to tell or not to tell

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Registered: 10-09-2003
to tell or not to tell
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Thu, 10-09-2003 - 8:04pm
hello!

I am just finding out this week that the probability is there that I am pregnant. I took two First Responses and saw two lines (though one was lighter than the other). I am pretty sure I am. Anyway, my husband and I discussed when we would inform relatives and friends and we decided initially to wait 3 months. I am a very open person and I want to tell the world everything. What are others thoughts on waiting to tell. Why do we do it?

Thanks!

Caren
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Registered: 07-16-2003
Thu, 10-09-2003 - 8:15pm
i don't know as i'd make it the whole 3 months....but i'd at least wait to tell anybody other than close friends until i'd seen the doctor. i'd tell close friends cuz they're the people that i'd go to when i came back from the doc's all depressed cuz i'd apparently gotten a false positive. i'd wait to tell my close family until after seeing a doc cuz i wouldn't want to get their hopes up about a grandchild or neice or nephew just to have to tell them that it was a false alarm. i'd want to be able to go to those close relatives about a miscarriage, anyway. i'd try to wait at least the 3 months to tell people other than my husband and i's parents and siblings, just 'cuz i'd rather not have them start counting miscarriages if i ended up having several.

*anna~rae*

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Registered: 04-16-2003
Thu, 10-09-2003 - 8:53pm
I waited only until I was about 7 or 8 weeks to tell my family (actually I think I told my sister the day after I tested positive). Close friends found out shortly after that. I knew that if I were to miscarry, I would want and need their support (and their understanding since I'm sure I'd be a such a basketcase!)

I teach kids, so I didn't tell them or their parents until I was through my first trimester.

Each person is different in how they want to handle it. Best wishes for a H&H 9 months! Beth

Beth - mommy to Ayden 03/23/02, Owen 06/23/04, & Eliz