So sad...please HELP

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Registered: 09-03-2003
So sad...please HELP
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 6:49am
Well, it is three days to AF and yesterday I could not wait any longer to find out so I went out and bought the new First Reponse HPT which is supposed to detect the pregnancy hormone up to three days before your period (basically, it is very sensitive). Well, although I have a feeling I was...the result came out negative and now I am devastated. I just sat there looking at the test and cried...and cried...and cried. I still have three days of "official" waiting before I am "late" but after this negative test I feel so sad. Has anyone experienced this and then found out they were pregnant? I know I am probably test happy and should just have waited. But these past few days have felt like months or years even and I am going crazy!

HELP!
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Registered: 07-08-2003
Fri, 09-05-2003 - 7:43am
Dear patita fofinha,

I know exactly what you are feeling. I have been going through the same roller coaster for several months now. I finally went to the dr. and he gave me clomid. I just completed my second cycle. I am actually sitting here waiting for the phone call to tell me if I ovulated and if I am pg. I do not know which is worse a stick or a phone call. I cry all the time, mostly in the car when I am alone. I have become so pessimistic because it is such a hard fall when I get disappointed. I still keep hope but more issues may be there for us. Keep the faith, hang in there. It will happen for us.

Take care,

anxious101

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Registered: 08-27-2003
Fri, 09-05-2003 - 9:13am
I am so sorry...with my DS I thought I was (in fact the first time I tested I had just convieved 6 days before...so the first test I did was --- I was so sad. I then waited for AF to show...for two weeks. I figured that it was just stress. Finally I tested again and sure enough the + was there.

This month I have tested already too... big fat --- but I am not normally due until tomorrow and I have a short lutal phase normally so I am going to test tomorrow but my 14 days is not up until Tuesday. So far for me Spot has not shown up...temps are still up etc. I am trying not to get my hopes up but I feel pg. (not that it means much.)

On the newer "senistive" Tests you still need to realize that 1. your body may have not yet produced enough hormons to be seen by the test and 2. if you look at the sheet it says normall just about 1/2 of all who will get a + test don't at the earliest you can use it.

Wendy

DD 11yrs

DS 7 yrs

ttc#3 using Donor Insemination

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:15am
It's hard to wait - but I suggest waiting til AF is at least due, if not 1 day late. I didn't get BFP until I was almost 5 days late - it all depends on how far along you really are - when did you O? And how much hcg your body produces.

Best of luck - sending you baby dust!!!!

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Registered: 06-17-2003
Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:56am
Deja Vu?? Your story sounds exactly like mine, however I have yet to break down and cry, it's coming though!! AF due Sept 7th (thought it was 5th) but not and waiting two more days is like waiting two more years, sounds funny but when TTC thats ALL you can think about!! I did a HPT yesterday BFN, of course. I just couldn't wait any longer, I havn't been getting much symptoms except for nauesa, but that could be anything, now today I have cramps.... AF cramps, so I sit here and wait for AF to rear her ugly head, still hoping in the back of my mind that I might still be pg, even though I know this month is not likely. Well I wish us all the best of luck, and hey if we are --- this month sounds like we are all on the same track and we can try next month, I have been looking for some cycle buddies. Feel free to send me e-amil or I have msn, I need someone to be as obsesed with this as I am lol!! sshannin@hotmail.com

Shannin.

PS BIG FAT FLAKES of baby dust to everyone trying!!!!

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Registered: 08-18-2003
Fri, 09-05-2003 - 12:56pm
Hi all you fellow crazed ttcers!!

In the same boat here. I'm supposed to see AF on the 7th also...and my pg symptoms are starting to go away. I was sure that I was pg on Tues, sore bbs, temp high, thought I had implantation pains on Sunday. So I tested, BFN of course. Then I tested on Wed (11dpo) and BFN again (what a suprise!) Now my bbs are not sore, and I had spotting on Wed and am pretty depressed. I have a little hope, but each day it dwindles away... Now I just wish AF would get here so I can start the next cycle, and a fresh obsession.

Good luck to us all

Kate

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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 2:03pm
Thanks to all of you. I feel somewhat better...or at least still hopeful. To answer "jam240"'s question. My last period was August 10th. I am super regular (28 days) and ovulate like clock work (can feel a pinch on ovary for an entire 24 hour period). So technically, I should of ovulated around the 23th of August. AF is due on Sunday or Monday (7th or 8th).

I have been having these annoying headaches (which i never do) and this morning I noticed blue veins on my breats (that were NOT there before) although there are bigger, they are not sore that much. I am incredibly swollen and temps is definately up but that could just be AF symptoms (although I never have them way before it comes). Have had no cramps but I am feeling somewhat tired and always hungry. I am crossing my fingers but this wait seems endless, especially since this is my first and i DO NOT know what to expect.

Thanks again for your replies and good luck to all of us trying! :)