okay...

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Registered: 10-26-2007
okay...
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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 6:24pm

Okay I have a question...first of all I am "kinda" getting back together with my ex from 3 yrs ago. He is a military officer and going to Iraq in December and will be there until probably August. He said he is serious but doesn't want to make a commitment until after Iraq. He has put up with A LOT from my family and has continued with me as well as invited me to his family's down south for Thanksgiving before deployment. We weren't THAT careful during sex, but not that bad, either. I mean we never used condoms for foreplay and he would slip in quite a few times, and one time we did have sex unprotected but he didn't finish. My periods are irregular and I last had one was 3 weeks and 2 days ago. We were together for three days and that was right about 2 weeks after my period.

But...Sunday I threw up 6 times (I never throw up, too, I've only gotten sick just once in 17 years), I am very dizzy, I have horrible headaches that Tylenol, Advil, or caffeine doesn't take care of, I had spotting 5 days after sex, swollen breasts, very fatigued, and I have to pee all of the time.

Sunday night when he called to say goodnight I told him that I'd been throwing up and he sounded funny. I haven't heard from him for three days now, which has never happened before! I am supposed to take a blood test a week from tomorrow again and I just don't know WHAT to say if it is positive! We aren't even "officially" together yet and he seems freaked already just because I was throwing up--plus he is going to Iraq! I don't want to take his concentration away from his duties there! If I am then HOW on Earth would I tell him? He is stationed on the East Coast and I live in the Midwest.

And it is hard waiting for another week from tomorrow, especially since the seizure meds I'm on can cause severe birth defects in the first trimester.


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Registered: 12-15-2005
In reply to: lifeiscrazygrl
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 11:34am

Oh Sweetie.. I'm sending you a huge hug.

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Registered: 02-03-2005
In reply to: lifeiscrazygrl
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 3:05pm

I’m sorry that it seems you are ‘alone’ during this waiting time.

If you are pg and you want to keep the baby, for yourself, or to give up for adoption.
PLEASE PLEASE!!! Get a blood test sooner than later, because of the meds you are taking.

There are health clinics that offer free testing. I’m sure they would totally understand if they saw you 3x in a week for testing.

Is there anyway you can stop the meds until you know for sure?

Hugs to you.
Jennifer

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Registered: 10-26-2007
In reply to: lifeiscrazygrl
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 3:12pm
My doctor told me that she didn't want me stopping my seizure meds until I knew for sure...I think it is too early to tell for a urine test, but I am still so dizzy with headaches all of the time and soooo sleepy. It could also be stress tho, so I'm not sure? It isn't caffeine withdrawal because having caffeine doesn't help. My friend told me that I am imagining it all...and I probably am, but the possibility of harming a baby while on these meds scares me. (Oh, and btw if I were pg I would keep the baby and raise him/her and love him/her very much, whether this guy stayed in my life or not.)

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Registered: 06-06-2001
In reply to: lifeiscrazygrl
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 3:33pm
First off, hugs.
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