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Need answers please
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Tue, 09-26-2006 - 3:02am
My fiance and I got pregnant in May. It wasn't planned but we were excited. We had only had sex one time and it was with no condom, he thought he pulled out in time but he didn't. I went to the clinic on May 23 and found out I was 4 weeks along. We were in the middle of getting insurance so I could be seen by a doctor but before I did I lost the baby. I had a misscarriage on July 4, the doctor said that I was 10 weeks along. I got my period after the misscarriage on August 8, and then again on September 2. Since the misscarriage we have had sex a few times w/no condom but he pulls out before he "finishes". Last night for the first time in a month we had sex and it was w/no condom. He "finished" as he was pulling out. He says he doesn't think he any got inside of me, but afterward I was dripping like I was when I got pregnant in May (tmi sorry). I don't know how to calculate my fertile days. I was wondering what the chances of me getting pregnant from that would be.
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Tue, 09-26-2006 - 1:18pm

Hi wordplay,


I'm so sorry for your loss! I hope you're doing much better now....and welcome to the board :)


I think in order to figure out your chances of being pg or not really depends on a few things. You said your LMP was on september 2nd, correct? How long are your cycles normally? If you have relatively long cycles, then I thnk your chances might be greater than if you had short cycles. Typically, women ovualate anywhere from day 14 to day 17 of thier cycles. I have longer cycles, and therefore don't ovulate until about CD18 or 19. It sounds like you're pretty far into this cycle though, and AF is probably due soon, right?


I would maybe wait until AF is due, and if it doesn't show, then take a test. Pulling out isn't the greatest method of birth control. Not that it can't work, DH and I have been using it for about 10 months now and so far we've been lucky.


Well, good luck... and I hope you get the answer you're looking for soon...hope that helps a little bit... :)


~Robin


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Registered: 05-15-2006
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 1:36pm
I usually have a 27-29 day cycle. It differs. Thank you for your response, that helped ease my mind a little. Guess I'll just have to play the waiting game. Thanks again :)
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Registered: 08-02-2006
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 3:50pm

Hi,


No problem... it sounds like your last time when he might not have fully pulled out might have been too late in your cycle to get pg. And if you were really careful the other times, then you might just be ok. Are you planning on trying anytime soon?

~Robin

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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 8:01am

Hi there,

I am very sorry your loss. Yes, I agree with Robin, pulling out isn't the best method, but it works for most people. It does sound like you had sex too late in your cycle to become pregnant - are you trying? I had a miscarriage about 3 months before I conceived my son (who is 10 months now) and I had heard that you are really fertile right after you have a miscarry - not sure if I believe that; but something to think about it.

Good luck and hope you get what you are wishing for.. :)
Kristen

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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 9:48pm
EDIT: Well I usually get my period a couple days early every month. Last time was actually 6 days early. Am expecting my period to come between Sat and Tues. I generally get normal/mild cramps 3 or 4 days ahead of expeted AF, then BAD cramps, ones that almost keep me from getting out of bed a day before and day of AF. Have almost had no cramps at all yet, slight ones that last a couple seconds then go away for a long time. I gave in and tested even tho I know its WAY too early to tell if I got preggo from our time on Monday, but the few times before he wasn't completely sure if he pulled out all the way in time. WELL I tested Tuesday, Wednesday and again today(Thursday 4a.m.). Tuesday was Negative, Wednesday was positive w/the faintest of faint lines, and today was Negative. Wed the line was almost non existant, we had to hold it up to the light to see it. But it may be a mistake b/c the test said to hold in urine stream for 5 seconds. Didn't realize I didn't have to pee that bad and was only able to hold it in urine stream for 2 1/2 to 3 seconds. Does that make a difference? I know I'm getting my hopes up, but I want this really bad. When should I test again if I should at all?


Edited 9/28/2006 8:29 am ET by wordplay85