How do I know and when can I tell.

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Registered: 07-12-2007
How do I know and when can I tell.
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Sat, 07-14-2007 - 1:32pm
Along with everyone else on the board I am very nervous and I am unsure what to expect. My last menstral cycle started on June the 27th and my cycles are never irregualar. Well my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex on the 9th and Im not to sure what the chances of me being pregnant is, I never had to worry about it before. Well I checked some websites with the ovulation calendars and the 9th was one of the days I'm "supposed" to be fertile. I am not really sure how good this calendars work anyways. The day after we had sex I had a constant cramp like pain in my lower left stomach, my breast feel tender and I have been feeling sick, but I think it is from me stressing so much. I can not stop thinking about this and I know it is way to early to test. After this going through my head more and more each day, I decided that I would really love to test positive and now I am afraid of the disappointment. My boyfriend and I were not trying, but I think all things happen for a reason so now that I want it I am sure it wont happen. I just wanted to see what the odds really would be for me to be pregnant and what should I look for?
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Sun, 07-15-2007 - 6:52am

Oh Sweetie..

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Sun, 07-15-2007 - 8:18pm

Hey Tshop,

When I read your blog I about flipped because our stories are exactly the same...just a few days difference. My last period began June 24th..and my boyfriend and I had a birthcontrol malfunction on July 7th. According to the calender, I should have ovulated on the 8th..pretty much perfect timing if you are trying to make a baby. I had a couple of days of going back and forth about taking the morning after pill and eventually decided to just ride it out. Anyway, I went to the doctor and she said if I concieved on the 8th of July then a test should show positive next wed (july 18th). I am not sure if I will test that day..I am still in total freak out mode and not sure how the boyfriend will take all this as well. So far he is staying pretty calm, but I think he was hopeful that I would take the morning after pill...

I wish there was a way to know this stuff right away..but I swear I feel a little queesy the last two days!

:)Tabbs

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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 1:44pm
Hey Tabb,
I was just wondering if you decided to take your test yet or if your having any more signs? I hope everything is going good for you and your boyfriend is supporting you. I think I am going to wait untill Monday to test, but I cannot stop thinking about it everyday, this waiting really sucks!
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Registered: 07-19-2007
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 4:04pm
I'm slightly in the same boat. The first day of my last period was also June 27th. I have been feeling nauseous and extremely tired the last few days. I had slight spotting the other day but not much. I've been pregnant before but with those I didn't know until I was well over 6 weeks. I'm stressing as to when the first time I can take a test. I did a calendar on webmd.com and it said I'd have to wait till monday the 23rd for the earliest.
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Registered: 07-18-2007
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 6:08pm
I can relate to you girls, except I didn't have sex when I was ovulating... I had it the day after my period ended last month. I thought I'd be ok, but now I've been reading that there's really no "safe" time to have sex. So I'm also waiting to find out if I'm pregnant. AF is due to make her visit on Monday or Tuesday at the earliest, but I've not been feeling well for a couple weeks. The thing is, is I haven't had any other symptoms besides a slightly upset tummy and slight nausea, which comes and goes. But it's just lasted for a couple weeks now and I'm getting a bit worried. My fiancee says I should go to the doctor tomorrow and get checked out. However, even if he does do a pregnancy test, I think it still might be too early. Should I even bother going to the doctor then?
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Registered: 07-21-2007
Sat, 07-21-2007 - 5:11pm

holy crap!!!

ok so you and i are pretty much in the same boat here, tshop!!

my last af was june 27th also.
my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex (good old pull out method) on the 3rd, 4th, and 10th. but on the 9th i started to get nauseated after every meal, strange b/c i eat the same thing everyday at work. i tried switching up the menu...still felt sick. never threw up though.

then on the 14th my breasts started to ache and have not stopped. i had a low grade fever from the 14th-16th(accompanied by a constant, dull headache) and it's been off and on. on the 18th for about 10 minutes i got a cramp in (what i think is) my uterus. didnt really feel like an af cramp, and i never ever get af cramps until after i start to bleed.
i've been getting sporadic flutters and strange feelings in the uterus area. not really pain...i dunno. something is different!!

