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I'm pregnant
| Sun, 07-23-2006 - 4:00pm |
I'm 16 years old and today I found out that i'm pregnant. I'm still very shocked and afraid to tell my mom about this. I don't want to do an abortion but me and my mother are very poor and can't even pay rent for apartment. I don't know what will happen if i'm going to have a baby. And the problem is also that father of my baby is married man, who already has 1 daughter. Please help me decide what to do.
PS: sorry for my english

First I want to say CONGRATS!!!
Things WILL work out,just take a moment to yourself,then tell your mom what is going on.Let her help you through this,but don`t let her decide things for you...lol,that sounds strange but I`m sure you know what I`m meaning.
I know you was saying the man is married...well that is his mistake,now he must pay.Yes it might ruin his marriage but that is HIS problem.
You and your mom go fill out paperwork to get you on Medicade,food stamps,AFDC,Wic...also,in your 2nd trimester apply for HUD.(housing)...the AFDC is a temp childsupport,tell them who the daddy is,let them file all the paperwork,they turn it over to the Attoney Generals office,where everything ya`lls baby needs will be worked out.
And PLEASE ignore the comments his wife is going to make,it`s not just your fault,he is guilty too,you now need to think about the baby growing inside you.
Listen,please go ahead and tell your mother,she will be upset at first but trust me she`ll help you through this,lean on her!
(if you decide you don`t want to keep the baby,either way,the social workers down town where you apply for help,will point you in the right direction)
Good luck and I wish you the best!!((Hugs))
wow....what state are you in? sounds like this guy could be charged with statutory rape...what a loser..
if you cant afford to have this baby then put it up for adoption...i wouldnt abort,...its not fair for the baby to die bc you and your man werent careful...talk to your mom and see what she says..good luck
I agree with the last poster. You're still so young and have so many things you need to do before you're ready to be a mom. There are so many couples that can't have children who would love that baby more than anything. I know it would be impossibly hard but I think adoption is the right way to go for you. Sorry if this opinion offends anyone. Hang in there sweetie, you're going to be just fine. www.itsaboutlove.org helped my friend so much. Good luck!
Chardell