I am terrified..pls help!

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Registered: 09-01-2003
I am terrified..pls help!
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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 11:38am
Please forgive me i do not yet know all the abreviations. I think i am expecting again. I had a m/c in January. My friend and i had an "accident" about 13 days after my last period. (he was the father of my first which i m/c'd). Since i have felt nauseuos, very tired, hungry but never satisfied, lower back pains, abdominal cramping, a constant headache for almost 10 days now. I am not due until the 18-19 of sept. I am going crazy waiting. My emotions are running wild. He and i briefly discussed the "situation" and he firmly stated that i need to schedule a dr's appointment to have things taken care of. he doesn't want a child right now. He is very adament on me aborting. I know that if i am pregnant again i cannot bring myself to do it.

Is there any way for me to know if i am expecting? how soon should i test? anything anyone can offer me would be greatly appreciated. Regretfully i do not know how to check back on the message board so if all replies can be sent to kmsquires@hotmail.com it would be very helpful for me.

I am so scared. Am i alone when it feels like right now Time is standing still? i wish i knew. Please help.

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 12:30pm
First of all let me say I know what you’re dealing with. I was 15 when I had my son and the father said get ride of it, like he was some piece of trash. I did not and had a beautiful baby boy. Do not let him tell you what to do; you will regret it that’s not what you want also. Tell him if his going to be a jerk about it have him sign paper work saying he has lost ALL rights to the baby. That is what I did, and my husband now loves m son and is adopting him. First of you should go to the doctor and get a blood test done ASAP, this will put your mind at rest and than you can go forward with what you need to do. Good luck to you and remember you can do this on your own many ladies have!
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Registered: 08-10-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 9:56pm
I totaly agree with her! Don't let some jerk push you around! You are the one who is carring the baby, You are the one who is felling it kick, You are the one who is going love, protect, and nurture the baby! Not him! You! Thats the way it's supposed to be. Let him be a man, and except reasponsbility for his actions!

Stand up for your self, don't let him fool you with his sexy charm, He'll leave sitten for the next broad in a second! I know there type, I feel in love with alot growing up.

I'm very experienced in that catergory. Thanks for hearing me out!

Angela,