also, i haven't been able to even entertain the thought of coffee! my coworker mentioned that she hasn't seen me drink coffee, strange to her since i used to drink at least one cup every morning for years. black!

my af is due the 28th.
i wasn't planning this, my boyfriend and i aren't even together anymore (i actually broke up with him so i'm ok) but i feel the same as you; i'm terrified to get my af!
i'm only 21, just moved into a new "bachelorette pad" with my lifelong best friend, i wasn't even thinking about kids for at least 5 years! i'm still in college!
but i want to be pregnant. i want this baby! it makes no sense whatsoever.
i dread the 28th...

oh and i couldn't wait and took a hpt on the 18th (way to early) it was BFN and another one last night that was BFN but last night was also too early.

i don't know what to do. i'm glad someone else wasn't planning it but still wants it! and is afraid of the heartbreak af will bring!!!
write back if you get a chance!

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Sat, 07-21-2007 - 5:32pm
Willow,
I can not believe how similar our stories are, I am also 21 lol. I am so torn between two worlds because as a young women I know I have the world at my fingertips and I did not even plan to think about kids until my late 20's due to traveling. At the same time since I did not plan the situation I am so excited at the idea. I love kids and I can not wait to have my own. Like you, I also took a test on the 19th and it came back false. I knew it was way to early to take it, but i thought it would ease my mind. I am pretty sure that most of my side effects were due to me stressing , but I really hope not. Almost everything between us is the same, my boyfriend and I just recently broke up. We were together for four years and he would love the idea of us getting back together. We were both going different directions with our lives, but we love each other to say the least. I am going to wait to test until the 27th, I think that is when I am suppose to get AF. Keep me updated, its way to hard to go through this alone, its so much to think about!
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Registered: 07-21-2007
Sun, 07-22-2007 - 8:34pm

hey tshop

you know last night i posted this looong reply to you but i'm not seeing it here.
kinda sucks.

anyway, yea i'm here for ya! it's nice to not be alone in the waiting, especially with someone in the exact same scenario.

i bought a 3-pack of first response tests today. i'm going to force myself to wait until tuesday morning, maybe wednesday morning so i don't waste anymore money.
do you have a dog?
my puppy has become very overprotective lately. she used to be the quiet one of our two puppies but now she barks at anyone who comes near me.
i googled it and found out that female dogs especially get that way with pregnant women b/c their sense of smell is like 1million times stronger than ours.

and sorry if this is too personal, but you and i are kinda on the same cycle or whatever...have you had any cramps at all? i've had some extremely mild ones today, nothing like af...i dunno, i'm paranoid!

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Registered: 07-20-2007
Sun, 07-22-2007 - 10:08pm

tshop and willow

I believe I'm also on somewhat the same cycle as ya'll. My cycle started June 13th but I O'd two week late, I want to say the 10th or so. So far, all my tests are bfn and I'm trying to wait until Tuesday to test again. If I O'd on the 10th then that should be when AF is due. As for your dog, Willow, I can see how she can smell it. Do be aware that most dogs can sense when you are about to get AF also but I can see how the other may be stronger. I always used to have problems with our black lab when I was about to start AF. I hope everything works out for ya'll. I'm just trying to hang in here since it's been such a long cycle and every now and again I wonder if everything is in my head and then I'll get m/s or backache or light cramps. I may have missed it in the last posts but what are all your symptoms? I want to compare if you all don't mind.

Alaina

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Registered: 07-19-2007
Mon, 07-23-2007 - 4:01pm
I haven't had any cramps whatsoever, which is odd because I usually start having mild ones a few days before. I've still been nauseas all week, I was really bad last week and had light spotting on 16th or 17th (don't recall). I've also been light headed I almost passed out at work last week. My nausea is still there but not as severe this week, I've been eating very little though. Took a test Sunday and bfn.