Not again!!!!! Please help me...

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Registered: 10-27-2003
Not again!!!!! Please help me...
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Mon, 10-27-2003 - 5:05pm
OK... I need advice before i drive myself crazy. 2 months ago i was on the BC Patch. I am a smoker. 2 of my friends that were also on the patch, had strokes. Its the #1 side effect if you smoke. So taking the easier way out i stopped the BC. Last month i thought i was pregnant. for 6 weeks my breasts were tender and I was 2 weeks late for my period. I was urinating often and very tired. I tood several HPT and even a blood test and they all came out neg. the doctor thought it could be an etopic preg. so i had an ultrasound. Neg. Finally i just prayed... either let it come up P or let me get my AF. the next day AF showed up. 2 weeks later... I run into an old flame and we ended up together again. We did it 2 times, the first time he ejaculated in me, the second time he came on me.. around that area. This was last Tuesday. Wed... i felt ovulating cramps. I always feel when i ovulate. Now my breasts are tender and swollen, and i am having light cramping like im gonna get my period but that's not due for another week. I dont want to get myself excited about a pregnancy and come to find out it was all in my head again!!!! I want a baby, but i dont want to believe i am pregnant until i see a positive result. The wait is killing me though!!! Some one please help me! sorry for ranting...

angel...
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Mon, 10-27-2003 - 5:42pm

Angel I understand your pain when it comes to the waiting game...however the only thing you can do is wait until your period is overdue before testing. Swollen and tender breasts don't necessarily mean you are having the symptoms of pregnancy as hormones in general can cause all sorts of crazy things to happen with your body, maybe even something to do with coming off the BC Patch.


You also mentioned having this all in your head again which again can lead you to believe that the things you are feeling are definitely pregnancy related. I'm not trying to make you feel that you aren't but just trying to bring things into a clearer perspective for you so you can stay a little more grounded this time.


As for the cramping, anything is possible really. I used to get cramps for only 10 minutes (yeah I know I'm lucky) 1 week prior to AF showing up, however at the time that we conceived I cramped from about 6 days or so after conception until 3.5 weeks later non-stop! I still didn't take that as a pregnancy sign though during the wait before testing, I automatically assumed AF was on her way and was really happy when she decided she wasn't coming at all!


So I guess the only thing you really can do is pray she doesn't come and keep yourself occupied doing things until after your period is overdue by a couple of days at least.

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Mon, 10-27-2003 - 6:54pm
isnt there anyone out there that can help me? I appreciate the one advice i've gotten so far but i was kinda hoping to hear from more than one person on this!!!
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Mon, 10-27-2003 - 9:29pm
There's not much advice anyone can give you except wait until it's time to test, i was on the BC patch too for about 3 months but it made me crazy so i got off of it and i was pregnant a month later. i am now due june 5,2004... anything is possible especially with unprotected sex and especially if you did it 2 weeks after the start date of your period which is usually around the time you are fertile. but sorry hun there's not much else we can tell you for now. just take the test in a week whenever your period is due and let us know...

-Randi

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Mon, 10-27-2003 - 9:40pm
I agree all you can do is wait and see. Testing early does you no good usually, so you got a week left before you test. It sounds like the timing could have been right, but that don't mean that you did for sure get pregnant, so just be calm and try not to obsess and make yourself think your pregnant again, its so easy to do.
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Tue, 10-28-2003 - 2:13am
You guys are right... I just wish the human body worked a little quicker at letting you know these things. I will definitely keep you guys updated on wether or not i am pregnant. My future hangs on this one... more than you know... If i am, i stay in NY. If im not, i have to move to Puerto Rico with my father and brother. SO that in itself kinda tears me 50/50 on this pregnancy. Half of me wants to stay and raise this baby with the father (hes a wonderful person who would be happy after the initial shock) and half of me wants to move to PR. This chapter is definitely not over... THanks again for the support... I think I need the support more than any advice that i was asking for. I hate time dont you...in cases like this anyways.