doctors are jerks

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doctors are jerks
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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 1:37pm

went to the doctor yesterday, having already said the reasons why-blood pregnancy test and hormone panel...........and my doctor only offered me a urine test..and he was rather rude when i asked if he could do a blood hcg test instead..and i don't understand AT ALL why he wouldn't give me lab papers for AT LEAST the hormone panel..he said the tests are too expensive, blah blah..but why does that matter to him ?? and i have insurance anyway....UGH...... so i am still as confused as before....would be nice to rule out pregnancy so i can go on to figure out wth is actually going on....but apparently there is no such thing as a doctor who cares..at least not that i have found......spent yesterday afternoon being incredibly tired and crying off and on til i fell asleep for good.......i just feel like moping around..i feel like crap

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 2:59pm
I'm so very very sorry you're going through this!! I went through the same CRAP with my old doctors and that's why I decided that once DH and I do get preggo that we're going to use a Midwife...I'd look in your area and see if you can go to one because sometimes they offer blood tests in their offices. PP is a good option also but I'd call the office first because some locations don't offer all of their services like the "main" one would. Feel better dear and keep us posted!!
Married February 27, 2010 Hoping for an addition soon!! Dx: Endometriosis
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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 3:13pm
thank you :) ...i have definitely been planning on using a midwife when/if ever i become pregnant..i had no idea that they could also run these tests or i would have done just that ! thanks for the tip, i'm going to look into it ......anything to stay out of a doctor's office......the past several times i have been to a doctor for things unrelated to pregnancy i have gotten zero help or answers....just a bunch of cowards too scared to diagnose you....i have no faith in doctors....i thought i'd have to be 80 before i realized their uselessness........they are just the same as anyone else with a job involving helping others..they can't do anything til it is either too late..or very near too late

what i am really scared of is that it may be ectopic..and if it is and something ruptures....what then ??..i could DIE...but no, he just giggled at my silly concerns about my possible death that could easily be avoided by a blood test............everyone is so incompetent these days......ok..here i go again..sorry.....i am very emotional....another reason im not convinced ....i'm crying over the littlest things and getting above and beyond aggitated..i am not myself at all.....i feel violated

sorry i'm a little worked up....it's just that i still have every one of the symptoms i had before going in to him and i have no idea what is going on...i'm going to have to have a bullet wound before i ever go back to a doctor :'(
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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 3:30pm

I AM SOOO SORRRY!!!!! ::hugs::: I had a dr like that and I switched quick.. First time I went in there for cramping she automatically said I was preggo got me allll worked up and the urine test came back negative; talk about a flippin heart attack!!! ANyway, hang in there- we are in limbo together! I'm back to being bloated yesterday and today and today my boobs have been achey off and off, my lower back is acting up again!! on a better note my yeast infection went away!!!! YAY! lol :)

Let me know what PP says; we are here if you need to vent!!!

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 5:06pm
thanks for the support :) limbo sucks !! ....i have never before continued to think i might be pregnant after negative urine tests..everything just feels different....and i wish he could have given me some more solid answers because if i am really not pregnant..there is still certainly SOMETHING going on that i would like to be able to address asap...before i started thinking i was pregnant for a couple weeks i was in a blissful mood..it was like magic..like i was drugged...looking back i wonder if that has anything to do with all this..because now it is practically the opposite..very irritable and weepy :(

the PP website for my area says that blood work can be upwards of 70$s ....would have been practically free had i gotten them done at my doctor's office :( ....i also did email a midwife to see how much she charges...she is also the midwife i wanted to see anyways if i am pregnant...annd i am also going to contact a women's health center in town :)

glad your infection went away ! ..i did read those are common in early pregnancy ;) .....i am just incredibly tired..i finally got some ok sleep last night..but i'm still tired....and today i am also having some cramping on the sides of my abdomen sort of to the back a bit, but not quite all the way....still don't feel like eating anything

i guess we'll know sooner or later :P

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 5:39pm

Do you have a health care/ walk in clinic that you can go to and covered by insurance and maybe get a blood test done there or a script for one? I just took yet another pg test and it was of course negative, so we are in the exact same boat! I don't feel weepy but I do feel tired and today I have been achey! My back seems to be a dull ache, my cramping is back and my boobs had aches in them off and on (not off and off like I previously typed..lol.) My nipples seem to be a little sensitive. My stomach is completley bloated again and I wear baggy shirts because when I wear tighter shirts you can tell I'm bloated and I don't want people at work to see it and assume I am pg and start the rumors.. that sort of stuff drives me nuts. PP charges $70?!? ridiculous! be thankful for insurance!! Im trying to hold of going to the dr until Feb. My DH is a little concerned AF hasn't arrived.

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 7:34pm

Have either of you been tested for Endometriosis? It sometimes progresses with age and I didn't know I had it until I was in the ER because I had a 17 day long period after not having my period for 50 days...I thought I was miscarrying but they assured me that I never was pregnant, my hormones were just COMPLETELY out of whack.

Married February 27, 2010 Hoping for an addition soon!! Dx: Endometriosis
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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 7:48pm

I have not been tested for that. I've been off of bc pills for 4/5 months now and this is the first time I have missed a period, on or off of them. Last time I

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Fri, 01-21-2011 - 1:57pm

i have thought some about endometriosis..but i haven't found anything to lead me to believe that that is what is going on...my periods used to be very irregular, then i took provera one time a couple years ago and they have been regular ever since ..well not 28 day regular, but about 40-42 day cycles..which is my regular...this past 'period' was a week later than it should have been....i wonder if maybe my cycle is just readjusting itself or something ..? i'm not sure....the main reason i haven't thought it could be endometriosis is cause a friend of mine has that and she is in excruciating pain a lot of the time..and i haven't felt anything as severe as her pain appears to be....of course, there could be varying levels..i will look more into it

haven't gotten a response from the midwife.....i am thinking that i will wait until my next period should start in february and see what happens then....i think it should start around the 17th

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