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| Wed, 06-14-2006 - 10:55am |
I'm 21 years old and I just found out that I am pregnant and I am very happy. My mom thinks I should get married to by boyfriend and he did ask me but I don't want to right now. It may not make sense but it just doesn't feel right to get married just because I am pregnant. I'm not sure it will last if we a rushed besides I really don't want a shotgun wedding lol. What do you think? Shoul people get married because there is a pregnacy?

just because of a pregnancy. A lot of people who are old-fashioned
may disagree with us, but ultimately it is your decision. My mother
married my father when she was pregnant with me and divorced him less
than 4 years later. She's now been happily married to my stepfather for 19
years. Listen to your heart...not what everyone else is telling
you.
are you sure you aren't replaying my life?!? just kidding. :) i'm 20 years old -- my due date is 7.28 and my 21st birthday is 7.29 -- anywho. i'm going through the EXACT same thing. mom thinks that i should rush to the altar and be mrs. so-n-so. he's asked, and i said no. not no as in never. but no as in we'll see. i want to make sure he's still in this relationship for me. marriage never came up in any of our conversations until after i found i was pregnant. i figure if our relationship can make it through this... then sure, i would be willing to try marriage. he's older (((28))) than i and more established. sure that's a good thing for my child's sake - but i want to make sure that if this relationship were to fail... i could walk away and still be able to provide for my child and myself, by myself. i atleast want to finish school (((majoring in education))) and get my own career started. -- i could go on and on... lol. to answer your question... i really don't think it's MANDATORY to married because your having a baby. just my opinion... good luck to you and congratulations, by the way. :)
~raya~
7.26
I sooooooooooooo know what you are going thou in Dec 1999 i found out i was pregnant with my son and my sons dad asked me to marry him and i was just 22 and didnt want to get married. i Knew i would keep my baby and such but i didnt want to be a wife. After he kept pushing me to marry him i left him because i didnt want to be pressured but now after alot of growing up on both our parts we are getting married in 5 days. Go with your heart you can never go wrong with that. Good luck to you and i hope everything works out.
Valerie
Soon to be loving wife to Ambrose (6-29-06 only 5 days away)
Super cool mommy to Logan
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