Scared and Confused Pregnant Teen

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Registered: 06-23-2006
Scared and Confused Pregnant Teen
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Fri, 06-23-2006 - 8:27pm

Hi Everyone....

Im only 16 and yesterday I took a EPT it came back postive. So I went to a clinic for a test and well IM PREGNANT. IM REALLY SCARED. Where do I start. Im NOT going to Abort or put my child up for Adoption. Whats the first step. Someone HELP~

Scared and Confused

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Registered: 02-01-2006
Fri, 06-23-2006 - 9:09pm

first, i want to say congratulations! i would tell you - to drink plenty of water. get your rest. talk to your doctor (((or us pregnant people))) about what to expect. and get excited, if you aren't already. i know you're probably scared and in a state of shock - but we all are (((especially with the first))) regardless of age. it's totally normal. if you need to talk... feel free to open up to us. we're not here to be judgemental or criticize you, in any way. take care.

~raya~
edd: 7.28

oh yeah! when you talk to your doctor... ask about prenatal vitamins and which are best for you and your baby. - that's all i think of right now. :)

raya2006
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Registered: 12-01-2003
Fri, 06-23-2006 - 9:13pm

Well I've never been a pregnant teen but as a teenager I had many scares. Here are my thoughts:

1. Are you still with the baby's father? Have you told the baby's father? Do you know if he will he be willing to help you raise the child?

2. Do you have a supportive family? I'm sure they might be quite shocked and take it badly, but, as long as they are not abusive, you are going to have to tell them. If you do not have a supportive family or think they may be abusive, you will probably need to find another adult to talk to that you can trust.

3. You will need to get a doctor--an OB-GYN (or midwife, although I'm not sure if OB-GYN is better since you are so young). The doctor can help you understand what you need to do at this point--nutrition, regular ultrasounds and tests.

I can imagine how scared you are--believe me, like I said, I was a sexually active teen and I also often worried that the same would happen to me. Since you do want to keep the baby, you will need a lot of support (of course, you need a lot of support in any case) to get through this. Don't do it alone--find someone you can trust to help you through this.

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Registered: 03-29-2006
Sat, 06-24-2006 - 11:22am
I am sure you are scared. How do you think those around you will react? Will they be supportive? You will have to grow up a little faster than you may have liked, but all will be okay. When I was in high school I had a friend that had a baby in May, graduated in June, and got married in July. They are still married 11 years later. They are great parents. Young parents can be great parents. You can do it! I am sure that everyone on message boards will be supportive if by chance those around you are not. Big thing right now is to take care of yourself...vitamins, water, rest, low stress as possible.
--Kristi
 

  

 

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Registered: 04-27-2006
Sat, 06-24-2006 - 12:29pm

Hi,
Im sure u are scared. But dont worry everything will work out. I had a few friends that were preg. at that age, and they did fine. Im due the 6-27 with a baby girl, my first, im gonna be 22 in july.
How do u think ur parents will react? How far along are u?
In my opinion if u know ur parents will react really bad and ur like a mth along i would wait to tell them until ur about 2-3mths so u know the preg. is gonna go thru. My friends parents reacted really bad when she told them and then she lost it 2 wks later, she was only a mth and a half along, she said she wished she waited. It woulda saved her alot of trouble.
But u gotta tell them, they might not react as bad as u think.
U gotta take care of urself, stay clean from drugs or alcohol. Also on the prenatal vitamins, if u have problems withthe ones they prescibe u, like i did, (i had diarreah), u can switch to flinestones, but u gotta take 2 a day.
Are u on state aid? i think they shoulda since u went to the clinic and got tested.
What about the father?

Please let us know, we really would like to help u out...
and keep us informed as to what is going on.
good luck

~leann

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Registered: 06-24-2006
Sat, 06-24-2006 - 9:49pm
Well, i had the same thing happen to me. When i was 16, well i just turned 17 and i am 5 months pregnant. As long as you have your family there for support, and your babys dad there, you will be ok. I am doing just fine. Great , if you ask me. you will do fine. just ride it out, you can do it.
christan
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Registered: 06-24-2004
Sun, 06-25-2006 - 1:05pm

It must be scary being so young, and I am sure you are scared about telling your parents. I hope they are supportive, although I am sure you can expect them to "freak out" a little bit-they'll calm down after the initial shock.

I think the first thing to do is get hooked up with a Dr., hopefully the clinic you went to was able to put you in touch with some. Also, if money is an issue, it is a good time to try to get information on some programs that might be able to help you with formula, diapers, food, etc, (WIC is one program for this stuff). This is something that Planned Parenthood might know about, please don't be afraid to ask for help, there are so many resources out there if you put a little time into finding them.

I really wish the best for you. Keep yourself healthy and be strong, please ask any questions that you have, there are a lot of women who have been in your exact place and would love to help you.

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Registered: 04-25-2003
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 10:03pm

Hi,

Exactly 10 years ago right about now, I was in your same spot. I know what you are going through. I'm now 26, married to the father of my now 9 year old daughter, and we have 2 other girls, ages 3 1/2 and 1 1/2. I'll tell you straight out, it won't be easy. The most important thing is to build up a strong support system, cuz you will definately need it. make sure to go to your Dr's appointments, eat right, drink lots of water, get plenty of sleep, take your vitamin everyday.

If you need advise or want to talk, I'm here. Email me at momtobug@charter.net

Take care and good luck,

Melissa
Mom to 3 girls:
Charis Avalon 9 yrs
Rylee Jean 3 years
Emilie Marie 1 year

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Registered: 08-27-2004
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 11:36pm

Hello!


Happened to me too at 16. I now have a 20 year old daughter. I agree with all the PP's when they say to take care of YOU! There are alot of books, and I'll bet you can find a support group online. There used to be a pg teen board here on ivillage. I'll check around and see if I can find you a link.

Monica

It's...TWINS!