Day 22 for this newbie

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Registered: 01-26-2008
Day 22 for this newbie
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Sun, 01-27-2008 - 3:49pm

Hi everyone! I am new to iVillage and to message boards in general, but am already finding myself hooked! I don't know all the acronyms etc, so please be patient with me.

Here's my story:

I am the 37 year old mom of two. My daughter is 5 and my son is almost 2. My wonderful husband has thought we should count our blessings and keep moving forward in life. As an only child I've always longed for a big family. My first pregnancy ended in difficulty-I experienced preeclampsia and delivered a month early-all was well! Beautiful daughter, stressed out parents! Three years later when my son came along, I was so much more prepared. I worried about being too stressed to handle two kids and found that just the opposite was true. I felt empowered by my ability to have a great, full term pregnancy and to balance two kids and even managed to lose weight! Everything fell into place! But since the moment he was born, I felt compelled to do this all again. I feel like there is no more important thing I am ever going to do with my life than create and nurture children. My philosophy-if two was so great, three might be even better! We're getting old, so that philosophy can't last forever, but I feel like this is my last chance. So after almost a year of heart wrenching discussions on this topic with my husband, and anyone else who would listen, we weren't getting anywhere. He feels like we are already blessed and have a wonderful life and should leave it at that. He worries about another difficult pregnancy, about money, about renewed stress, about everything logical. But I feel like it is my destiny. No one ever regrets having that third child, but some might regret not having it. I don't want to live with regret.

So, long story short, he has been able to see how important this is to me and has been able to own the decision with me and we STARTED TRYING this month! It is day 22 of my cycle, so it's either happened or it hasn't. Of course I am able to convince myself that every feeling I have must be a sign! LOL! We got pregnant easily in the past. My midwife called it the "gift of fertility." I didn't even realize then what a gift it truly is! Another reason I can't waste it!

I am so anxious to be able to test! I am obsessed by it but find comfort in everyone's stories. I love finding a community of like minded women to share thoughts with! This is amazing!

Teresa
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Registered: 12-06-2005
Sun, 01-27-2008 - 4:24pm

Teresa-


Welcome! I used to be on the boards all the time when I was pregnant with my DS, 14 months. Since he was born I really didn't have the time to keep it up. Now that we are TTC #2 I am obsessed again. These boards and the women on them are truly great. It kept me sane, well kinda, during my first pregnancy. It is very comforting to talk to people going through exactly what you are.


I am also in the same boat as you wanting 3 and my DH only wanting 2. He worries about the same things as your DH but I came from a big family and can't imagine only having 2 children. We came to a compromise to table our heated discussions about #3 until after we have #2 in our arms. Good luck and I hope my DH eventually comes around as yours has.


Keep us updated!


Christina


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Sun, 01-27-2008 - 4:49pm

Hi Teresa!

Rachel

Proud mom to Jacob Jun 4/04, Cailyn Sept 26/2006 and her twin sister Rebecca born sleeping Sept 26/2006