trying

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trying
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Sun, 09-21-2003 - 11:56pm
well after last months little wierd thing (so many preg. sypthms and not being preg.) we have decided to start trying anyways (I told my husband if by Dec. we're not we'll stop trying for awhile) anyways my only problem is my parents ---let me explain I'm 19, husband is 20 and he's in the Marines--- we've been married over a year (I turn 20 in Dec.) well my parents didn't want us to marry so young but we did anyways know they want us to wait till my schooling is done (but we've decided not to) they knew that I was having preg. sypthms b-4 I started my period, and then my dad's like start your pills (blah a day after I'd already started) so i told him I can't b/c I'm suposed to start them on the first day of my period----I guesee I want to know everyones input on this ---we are so ready for a baby but we are NOT telling my parents we're trying b/c I don't want to hear about my schooling is more important ---what would you guys do in my situation ?

Heather

P.S. I'm very close to my mom (it's mostly my dad that has the problem)

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Skielynne--08-17-04

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Registered: 09-22-2003
In reply to: midnightsky02
Mon, 09-22-2003 - 3:46am
My mom was not thrilled when I got pregnant I was 19 and not married and with the guy on 4 months. No one had ever even met him. So make a log story short everyone is happy My mom took one look and the baby melted and spoils her like no one else I know know. I just told her I was preg. Again and her only responce was that she is too yong to have two granchildren.
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In reply to: midnightsky02
Tue, 09-23-2003 - 12:51pm
OPINIONS PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Skielynne--08-17-04

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In reply to: midnightsky02
Tue, 09-23-2003 - 1:02pm
Plain and simple... it's your life. Although you are on the younger side, you are obviously mature enough to handle marriage. If you and your husband are ready to bring a child into the world and raise it with love, then go for it!

On the other hand, I do see you father's point of finishing school first. How much school do you have left? And of course he's not going to be completely happy with you wanting to have kids at 19/20... you are his little girl! I'm sure it's difficult for him to see you so grown up. But I'm also sure that no matter what you do, in the end he'll still love you and life goes on.

Do what you feel in your heart. Good luck!

-B

 

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Registered: 04-05-2003
In reply to: midnightsky02
Tue, 09-23-2003 - 2:23pm
Hey, i believe you do what you think is right. I got married at 20 but decided to finish school first. I got pregnant at 24 and didn't have my child til two weeks before my 25th birthday. Now that i am a professional i'm TTC my 2nd child and i'll be 27 in January. Good luck with what you decide!

P.S. I'm not telling my parents about TTC #2 because they have difference of opinions.

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Registered: 09-23-2003
In reply to: midnightsky02
Tue, 09-23-2003 - 2:31pm
hey i'm in exactly the same position as you i am 18 and my boyfriend is 18. i have just finished college and have started working full time. i found out on saturday that i was pregnant. i have not had any of the symptoms but two tests say i am. on the same day we told are parents and my dad said what your dad said. i am also very close to my mum and when we told her we argued and fell out. i went round the next day and sorted things out she is still very unsure but telling my parents helped me alot.
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Registered: 09-12-2003
In reply to: midnightsky02
Tue, 09-23-2003 - 3:11pm
I agree with the other posts, you should do what is right for you and your husband. I am a mother of three beautiful children, I started having them when I was 21. My husband and I have always wanted 4 children 2 years apart, but all of my family have thier own opinions as to what I ahould do. My mother told me a couple months ago that she had a nightmare that I was pg again. Told me I already have it too hard with the three children. I have also just started college again and I am going to go full time for up to 5 years. My husband and I feel we want to stick to our plan and have another baby, so we ttc our fourth this month so that the baby would be born end of May of first of June. That way we have the summer off to enjoy our family. We feel it is the right decision for us and our family, and everyone else is just gunna have to deal! I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck! Oh, thought I would tell you with three small children I am still able to get A's in my classes. It can all work if you really want it to!!
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Registered: 06-23-2003
In reply to: midnightsky02
Tue, 09-23-2003 - 4:04pm
Hi there! You know what, it is your life. If you want a baby, have a baby. I am 24 right now and if I had my way I would have had one when I first got married at 21 but my husband wasn't ready. If you are both ready then go for it. School will always be there and if you are anything like me, I just want to be a mom as that is a more important of a job than anything (at least in my eyes). I wish you luck and don't tell your parents until you are pregnant that way you won't get stressed out about it. You want to be stress free if you are trying to have a baby. Sure, your parents may be upset at first with the news but guaranteed as soon as they see the new little baby, they will forget everything they said and will love the little one to pieces. Good Luck!~~

Aimee

Mommy to Noah (Nov 6/04) 

Emil

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Registered: 09-10-2003
In reply to: midnightsky02
Tue, 09-23-2003 - 10:52pm
thank you for your thoughts and opinions everyone--- they are much appretiated ----to the lady that said she has 3 children with straight A's that's awesome!!!! You are hard working & I hope your family gives you lots of thanks----

I think everyone is right we should just try and then after we are pregnant say guesse what? we're pregnant and they can live with it and deal---peoples goals do change that's for sure --my dream job is elementary teacher--but recently I noticed that's not what I want out of life ---my family is what I want ---I only have so many years to get preg. (about 20)hehehe(my mom and aunt are in their forties and had everything removed about 3-4 years ago) and after that I can spend my time working and /or going to school ----I don't know if any of this makes sense or not but either way----

I went to the doctor today and asked her if it was ok to try (I had an appointment b/c I just found out i'm pre-diebetic) she said it was ok and gave my pre-natel vitamins and calcium to take--- so hopefully we'll BD this and next week and be expecting in June (HOPEFULLY!)



SORRY THIS IS SO LONG!!!

Heather

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Skielynne--08-17-04