not a real question..just want to vent

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Registered: 04-20-2008
not a real question..just want to vent
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Thu, 06-05-2008 - 1:34pm

I have not been feeling well..dwelling in a deep depression after another (a miscarriage three weeks ago previously) loss and now i am sitting precariously on this feeling on whether or not this could be a viable pregnancy.
only in my 23 day of my cycle so i am not testing til after 28 days.

I had feelings of nausea and extreme tiredness last friday. my breast have had on and off tenderness.
my best friend who is not married with a dysfunctional relationship is now a month pregnant. for her this pregnancy is unplanned and hopefully the glue to cement the relationship with her crazy boyfriend.

I live next to to three young girls. I feel reluctant to even go out side. My neighbor said to me last Christmas I do not even proof read my assignment because i have my family to keep me busy. She said this to me her neighbor who lives next door with only the memory of her dead daughter

does anyone feel like me sitting in a empty house feeling useless wondering why we even exist

I am sorry I have no talk to about this I thought I would take a chance and

Robyn

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Mon, 06-16-2008 - 3:03am
Hey there sweetie. I just saw your post and I really felt like I had to let you know that we're all here for you! I know how difficult it is after having a m/c...I had one myself last year and I've spent this year in an anovulatory state, just kinda stuck in limbo. It's really really hard to not get depressed and if you already have the issues you discussed then it's got to be even harder. I want to ask, did you just decided to go off your meds yourself or did you do it under a doctor's supervision after discussing it with him? I was doing some reading recently that said stopping your meds could potentionally be more harmful then to keep taking them. I know there are a lot of meds for mental illnesses that are okay to take while PG, so please, please, talk to your doc about this and all you've been going through. While some depression is normal after a loss or multiple losses, there is a line where intervention is necessary. Also, you might discuss post-pardum depression with your doc b/c you could be suffering from that as well. Finally, please please take the PP's suggestion of hitting up the TTC After Miscarriage board...it doesn't matter what point in the process you are, this entire board is dedicated to people like you and I...who have suffered the devestation of a loss and are trying to regain their life and learn how to move on! I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and I'm sending lots and lots of (((HUGS))) you're way! Here's the link to TTCAM http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-ppttcmiss

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Registered: 04-20-2008
Mon, 06-16-2008 - 6:56am

thanks for the advice...yes i am under a psychiatrist's care. I stopped the medication while i was seeing her and still continue to stay in touch. Right now i am feeling a lot less depressed because my husband is willing to help by getting his sperm evaluated and that my obygyn is also being very helpful and supportive. I ,also just celebrated ten years with my husband and had a wonderful party with lots of of wonderful cards and presents.

I have to believe in something hopeful. i have to in order to keep surviving
thanks again i will keep you all posted
robyn

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Registered: 03-18-2008
Mon, 06-16-2008 - 10:38am

Happy Anniversary Hon.


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