I need help, I'm Confussed

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Registered: 10-21-2003
I need help, I'm Confussed
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Tue, 10-21-2003 - 6:21pm
Ok, well, guess what, this has to do with pregnancy.

I'm not a slut or anything like that, but in fact just lost my virginity this year with my boyfriend. We are very much devoted to each other, so we made a decition.

Now I am confussed... I'm not sure if I'm pregnant or not... I obviously don't want to be, as I am only 18 and still live at home, and to boot, my parents don't know I am sexualy active with him...

Yes, I reffuse to have sex unless we use condoms. But yes, I have heard their are still risks if two play around without one, without actually having intercourse though too.

But, right now, I am very scared. I have a tendancy to get my period late -the latest I can recall is at 39 days. Right now, I am at 36 days, with nothing.... but I do have one possible sign, which is scaring me...

I have stomach problems, I must add, as they really mess with me, but just today, and yesturday, I've been having cramps as if I had my period. But still...nothing, no period...

I am highly stressed and scared, and don't know what to do...

If my mom was to find out, I know she would think less of me, so getting her or anyone who would tell her is not an option....

My boyfriend tell me not to worry, and we made sure that the condoms didn't break, so I shouldn't worry so much, but... I can't help it, I'm trully freaking out over here...

Can anyone send me some comfort or help?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-20-2003
Tue, 10-21-2003 - 6:34pm
Well, I don't know how much I can help, but the more you stress about it, the more your body will not cooperate. Your boyfriend has good advice - don't worry until there is something to worry about. And please, if you are pregnant, tell your mom. All parents are shocked when their child announces they are pregnant. Some are disappointed and angry, but 99% will get over it within a few days and realize that they need to be supportive.

If you need someone to talk to for now - we are all here.


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