need advice on baby making lol

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Registered: 09-27-2003
need advice on baby making lol
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Sat, 09-27-2003 - 4:37am
Ok. This is probably gonna sound really dumb but work with me here. I have always been a very depressed and self-concious person. I am only 21, almost 22, and have been with my boyfriend for a little while now. We just recently started having unprotected sex and the thing is, I want a baby. Badly. I tried with my ex and could never get pregnant. I have also had some other relationships where there was no protection used and I never got pregnant either. I have almost convinced myself that I cant have children. My boyfriend has no problems with me getting pregnant, he said he would be happy. I would be a very good mother, I basically raised my two godkids, and I am awesome with them. Do I sound totally selfish for wanting a baby so bad? My period is not due for another week to 2 weeks, so I wont know for a little while. If I am not, any suggestions on how I can help it along a little bit? I really want a baby and I feel like totally giving up. I go to bed at night praying I am pregnant. Please help with some words of advice for me. Thank you.
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Sat, 09-27-2003 - 5:27am
I would start with charting your BBT. A good place to learn all about it and do it online for free is at www.fertilityfriend.com. When you know you are ovulating and having sex at that time each month and have not concieved within 6 months, go and see a doctor. There are so many things that can keep you from becoming pregnant that can be fixed. If you find you are not ovulating, see a doctor. He can give you medication that will make you ovulate.

Hope some of this helps.

Tammy

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Sat, 09-27-2003 - 7:58am

Princess,


What am I having?

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Registered: 09-17-2003
Sat, 09-27-2003 - 12:50pm
You might want to think about the reasons that you want a baby. Unfortunately, some people have kids to fill gaps in their lives. If you have a history of depression, I think it would be very wise to talk with a counselor and doctor about the depression before you get pregnant for the wrong reasons (I'm not saying that you are, but I just wonder if it might be to try to 'feel better' or 'fill a void'). It is unhealthy and unfair for a baby/child to come in to this world to 'take care of the mother's feelings' (i.e. depression). I really hope that get what you are looking for. I just wanted you to think about this and if it is not the case, then happy babymaking and best of luck. If I can help you any more, please post.

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Sat, 09-27-2003 - 2:48pm
best advice i can give you is to stop trying to have a baby and just let it happen. we were trying for months and months and finally the month that i finally said screw it whatever and thought that i couldnt have kids etc, we ended up pregant and im now 12 weeks along. i would suggest to just either start charting and work with it that way or just stop trying so hard.

hth

Traci

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Sun, 09-28-2003 - 1:36am
I just want to say thank you to everyone who is giving me advice. I will be checking in on replies nightly. To one reply I received, I am not trying to fill a void. It just really seems now that I am happy in a relationship, and we want this to happen, it wont. Same thing happened with my ex, and he wanted it so bad and I couldnt provide it, that we grew apart. I know that sounds weird, but he was dead set on it. I want one really bad now, and I know even though my period is not due yet, and it is still really early, I have been feeling a little weird. That could also be caused I know by wanting it way too bad. So I am really praying for this to happen now. Even funnier, I already got names picked. LOL I am hoping and praying at this point, so everyone pray for me too. Please feel free to respond.
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Sun, 09-28-2003 - 5:50am
Just wanted to throw my two cents in here! I just turned 23 and I am currently pg with my first child. As far as your question about getting pg...try not to stress about it, it only makes everything worse. I went off BCPs in January of this year and we got pg on our first cycle trying. I did chart my BBT using a digital thermometer and FertilityFriend.com.

Okay now to my lecture : ) Please make sure this is what you and SO want. My DH and I waited until we had been married two years, each had good jobs, and we had a house. We didn't want to bring a child into the world if we couldn't fully support it. I know you have heard this a million times before, but babies are sooooo expensive!! My daughter isn't even here yet and I cannot tell you how much we've spent!! So I guess all I am saying is please think out your decision. My DH and I made a list of all the pros and cons of having a baby at this time...perhaps you and your SO could do this well. I wish you the best of luck and let me know if I can answer any questions for you!!!

Love,

Caroline

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