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| Thu, 08-24-2006 - 2:08am |
I'm 21, as is my boyfriend of over 3 years, and I think I may be pregnant. I'm scared and worried.
On August 7th I started to get my period, but it was fairly light so my boyfriend and I messed around anyway. Things (obviously) went further than planned and my period never came back. I used to keep track of my period very well, but the past few months I have not. I can't remember when my last period was (before the 8/7 start...and end) but I believe it was sometime in July.
I've been very sick for the past week or so, to the point where I can't eat at all for the first half of the day. I can usually eat ok during late afternoon and evening/night. Last night I could not eat much at all. Tonight I couldn't either. I feel incredibly hungry, but when I try to eat the thought of food and sometimes the smell and even taste of food makes me sick.
I've been searching symptoms online and my breasts are also quite sore and I've been cramping which is very unusual for me, I usually only crap the 1st or 2nd day of my period. The last time I felt cramps like this was when I was on birth control pills back in April I spent a day in bed reacting from the pills. I've also been very tired, sleeping in until noon (which is usual) but getting tired to the point of going to bed at 10pm.
I've been off the pills since sometime in May, when my health insurance ran out (I have yet to find a job with health benefits.)
I'm wondering if you guys think I'm pregnant or maybe imagining it? I think it would be wonderful to have a baby (my boyfriend and I planned on having children once we were married) but at the same time, I think it would kill our parents (my boyfriends parents raised him to be very religious and my parents have already had to deal with my sister who gave birth to her first child at age 17, her second at age 18, and is currently at age 22 pregnant with her 3rd due this November.)
I'm planning on waiting until the week of September 11 to take a test, figuring if I haven't had my period yet I must be pregnant.
I would love any comments or support that you guys could give. Nobody knows about this except for me and my boyfriend and it's killing me holding it in.

Hi Cairo
your symptoms sound a little like pregnancy to me.
i have the same and my period isnt even late yet.
On the plus side you are 21, thats a responsible age in my eyes. and you are in a long term relationship with someone who loves you. lots of woman your age face this on their own.
pregnancy is scary no matter what way you approach it....even people who have tried for years are terrified when they see that line appear.
all i can suggest is you go and get a few pregnancy tests to do over the next few weeks.....do one every 3-5 days....i am british but i have heard the girls fromthe US talkabout the dollar tests( we have them at poundland) that way it wont cost the earth.
As for the relative who is a third time mummy to be and is stilla teen!!!!stop worrying!!!
thats her life not yours. you are not the same. 21 might seem young, but i was 23 with my first i was married and when i gave birth i felt like a child, its natural to stress.
good luck babe
keep me posted
xxxxxxx
Hi, haven't taken a test yet. Looked for one at the dollar store yesterday and did not see any :( Will be going to Walmart (nowhere near my house lol) with the boyfriend tonight. Will take it first thing tomorrow morning.
I feel responsible enough to take on a kid, and I'm afraid I'm getting my hopes up now that I am pregnant. I really want a baby and this is actually forcing my boyfriend to grow up a bit (he's afraid to grow up) and he's seriously talking about marrying me now (as opposed to the usualy "someday we'll get married.")
As for my sister, she's been a screw up her whole life. I've been the responsible one. I suppose I'm worried that I will be looked at like her. Someone with no self control. I just have to keep reminding myself that I'm 21 and possibly having my first baby. She was 16 when she was first pregnant.
Thank's for your encouraging words :) I will keep you posted once I've taken the test :)
* Wife of Eric (July 28, 2007)
* Proud Mommy of Allison Kathleen (April 14, 2007)
* Expecting another BABY GIRL on September 16, 2011
Whelp....I found the test at the dollar tree store. Went there last night with my boyfriend (ended up spending about $18 on crap because that store is amazing! lol What you can get for a dollar!!!)
Took the test this morning. As soon as I added the drops to the test the pregnant line appeared. I thought I was prepared for it. I really did. But I sat down, in somewhat of a state of shock. Couldn't believe it. My boyfriend took it much better than I did. He gave me a big hug, told me he loved me and everything would be ok. So i got in the shower and couldn't help it, I just cried. He heard me I guess and I opened my eyes and he was standing there looking at me with this terrified look on his face. I tried to reassure him, but when you're crying its hard.
I don't think the test is wrong. It said to wait 1-3 minutes, but as soon as the drops hit the line started forming. And I'm way too sick for this to be anything else.....
I'm happy to be pregnant. But I don't know if we're ready. (We don't have much choice now, do we?)
I spent all day at the state Renaissance Festival and was absolutly miserable. Stupid sickness......I did however, get to eat a bit. (I've discovered that ice cream is always good for filling an empty stomach that's queasy!)
My boyfriend is telling his parents right now I think. I was feeling too sick to go with. I'm terrified. They're a very Christian family and their eldest son getting his girlfriend pregnant out of wedlock is a big no-no. I'll keep you guys updated on how it goes.
* Wife of Eric (July 28, 2007)
* Proud Mommy of Allison Kathleen (April 14, 2007)
* Expecting another BABY GIRL on September 16, 2011
At least you know now babes.
you can make your decisions based on facts.
your boyfriend sounds lovely...i am pleased he is so there for you.
his parents will come round...your the responsible one remember.
good luck to you....and crying is normal, gets it all out
lots of hugs to you.
Tracy-ann xxxxx
Thanks :)
I told my mom today. She gave me a big hug and said she'd pay for me to go to the doctor.
Then she went online and printed out a form to get government insurance that should be pretty cheap!
So I'm making a doctor appointment tomorrow and we will see what goes from there.
My boyfriend is wonderful and I am thankful every day that I have him in my life. He treats me so well and wouldn't dream of running out on me or our baby.
Thanks to everyone for their support and kind words :)
The next hardest thing (after telling HIS parents) will be deciding on a name we both like!!!
* Wife of Eric (July 28, 2007)
* Proud Mommy of Allison Kathleen (April 14, 2007)
* Expecting another BABY GIRL on September 16, 2011
I don't know how it went with your boyfriends parents, but I just wanted to give you a bit of encouragement. My sister got pregnant before marriage and they(her and her now husband) are both from uber religious families. It was a real disapointment at first for us that my sister got pregnant, but we love her and so we got over it.
My sister just had her second baby with him and they are doing great! Just remember that if your family loves you they will get over it. If not now, then once they see that cute little baby!
good luck with his family,(it sounds like yours is taking it really well) and have a happy and healthy 9 months!
Sherri
Thanks for your words of encouragement Sherri :)
My boyfriend held off on telling his parents about the pregnancy until I went to the doctor to make certain.
I think he will tell them tomorrow.
Just got home from the doctor.
It's for certain.
Now comes the hard part.
Telling the rest of our families and friends and oh yeah, LABOR! (I'm a wimp....)
Ew. I'm swallowing snot (from crying....why I'm crying? Not really sure...just emotional...)
I'm happy and sad and confused and just a huge jumble of feelings.
With a little bit of time and once we've told people I think this will pass.
Then I'll just be happy.
* Wife of Eric (July 28, 2007)
* Proud Mommy of Allison Kathleen (April 14, 2007)
* Expecting another BABY GIRL on September 16, 2011
Hi Cairo,
I know it's hard, but I think once the initial shock wears off, you'll see that your family and friends will be very supportive. Having a baby is hard enough as it is, it always helps to have the love and support
~Robin
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