pill. Now, the last two days I've just been so nauseous and exhibited a few other symptoms common in early pregnancy: breast tenderness, loss of appetite, general crampiness and I'm tired. Does this sound like it warrants a pregnancy test, given the fact that I've taken the pill correctly and I did have some semblance of a period, or should I just wait and see what happens at my next menstruation?
Additionally, I'm a little afraid of what my husband's going to say. We've only been married six weeks, and at dinner last night he told me he suspected his cousin's wife is pregnant (he works for his uncle, who also employs said cousin and wife.) I said that was very exciting, wonderful, etc. and he said: "As long as it's not us, I'm happy for them, too!" I tried to say it wouldn't be too bad, we could manage (we're 21 year old college students, although he makes good enough money working construction on off days and during school breaks) and that a baby right now would be very unexpected but welcomed nonetheless. Well...he didn't agree with me so much.
I know that if I am pregnant, he's going to think it was my fault, or that I let it happen, as I've made no secret of my desire to have as many babies as he'll give me. Of course, I'd never do that to him and I agree we're way too young, but if the virile toad did knock me up in our first month of marriage I don't think he's going to believe me.
Sorry for the long and rambling post, but it felt good to get it off my chest. For obvious reasons, I can't talk to my husband about this, and the anonymity of the internet is quite comforting in situations like this.


I'm in kind of the same situation. I've been on BC for going on 6 years now, DH and I have been married for almost the same amount of time. We are both also full time college students and we both work part-time. He's 29, I'm 26. I take my last active pill this Sunday and I should be getting AF Wednesday. However, I forgot to take the entire first week of pills and one or two of the second week's because I forgot to get a refill and I have been a little stressed recently (I'm wondering if deep down though I did it on purpose. I have been wanting a baby for so long but the timing never seems right). When I did think of it I panicked but thought it might be ok since we hadn't been getting frisky much recently anyway. I decided to just skip those pills and continue with the rest of the pack. Of course we did end up having sex a few times during that week. Now I'm wondering if because I missed that first week I could have O'd since I read online that if you miss pills in either the first or last week of active pills that is the worse time to do it. I've been feeling a tiny bit crampy, I'm hungry all the time which is NOT normal for me since I eat like a bird, and I got very short tempered at my DH in the middle of Wal-Mart last night which is not usual at all. No sore BB's or anything. So, I have another few days to wait and see, not much fun at all.
I know what you mean about talking to DH about it. I haven't brought up my mistake this time (I've never taken my BC religiously so we've had scares in the past, I'm surprised I haven't gotten PG sooner). I did ask him the other day when he thought would be a good time for us to dicuss when we could start TTC. He wants to go to law school when he finishes with his Bachelor's degree. He has two more years here at the university and then three years of law school. I graduate next year in May with my Bachelor's. He says he wants to wait until he has graduated from law school and then possibly even a year after that so he can get settled in practice somewhere. I panicked when I heard that it could be another 6 years before we even think about kids! My sister is 24 and she's already had two beautiful girls. And my 21 year old sister is due in Aug. With all of these babies around me its so hard to agree that its best to wait until we are settled before TTC. I've dreamed my entire life to have kids and I feel like my dream is going down the drain. DH pretty much panicks whenever I bring up the baby subject so I've learned not to open my mouth.
Keep me posted about your situation, I would love to know how it turns out. I'll let you know what happens next week. :)
Well, it's certainly possible that you are. Another possiblity is that while on the pill, your cycle has adjusted. I was on the pill 10 years prior to having my first and I noticed that I bled a lot less on the pill than I did when off it. Could be a simple as that. Did you have any bright blood at all? If so, you probably aren't PG. IF not, it wouldn't hurt to take a test. I never got PG on the pill, but I know it happens to some women. Wouldn't hurt to take a test.
Good Luck.
Well, I took a pregnancy test (my first one!) today. I'm not pregnant. Even though it would have been at SOOOOOO the wrong time, when I saw the negative test I was sad.
I think my husband would have been okay with it after all. Yesterday he asked if I was feeling any better and when I said I wasn't, he cheerfully asked me if I thought I was pregnant. I said I didn't know, and he didn't even freak out or anything. Just gave me a kiss on the cheek.
So if you are pregnant, butterfly girl05, maybe your husband will be okay with. Let me know when you find out...I'm hoping you get what you want! By the way, my husband and I graduate next may with our Bachelor's degrees as well, me in English and him in criminal justice. What's your degree going to be in? (I'm assuming your husband's is either political science or criminal justice.)
I know how you feel about the BFN. I've taken them in the past and even though I knew it wasn't probable or even a good time I still hoped it would be positive.
I'm still waitng for AF. I'm not planning on taking a test, I think I'm just gonna wait for AF to show up. I keep telling myself that I'm not PG but deep down I really hope I am. It would be horrible timing but hey! I've been through 6 years of wanting this so I guess I don't feel ver guilty about feeling that way. I started getting these really bad headaches Thursday evening and they got worse yesterday evening. I'm not sure if its a sign but I've added it to the list so we'll just have to wait and see.
I'm an Accounting major and my husband is an English major actually. My plan after my Bachelor's is to go to graduate school and get my Master's in Taxation while DH goes to law school.
I'll keep you posted! Thanks for replying.
Well I'm not much help on your question. I would definitely go buy a test and take it in secret just to make sure, it can't hurt. It's not like you are constantly paranoid all of the time taking tests every month.
I'm also glad there is another 21 year old out there who would love to have a baby and wants to be a mom someday! I got married 9 months ago and I really, really wish we could have a baby! I'm in the same boat as you, my husband definitely does not want a baby and last night when I said "I want a baby" (not saying that I actually want to have one NOW, just stating I love babies) he said "no you don't". He wants to have kids, but not any time soon. I just graduated from college and it's so hard for me to move on to a job (so far I've been unemployed) because all I really want to do is be a mom.
I hope everything works out for you, I'm sure that if you are really pregnant your husband will learn to accept it and of course will one day be very glad that it happened! Let us know how it turns out!
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Thanks for your kind words. I'm not pregnant, unfortunately.
The official plan for us is after we graduate, I go on to grad school and get my Master's while he goes to work. This is supposed to give my husband enough time (4 years!) to grow up and be "ready" for a baby. Truthfully, I would be very surprised if I weren't pregnant this time next year, because I've only ever wanted to be a homemaker (a decision he strongly agrees with) and with his gainful employment on the horizon and our educations complete, the next step would be starting our family. We need to get started young, anyway, I want at least four kids and I want to have them all by the time I'm thirty. Plus, my husband is "he-man/caveman" enough he's going to want to prove he can impregnate his wife, especially if it turns out his cousin is having a baby. It's a grown up "I can pee farther than you" kind of thing.
I'm a stay-at-home mom supported by my dh also and it's a shame that the men in your life put you in that sort of situation as if staying home and taking care of the children is a piece of cake and takes no time or effort. Having an education is not a waste of time or money if you want to stay at home because it's good to have in case you need it because your husband can't work, after the children are in school you want to do something more, or even worse, your husband dies, the Lord forbid, and you are left with the children. That has always been my view and the reasons I am finishing school. I'm sorry your DH and father-in-law don't understand the way you feel. Hopefully over time, they will soften and you can do more of what you want. Good luck.
Alaina