underage and I think I'm pregnant
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underage and I think I'm pregnant
| Thu, 06-07-2007 - 9:24pm |
Well my period hasnt come on in about 2 months and I am scared to death cuz I am 16. When I did it I used a condom. I need advice any advic e would be good and please help me tell my grandma and the baby's father

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Start asking your grandma if its normal to miss a period or two.. and if she has ever missed a period herself. Before you do this, make sure you take a home pregnancy test and if you are pregnant, then ask her about the missed periods.. as if you are worried yourself and dont know .. Then start being honest with her if she starts asking you about sex and if you have had any.. you shouldnt lie.. you can tell her you have had sex before but you used condoms.. so that way she knows you were being safe. then take it from there, dont mouth off to her if she gets angry, its hard to understand these things because pregnancy is something really surprising to deal with, and people take out their emotions differently than others. just be honest, and talk to her as if you seek her advice, and experience.. so she feels that you need her. Thats the best way I can think of.. dont be angry inside with her if she upsets you. try to put your place in hers.. she is an old lady im assuming, so let her deal with it and be submissive to her.
As for your boyfriend.. talk to your grandma about it first..
see what she thinks about telling the boyfriend
so she feels you trust her with these important decisions.. and not already making decisions of your own and planning without thinking.
hope everything works out, if your not pregnant, please let this be alesson to you. now you know how it feels to be in this situation unprepared. Goodluck hun :)
I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant. My husband (boyfriend at the time) knew as soon as I knew. He was there once I took the test and at first we were both scared, but its something that we had to accept. At first both of our parents were angry and wanted us to abort the pregnancy, but that was never an option in our eyes. Once they got over the shock they warmed up to the idea of having a grandchild and things smoothed over.
My advice would be to find out if you are pregnant first of all. A test at Wal-mart is less than $10. If you aren't then tell your grandma about missed periods and see about going to the doctor to see if there is something medically wrong. If you are approach your grandmother in a mature and respectful manner and explain your situation. Don't lie or get defensive and accept what she has to say about the situation. If you are pregnant you need to go to the doctor and start getting care for the baby, if you plan on keeping it.
Now since I don't know your boyfriend or the type of relationship you have with him I really don't know what to tell you to do about telling him. I think it would be best for you and your grandmother to sit down and figure it all out before you approach him. I wish you the best of luck and if you need to talk about anything feel free to email me.
Ashley
Hello,
Before you tell anyone, Have you even tested yet?? I would test first to make sure you are pregnant. Women can skip periods from stress, Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome, or hormonal imbalance.
Keep us posted!
~Lisa
TTC to conceive #1 officially since 2001. Dh had Varicocele surgery 2005 and has low sperm count. Dh tried Clomid..it didnt really help, HSG in 1999 and 2005, Charting since Jan 2006, <
I should let you know that when I was about your age which was only about 3 to 4 years ago, I used to miss and skip periods all the time (for2-3 months) only because as previously mentioned, I was stressed and had an hormonal imbalance as per blood test results. If you feel that you can relate to that, if you are unusually stressed due to anything else happening in your life keep that as an option. And most important of all, take a home pregnancy test to rule out pregnancy first.
I'm 32 and pregnant with baby number 5, though I've had 6 pregnancies. I was a single mom in high school, got pregnant the end of my junior year and had her my senior year. After being a single mom, I got married not with my baby's father, got pregnant with my first hubby, divorced, and found a great guy that I dated for two years before we got married. We've been together 10 years and married for 8. This is our third child together.
I definately agree with the women who said you should get a pregnancy test first or go to a clinic. Going to a clinic is free, that's what I did, because the cost of seeing a gynecologist without insurance is too expensive, and I didn't want it to show on my mom's insurance that I was covered under. It was real hard to tell her I was pregnant when I was in high school, but all in all in the end it worked out. That child's father is not in her life and I wouldn't even know where to begin to look for him. He was there at first for a while, but then moved with his family out of the country. We were on friendly terms. It was hard being a single mom, the times I was, but it was OK, you find support systems elsewhere. Parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, co-workers, mom support groups, churches. There are people all around you that will help you whether you are raising this baby with a boyfriend, alone, with family, or a husband. Even married women sometimes have trouble getting support from their own husbands. BUT, just know you are not alone if you are pregnant, and if you aren't, just read my story as something someone went through, and it might help to prevent this in the future for yourself or a friend. Even though I have to say I am blessed with beautiful children and a husband I love dearly, but can drive me batty too at times LOL, it's not so easy. We are both young parents. We have a high schooler, a middle schooler, one in elementary school and one in Pre School, and a baby on the way. NOT to mention my step son who lives with his mom and is here for the summer!!! We are 31 and 32, very busy, and we've had to mature early in life. We have great kids that are very respectful, kind, and dedicated students, but by far is it easy.
I wish you the best like everyone else here, and if you are pregnant it's important to get prenatal care, the earlier the better. Make short and long term goals for yourself, and try to get a support system to help you achieve those goals. I kept my baby, I had a friend who was pregnant at 14 who gave hers for adoption in an open adoption so she could finish going to school. Whatever you decide, you do have people that care about you and if you need to talk or ask questions, that's what these boards are for, if you feel more comfortable talking to people online. I also agree with the advice about your boyfriend.... find out first, and ultimately it's up to you if you want to tell him now or not. I'll pray for your strength, and hang in there!
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