in so much trouble!

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Registered: 12-06-2006
in so much trouble!
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Wed, 12-06-2006 - 5:34pm
hi all
ive been dating my b/f for about 4 months but we've known eachother for 10 years...unfortunately i think we were better off friends but i wasnt ready to give up yet..we havent really had sex much..basically the only time that counted was early november after we had a huge fight and i was a little drunk...the thing is, i've been over to my ex b/f's house, who i still love, and we got a little messed and had sex a few times(no excuse, i knew what i was doing at the time) early-mid november...now my period is late and i have this feeling im pregnant...bu tthe thing is i'd have no idea whos it is...my b/f is almost done school and will have a very good job, and my mom really likes him...my ex isnt done school, doesn't make great money unless out on the oil rigs, and my mom does not like him AT ALL!!!!!! i have a feeling it would more likely be my ex's and im not going to stick my bf with a child whos not his, bu ti dont want to tell him i cheated because then i lose him and have to figure out who the fob is....im just so confused...while im excited i may be pregnant, as i had a miscarriage at 20 with my ex, i dontwant to be left alone as a purely single mother, i would definitely need support and know that admitting i was cheating would push my b/f away, and my ex does not know i was involved with someone else and would be very angry at the situation as well...just so confused and not sure what to do or think..i know i got myself into this but it still doesnt make this easier
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Registered: 07-27-2005
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 6:41pm
Wow, that's a doosy!

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Registered: 07-01-2005
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 8:51pm

try to relax a bit and get your head together. try to remember when your last period was for sure and the dates that you had sex with each guy because if you are pregnant you may be able to find out that way whos it is. buy a hpt (a double pack is worth it) do the test if it is negative then wait about a week to do another one. if you are pregnant try to find a way to tell each one that you arent sure which one is the father because you may not be able to find out until the baby is born. good luck and i hope it all works out for you. my older sons father and i were better off as friends than in a relationship but we didnt realize that until after our son was born. we are still on good terms and try not to get on eachothers nerves for the sake of our son. just try to be on good terms with the one who is the father if you are pregnant, it cuts down on your stress and the babys.

angela

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