Probably worried over nothing.. but..

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Registered: 07-08-2003
Probably worried over nothing.. but..
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Sun, 09-07-2003 - 9:48pm
Hey Everyone.

This is probably a really dumb question, but I have to ask anyway.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months. We are both virgins, but lately things have been sort of hard. Not having sex is getting more difficult because it's hard to control. I do NOT want to have sex. Anyway..

This is embarassing.. but several times he and I have both been nude. He has been on top of me, and his penis has been right outside the whole, but has never been fully inserted, or inserted really at all. He has not came or anything, but precum has been around my vagina. I'm pretty sure nothing can happen from this..but I need some assurance and advice. I know I need to stop this, and I am.. I just want to be completely sure..

Please..please.. give me some advice, or what you think. I appreciate it so much.

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Sun, 09-07-2003 - 9:55pm
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Sun, 09-07-2003 - 9:57pm
Hey! I have heard that it is possible to get pregnant this way, but very, very unlikely. I am not a doctor, but I am pretty sure that when the sperm touches air, it dies. (Okay, not a technical definition obviously, but I hope it helps). Have you had any signs that you possibly could be pregnant, if not then I would really not worry about that. My husband and I waited until we were married before having sex, so I do understand where you are coming from, however, be careful!
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Sun, 09-07-2003 - 11:11pm
Im pretty sure that when it does touch air, it dies.. so that is a good thing. Ive had no signs of pregnancy actually, everything is normal with me. I've actually had some pre-cramps that I usually get awhile before my period..

Thanks so much, and Im going to be very careful.

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Registered: 09-08-2003
Mon, 09-08-2003 - 12:27am
Dear andtolove,

If you are really not ready to give it up, may i suggest keeping your panties on. Or using spermicides ( they kill sperm) and you could find them over the counter, this way you will be sure you dont end up prego. The reason i am saying this is because some precum does have live active sperm and getting anywhere around your vagina can mean a pregnancy or std. Not trying to scare you but it is better to be safe than sorry.

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Registered: 01-04-2003
Mon, 09-08-2003 - 12:29am
That is not a dumb question. First of all, that is not a smart thing to do, especially in this day and age. 1. are you sure that he is a virgin also? Some guys will say things that they think a girl wants to hear. If you're not 100% sure that he is a virgin, there is always the risk of std's. Also, even if he is technically a "virgin", how many other girls has he gone this far with but never fully inserted it? Some std's only require the pubic area touching, does not require penetration or swap of bodily fluids. Unless you are ready to possibly get an std, you should not even do that without protection. On the pg questions, there is a slim chance that you could get pg from that, but there is a chance nonetheless. There is sperm in pre-ejaculate. I hope this has helped.