underage and I think I'm pregnant

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Registered: 06-03-2007
underage and I think I'm pregnant
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Thu, 06-07-2007 - 9:24pm
Well my period hasnt come on in about 2 months and I am scared to death cuz I am 16. When I did it I used a condom. I need advice any advic e would be good and please help me tell my grandma and the baby's father

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Registered: 01-05-2007
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 11:23pm
I KNOW YOU ARE SCARED AND NERVOUS, BUT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO DO NOW IS CALM DOWN. I'M SEVENTEEN AND IM HAVING A BABY GIRL NEXT MONTH. I WAS 16 WHEN I GOT PREGNANT. I THOUGHT EVERYTHING WAS GONNA BE AWFUL BUT EVERYTHING TURNED OUT GOOD AND I HAVE A LOT OF SUPPORT
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Registered: 06-03-2007
Sat, 06-09-2007 - 3:13pm
See u dont understand my situation me and my might be baby's father we really dont get along we cant stand each others gutts so that's why I'm so concerned about him. Ialready told his sister my situation and she said she'll help me. My other problem is I now have a boyfriend and I'm scared to tell him. I met him three day's after I messed with the baby's father. I am so scared that he'll leave me and I really love this guy I'm with. So tell me wat you would do in my situation
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Registered: 05-20-2007
Sat, 06-09-2007 - 4:46pm
if it has been that late you should take a pregnancy test just to make sure and that way you can stop worrying about it. i'm 18 years old and i'm about to be 5 months pregnant next week and it wasn't that hard for me to think that i might be pregnant because my period was 2 months late and i was 17 by then (i turned 18 on march 17) but i think that i wasn't worried because i know who i was with and i new my boyfriend and i new he would be excited to know that we were going to be parents but then again my boyfriend is 24 years old i don't know how old and how mature your boyfriend or the guy you got with is. to tell you the truth i was a little worried but when i told my boyfriend that i was two months late he went out and bought me a pregnancy test, i did it and it came out positive but i didn't believe it so the next day i did another test and it was still positive so on friday of the following weeek he took me to a clinic that my aunt, who is also about to be 5 months pregnant and we're do the same month and the same day, told him to take me to and she was going there too, so we went the nurse drew blood, the doctor did a pap-smear, they took urine sample, they weighed me and they asked some confidential questions about my feelings about the baby and how i was treated at home and if i was hit by my parents or boyfriend etc... they gave me two appointments one for an u7ltrasound and the other for a regular check up that i have been going to every two weeks now. but then came the time that we decided that we had to tell my parents the news and so we did one saturday night my parents were about to go out with their church friends (they are very religious) and so we had to stop them from leaving so i told them that luis, my boyfriend had to tell them something and so they stayed we sat down and i remember that my dad and my boyfriend were having a conversation and i was nervous so i started to cry and that's when my mom asked us what was it we wanted to talk about and i told them that i was pregnant and she started to cry and i asked her why was she crying and she said that she was happy and she thanked us for making her a grandma and my dad hugged us and said congratulations and thanked us too and so the day went on and they went out to their dinner and i was relieved. don't be worried if you know who you are with and you know that he won't take care of the baby then just tell him but don't expect anything from him then go tell your grandma and if she gets mad just think that it's only a reaction of the news later on she'll think about the baby and she's gonna be a really happy great-grandmother. just take the pregnancy test to stop a little bit of your worries and start with the daddy then ask him to be with you when you and tell your grandma. hopefully my story and my advice helps you and good luck God will be with you, the only thing i wouldn't want you think about is abortion if you don't want the baby have it and then give him up for adoption don't close your heart think about the little angel and think that he was not a mistake because you knew what you were getting into and the one of the million consequences of sex is a baby who has no fault give him a chance to live and make something out of himself k. bye, good luck!!!
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Registered: 11-06-2006
Sat, 06-09-2007 - 5:14pm

Hello,


Have you

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 3:13am
To tell you the truth I am so srry bout the baby daddy thing. I was lucky and my stuck by and even with me being only 17 and having my second one on the way. Well if I was in ur situation I would just be honest with the bf u have now. Cause the longer you wait the worst it will be. It is rare for guys to understand especially in ur situation. But if the guys trully cares about you he wont care. It will be weird for him if he stays but soon he will ajust but if he turns and leaves after you tell him then to tell you the truth he really isn't the guy for you. There will be someone out there for you who wouldn't care if u were prego with someone eles baby. Especially if they love you for you. But honestly that is a lot for the new bf to handle and if he is young I don't see him wanting to be around but just tell him and tell him that you understand if he doesnt want to be together and maybe it will make him feel better especially if you tell him that he doesn't have to stand in as the father figure because that is definitely what he is going to think. Other than that I again would prepare myself for the worst just in case but in a relationship like I have honesty is what we are based off of and also trust in eachother. So just let him know and get his sister to talk to him afterwards. So give it time after you tell him and see if she can talk him into reality that he doesn't have to leave you over something that was beacuse of your past relationship but still love that child and if he sticks around he will learn to love the baby too.
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Registered: 05-30-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 7:35am
Take a deep breath and relax. Just because you didn't get your period doesn't mean your pregnant. I had a time in my life when I didn't get my period for months then it just came back. It happens.
And if you are don't wait to tell people. Don't hide it. It might be really hard at first but your going to need support and advice to make informed decisions about what you want to do with baby. And you should tell the baby's father because, well, don't you think he should know. But then again, it is your decision.
i know how you feel. im 19 and pregnant with my first! hang in there and good luck!

 

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Registered: 06-03-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:47pm
thanks for advice I already told my g-ma and she was very understanding and she said its my decision wat I decide to do but she said basically said the same thing u said
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Registered: 06-11-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 2:39pm
ok sweetie first thing is first have you taken a home pregnancy test? there can be several reasons a woman can miss a period! so first thing i would do is go get a pregnancy test. if it makes you feel better i would take it with a very close friend who i trusted just for the whole suport thing. if and only if it comes out positive it's gona be very hard but you just need to bite the bullet and tell your grandparents and your babys father, it's gona be very hard but you will feel better once you tell them! once you tell them the next thing you need to do is go to the doctor, they will give you a pregnancy test in the office and you will go from there. having a baby is a very scary thing but it's also a very wonderful thing. you also have options, you can keep your baby, put it up for adoption, or you can have an abortion. i was young when i had my first baby, my husband and i were both only 20 and we were scared. i cant imagine still being in high school and being pregnant. my daughter is now 14 months old and she is the most wonderfully amazing that has ever happened to us. if you keep it it will be hard, but i'm telling you it's so worth it! alright sweetie if you need anything, anthing at all my email is tkedenfield@hotmail.com. i hope everything works out for the best!
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Registered: 11-06-2006
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 3:01pm

Hello,


Did you take a test? Did you make an appointment with a doctor?


TTC to conceive #1 officially since 2001. Dh had Varicocele surgery 2005 and has low sperm count. Dh tried Clomid..it didnt really help, HSG in 1999 and 2005, Charting since Jan 2006, <

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