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Registered: 10-23-2003
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Thu, 10-23-2003 - 5:19pm
what exactly are the chances of gettin pregnant if you have unprotected sex, but he doesn't come? ...i'm only 18 and my boyfriend and I are usually really good about always using a condom... but a couple times we didnt and we would just stop after a few minutes or something, because we always realize it's very risky but... just kept doing stupid things. i should've gotten my period like a day or two ago so it's still early, but there's similar symtoms to both: tender breasts, bloating and cramping, indigestion... and I'm just getting really scared. I don't know what to do or who to talk to... except I told him I'm worried. So... I guess I just need some advice or something... I dont know what to do at all........

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Registered: 08-07-2003
In reply to: lifeiscrazyasusual
Thu, 10-23-2003 - 5:22pm
Can you give us some more info like when was your last Af and when you think you could have got pregnant.
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Registered: 10-21-2003
In reply to: lifeiscrazyasusual
Thu, 10-23-2003 - 5:49pm
Hi, you really need to be calm and do some calculating. For instance when your last period was, when this happened. I need to say this not as a mother but as a person who has been there, you don't know if he premature ejaculated( just a little or not) HE might not even know. At 18 it doesn't take much. Can you talk to your mom or another female that you trust? thinking about you alex
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Registered: 10-23-2003
In reply to: lifeiscrazyasusual
Thu, 10-23-2003 - 6:58pm
my last period was a month ago the 21st and we had sex like right after that and like a week or two ago also. i know it's possible to get pregnant even if he doesnt come but we did it anyway. i know it was really stupid. im just really worried now... i got into a huge fight with one of my best friends last night, and there were a lot of other things going on and i was completely stressed and freaking out but im really just trying to be calm and wait. i cant talk to my mom, i havent even told her we've had sex. so... i'm just kinda scared. it's my first year in college and there's already enough for my mother to worry about... i dont know if i'll be able to deal with this...
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Registered: 08-07-2003
In reply to: lifeiscrazyasusual
Thu, 10-23-2003 - 7:24pm
Af is late so the nest step would be to go get a pregnancy test, get a good one like clear blue easy or first response, the first response you can test 4 days before Af is due.
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Registered: 05-23-2003
In reply to: lifeiscrazyasusual
Thu, 10-23-2003 - 8:42pm

I think you should wait until your next period is overdue and test using a HPT. It is true that you can get pregnant even if he doesn't ejaculate inside of you.


The symptoms that you are experiencing can be a cause of AF coming soon, or it could maybe also be you are so worried that a lot of it is in your head. I'm not insinuating that you are crazy but some people get so worked up over it soon they are apparently experiencing every symptom in the book.

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Registered: 10-21-2003
In reply to: lifeiscrazyasusual
Thu, 10-23-2003 - 9:45pm
Hi, I don't even know your name. I am alex. I am not that old, I am a young 34 year old, I have four kids, had them all between 25 and 30! Like I said I want to help. I remember!

But am also a mom of an almost 9 year old. - A happy medium! I know that everything in your life seems like the end of the world. Have you taken a preg test? Does your college have a health center or benefits? You know that any"crisis pregnancy center" gives free preg. tests. Do not however go to a planned parenthood type place. Why do you think your Mom wouldn't understand? How is your b/f handling this? (his family?) It is such a difficult time in your life anyway. It is important to surround yourself with people that are good for you and make you feel special. Please try to think clearly and it is a good idea to be on this web site with older women that you can learn from. please keep in touch. thinking about you. alex
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Registered: 05-19-2003
In reply to: lifeiscrazyasusual
Thu, 10-23-2003 - 10:21pm
Hi,

I am also a young mom. I got pregnant with my daughter right after my 21st birthday and she is now 6. I understand how scary an unplanned pregnancy can be. I was terrified of telling my mom, but when I did she was so supportive. I didn't realize how much I needed her. As a mom there is nothing my daughter could do to make me not love her and I'm sure your mom feels the same way. You are in my prayers and I hope you keep us posted.

Christy
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Registered: 04-04-2003
In reply to: lifeiscrazyasusual
Thu, 10-23-2003 - 10:31pm
Hi! I understand how worried you are. I had just such a scare in college myself. I would suggest going ahead and testing. Then you will know. The unknown is always worse than the known. Not only that, should you be pregnant you can get good prenatal care right away. Please let us know! Hang in there

Jen
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Registered: 10-23-2003
In reply to: lifeiscrazyasusual
Thu, 10-23-2003 - 11:54pm
ok.. so no i havent gotten a test yet. i talked to my best friend tonight because we talked things through so i figured i had to atleast tell her to get some of the stress off. my boyfriend is very scared about it too. they are both encouraging me to get tested this weekend... i just wish i had someone here that was closer. i go to college about 5 hrs from my family. the thing with my mom is she doesnt even know i've had sex, which wouldn't be as big of a deal as this if she found out, im sure. i guess i just feel like i've always been the "good girl" in the family and i dont want her to be disappointed in me. i agreed i'd try to go tomorrow to our school clinic because they offer free testing. i've also thought about the fact that it could seriously all just be in my head because right now i am worrying myself to the point that im shaky and my stomach is all in knots. i know they're symtoms of getting your period too so i'm trying to be as calm as i can. i know i HAVE to get tested, i just dont want to... especially if im going to have to find out some reality. I'm really worried because i just really can't have this in my life right now... but I could never do anything but have it. So i guess all i can do is find out for sure and then go from there. my boyfriend feels so helpless because he goes to school about 7 hrs away from me and cant be with me until next weekend (the 31st) at the least. *sigh* so thanks everyone for the support. i guess i'll go to the clinic tomorrow and make and appt. please pray for me...

-sarah
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Registered: 10-20-2003
In reply to: lifeiscrazyasusual
Fri, 10-24-2003 - 2:48am
ill be praying for you!!

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