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| Mon, 12-04-2006 - 11:36pm |
Currently I am 6 weeks pregnant. A week after I found out I was pregnant, my sister-in-law found out she was pregnant. On top of that my own little sister is 6 months pregnant. The thing is my sister-in-law is super competive. She is a nusiance. Um... she is "trying" to be my friend but I know that she just wants everything to be about her. If stuff is not about her, she gets upset. I do not want to share this time with her. She's always got to have everything centered around her and I feel that if this is what is going to happen then she will constantly keep me in hysterics.
Thankfully she lives in California and I live in Texas. I do have to see her ocassionally on like holidays and stuff.
She is just mean, rude, selfish, etc. She's already emailed me and it's all about her. She's nosey... she was already wanting to know everything about my doctors appointment. She wants to compare my pregnancy with hers. I cannot tell her how I feel because she will just make it hurt her feelings and she has no idea that she acts this way. My husband and his brother say I should just brush it off. My husband says she won't change or it won't have any affect if I tell her how I feel. Errggg... it is so annoying and it is going to be very difficult when Christmas rolls around. I'm trying to get some idea on how to prepare myself with this and for when Christmas rolls around. In my husbands family, you have to do everything with the family so it is going to be hard to do anything on my own. And the family smothers you.
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!

*hugs* I understand. My DH and I tried to get pregnant for 1 1/2 years. We finally got pregnant and told everyone right away, then a week later my SIL announces she's pregnant with her 3rd. *sigh* I was hoping to be special for awhile. Our due dates are 5 days apart.
Then there was the what's the sex going to be game. She has 2 girls and really wanted a boy. I didn't care :D. I find out I'm having a boy (the first in the family, and with the family last name) and then she finds out she's having another girl and tells everyone how upset she is that it's a girl.
I remember that I'm glad that I'm having a healthy baby and that the rest doesn't matter. I'm special and I know it :D. I just ignore the snide comments as much as possible.
She's now telling everyone that she hopes I have mine before she does. (even though she never made it to a due date before).
Try and ignore it and let it roll of your back as much as possible.
-Due in 15 days!
I TOTALLY know how you feel! I don't have the same situation, but a friend of mine did. She got engaged: her sister-in-law got engaged. She announced her wedding date: her sister-in-law moved HER wedding date to BEFORE hers! She got pregnant: SOMEHOW her sister-in-law got pregnant. Eventually....the sister-in-law got a divorce: My friend is happily married with 3 kids!
It all works itself out. It's called KARMA!
I'd just be the bigger person and not play her game. Don't try to top her, she'll only make it worse. She's unhappy. You're not. If she says something to you that feels competitive, you could always be overly sarcastic "Ohhh! No way! You have a belly button too?!?!" and then maybe she'll get the hint! You're pregnant, so if you feel you've crossed the line or snapped a bit too much, use your hormones as an excuse! hee hee
Good Luck!