Sad inital prenatal visit... HELP!

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Registered: 10-30-2006
Sad inital prenatal visit... HELP!
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Wed, 11-08-2006 - 5:08pm
Hello, yesterday was my first prenatal visit. It wasn't as exciting as i though it would be,maybe because didn't get an ultrasound yet. My SO went with me I'm very happy about that he is so warm and compassionate. He consider things from every angle and is very supportive. Well i gained 3lbs,i just turned 7weeks. My doctor said my uterus felt like 8weeks. The exam made me fell so crampy i throught my period was coming down. She(the doctor)was very pleasent,patient and informative. My b/p was elevated I'm of AMA,with a H/O PTL and MISCARR. I'll need genetic counseling and a possible CVS(i may wait and do the Amnio)my ultasound will be done at that appt. on 11/13/06. I'm also in process of a consult with MFM i haven't made the appt. yet. I feel sad now. I have to know that eveything is o.k. we plan to terminate the pregnancy if it isn't. I'm really feeling tried now my hormons are working over-time,i pee all day and nite m/s is really hitting now too. I fell like a hot mess and i'm still trying to keep my pregnancy secret, imagine that.
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Wed, 11-15-2006 - 9:57pm

Dear sandi2007,

I'm 7 weeks well from what i know. i have my first prenatal visit tomorrow. I just wanted to say that everything will be ok with your baby. if you think about terminating the pregnancy really think about it first. I have to tell you that my aunt was going to terminate the pregnancy of her third child because they found out it had triosomy 21. Down Syndrome. i have to tell you if she wouldve there wouldnt be as much joy in her life as there is now. whatever you do...i know it will be for the best. I hope you have a great pregnancy. tah tah

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Thu, 11-16-2006 - 10:17am
Hello ThankYou for your kind words and sharing your aunt story. I go through ups and downs. My feelings about the pregnancy is positive and we are excited. I will start some testing once I reach my 10th week of pregnancy. The genectic counseling was very informative. I'm glad I kept that appt. I love the fact that I'm pregnant and a baby is growing/developing inside of me. I will strongly consider things from every angle before I/we make a decision. May you have a happy and healthy 9 months. Oh let me know how your first prenatal visit goes. So long for now,Sandi
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Thu, 11-16-2006 - 10:34am
Good luck, and I will keep you in my prayers, I hope everything goes well for you. I also am high risk, I had a still born at 6months gestation (broke my heart), and then had a beautiful baby girl, but let me tell you she was not easy getting here either! I am now 5 1/2 weeks, and this baby is not from the same man as the other 2 (those were my ex-husband), and I am excited, but very nervous. I had surgery on my foot about the same time I got preg (obviously this was not planned). I am hoping that because this is a different father, maybe the preg will be normal (wishful thinking), but we will see. I wanted to share with you though, that unfortunately these tests are not always accurate. When my aunt was preg with her first she was 38 years old. When she had a test that is manditory in California to have done between the 15th and 18th week (I think & I don't remember what it is called), it came back saying that the baby would likely have Downs. She refused an amnio because she knew she was going to keep it regaurdless, but in the end I have a healthy beautiful (smart, normal) cousin. So you just never know! Just make sure that the desicion you make is one you are comfortable with, and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers!!! Good luck!

Katie


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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 11-18-2006 - 4:22pm
hey, well i went to my first visit. i was a little disapointed because i had gained more weight than i shouldve at this point. so i'm taking extra measures to eat right and exercise. so how are you?
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Sun, 11-19-2006 - 4:49pm
Hello, I'm o.k. except my allergies are in full bloom. I've been feeling really good lately. We gave my daughter a 9 year old B-Day party in the house it was a lot of fun, and I didn't feel pregnant at all. I thought I would be very tired when it was over. She even had a sleep-over after the party. Yes I allowed 5 of her closest friends to stay over.LOL We all had a nice time. I understand about the weight. I've been very care-ful about the foods/drinks i choose since my (+) preg. test. My only real exercise for now is walking. I got the ok from my o.b doc. to take my allergy meds as needed. Well i needed it way before today but i kept telling myself not to take any meds even with permission until my 2nd trimester. I took half the regular dose after breakfast and had a long nap now I fell much better. How are things with you?
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Registered: 11-19-2006
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 5:15pm
Hi there - so when are you due? I am due on June 7th, 2007. I'm sorry your 1st visit made you feel worried. I didn't understand all of your abbreviations, so I don't know the reasons for your concerns. I'm not very "into" all of the medical world's worries. Women have been having babies since the beginning of time and pregnancy is not a medical condition. It is a blessing and a new life. I sincerely hope that you wouldn't become so afraid that you would terminate your pregnancy. That child hasn't done anything wrong and the chances are very great that everything is just fine with your son or daughter. It's easy to be scared in the beginning, I know how that is. I've been through this before. Hang in there and just know that you and your baby will be great!
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Sun, 11-19-2006 - 5:17pm
Hello Katie! I'm happy to hear your words of encouragement. I know the test aren't 100% and I will consider every aspect before making a decision. I feel happy about the pregnancy again and although I still have test scheduled only God knows what the out come will be for us. I'm sorry to hear about your lost before your daughter. I can personally relate to that. One of my pregnancies went to 5 months. I had a misscarriage 3 years ago in my first trimester. My daughter who just celebrated her ninth birthday is wonderful. I think eveything is going to be just fine for you and this pregnancy. Congratulations and a happy and healthy 9 months. Keep in touch!
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Sun, 11-19-2006 - 5:25pm
Hello Katie! Thank You for your words of encouragement. I will consider every aspect before making a decision. I think you will be fine with this pregnancy. Have a healthy and happy nine months.Keep in touch.
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Sun, 11-19-2006 - 5:38pm
Hey! My baby is due June 27,2007. I'm happy and excited about the pregnancy again thank you for your response. Your right it is a blessing, and although I still have test scheduled i'll consider every aspect. I don't know why I'm soo freaked out about this pregnacy. I wasn't this way with the other children. I never got any test other than the ultra sound for size and dates. I believe in my heart things are ok. Congratulations to you. May you have a happy and healthy nine months!! OH I think it's my age and tooo much research that has me in a panic.
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Registered: 11-19-2006
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 5:39pm

Relax about the weight gain. Much of the early weight gain is bloating, not fat. Just make sure you are eating plenty and getting enough nutrition for BOTH of you. It is better for you AND your baby to gain a little extra than not gain enough.

I'm 37 weeks pregnant. At 20 weeks I had gained almost 20 pounds! Since then I'm only up another 3. I had actually hoped to gain a little extra, as I started off underweight! Most of my early weight gain was bloating/water retention, and as that came off, the "real" weight went on.

Again, I want to stress, gaining weight when pregnant is NECESSARY for a healthy baby. Don't watch the scales, it isn't worth it.