Stupid Period

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Registered: 07-03-2003
Stupid Period
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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 3:40pm
So, early this morning I got my period. I went back to bed and actually cried in front of my boyfriend. I told him I wished it would just go away. I don't think he actually grasped what I was trying to say, I didn't want to make it obvious though either. Even though I'm not "trying" to get pregnant I'm wondering why it hasn't happened yet. I wonder why my boyfriend hasn't brought anything up (I haven't said anything about it either) since he knows I'm not taking any type of birth control. I really wish I had the strength to talk to him about it so we can plan for when we are ready I am just so scared. I know I need to go to a doctor to find out what I need to do. Does anyone have any advice on how to bring this very sensitive subject up to a very loved one who I wish to have go thru what I do everyday, so that we can talk about it and find out a way to make my dream a reality? Any help would be VERY appreciated. Thanks
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Registered: 09-11-2003
In reply to: jenalexis78
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 4:32pm
It sounds like you really need to talk to your boyfriend. Does he want children? He may know that you're not on birth control, but that doesn't mean that he wants children. Men don't always equate no BC with getting pregnant. I'm sure it's not an easy subject to broach, but you just have to come out and talk about it. Believe me, you'll feel better once you talk to him. If you decide that you both want to have children, then I'd go to the doctor to ask about the best way to conceive.

I hope this helps.

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Registered: 08-07-2003
In reply to: jenalexis78
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 4:44pm
You could always ask him, what would happen if you would ger pregnant at this time as he knows your not on birth control.You could always say "Wow i really thought i was pregnant this month" and see what he says and if he says nothing ask him what would you have done or said if i was.I think that will really open up the doors for you.When i first got with my husband i had 3 children already from my last marriage.Well i thought i was pregnant one month we had been together for about 6 months at this time.I asked him what would you have done and he told me that he was a little unpet i was not.This was a shock to me as he had never said any ting about it before.I than ased him would you like to try and he said yes and from than on we were to rabbits until i got pregnant
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Registered: 07-03-2003
In reply to: jenalexis78
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 6:47pm
Yes he wants childern, he already HAS a 7 year old daughter. I guess it's just hard for me because I want something of OURS. i like his daughter, except sometimes I rensent the fact that she's around. I want something of OURS so I feel like I'm important. I'm not ready for kids, but I know I need to talk to him and want advice on hoe to open up the subject slowly. Maybe that bit of info will help. Thanks.
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Registered: 08-07-2003
In reply to: jenalexis78
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 7:25pm
Maybe start by telling him that you was upset this morning because you thought you was pregnant.YOu know thats going to start him off asking questhions.I would come right out and ask him if he is ready for anouther and if he say's yes than tell him your ready.I know its a hard thing but once you start off talking to him it will be must better.But your going to have to do it for him to know!