wats goin on w. me?

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wats goin on w. me?
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Tue, 10-14-2003 - 10:21pm
im still in my mid teen ...lets say OVER 13 but still under 18.....and i lost my virginity over the summer and since then my body well confusin...my period been kinda irrgeular....and recently...i had sex again...and lately..i been tired more than usual..it might be from school...but i dunno....i been experiencein some pain in my vagina area recently...i missed my period or did i? mine can come sometimes around the 5th or around the 27th.....my last one was on the 5th of sept..i hadnt gotten this's months period....and im sorry to say but i had been in engage in sexual activiny in the last couple of weeks....which is another problem...i know that if i tell my bf no he would back off w. no hestitation...but i find it hard to say no to him....no matter wat....another thing i gotta point out is that since we go different school i only get to see him bout once a week..and we cherish that day like its the last...we spend it talkin teasing playing forepalyin ...and then sex... is what im doin wrong or unhealthy in a way...is there a way i can learn to say no? am i preganet? wats goin on w. me?

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Sat, 10-18-2003 - 10:20pm
thanxs .. as for my family ...my family is not really tight or close...i keep our life personal..my parent dont know bout him ....when in time of need i find it more comfortin to turn to my friends...yea im supportin my friend...but he bein the the father of the baby it help give me an insight of what my baby's father thinkin..but yea im still supportin my best friend as much as i can i know hes gonna do the same if i do turn up preganet..

oh yea im supposed to meet up w. the baby's father tommorrow for a basketball game and possibly imma try to squeeze in that talk afterward...im kinda nervous... its kinda the first time i actually set my foot down on a subject...but hmmm im not positive bout wat to say yet....any suggestion?
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Sat, 10-18-2003 - 10:23pm
thanxs i appreciate ur posting ...and i hope that im not preganet too..
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Sun, 10-19-2003 - 11:27am
It's good that you have friends to turn to. Everybody needs someone to turn to in hard times.

I got kind of confused toward the end of your e-mail. Are you talking to your boyfriend today? If so, are you talking about the possible baby or about sex? Or, are you talking to your girl friend's boyfriend? What it is you're trying to talk to him about? His feelings at being a father?

You used alot of definate terms in this post (ie, when you said "my baby's father"). Did you get some news, or is that just one of those things?

Other than that, enjoy your basketball game. I hope everything goes great for you!

~Claire

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Sun, 10-19-2003 - 12:36pm
oh im sorry bout being confusin at the end i guess i wasnt focus enough to type down everythin on my mind so that it would make sense...yea im gonna talk to my boyfriend today..aka the baby's dady well if i am pregenet..and on the subject of our talk thats where i too am a little confuse...i guess i want to cover it all but i just not sure how to come about on aprroachin him with it...should i just be like ok look...ummm im not 100% sure yet..but theres a 50/50 chance that i might be preganet..and i wont know for sure till halloween..and etc...i want to discuss with him bout the possible baby...wat we're goin to do...and so on...i had a lil talk bout this before and he said he would support me and the baby..and etc...

oh and am i being parionad bout this...but is this pregancy synthom or they just common for this time of the year...ok lately i been kinda sick sore throat..feverish flu syndrome...i dont usually get sick during this time of year...so it makes more alert and caustious bout my health right now... im usually able to bear cold weather ( im in chicago) without gettin more than a runny nose that usually last for 48 hrs tops....but i been tired lately too ...that might be from school.. and i been goin to sleep extremly early ( round 8) and wakin up fairly late for me.... the only time i remeber this happenin ( extreme tireness) is two summer ago when i joined cheerleading and they practiced in the evening and there would be games every weekend ...causin me to wake up 5 -6 am and i wouldnt be home till 10 11 or somtime even 12 at night...... .. ...do i just need to take a couple days to recooperate myself back to health..or this is sign that my body's adjustin to a somthin to expect...have u been experiencin odd body health behaviors?
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Sun, 10-19-2003 - 2:00pm
This entire message board is full of posts about pregnancy symtoms. Read around a bit and see if you conntect with anyone elses description. I haven't read anything about sore throats etc. yet, so you may just be coming down with a cold (if you have it, take double the amount of vitamin C a supplement bottle usually tells you too...it'll kick the colds butt).

Talking to the maybe-baby's dad has got to be hard....my fiance new right away that something was up. As soon as I had my funny bleeding thing I called him and asked him how long it'd been since my last period (I thought I might have messed up on the count). He confimed when I thought my period had been, then the next day he asked me how I was fairing (I'm usually pretty miserable on the first full day of my cycle). I told him it had stopped and he asked what that meant. I told him then that it could have been implantation bleeding and what that means. Back to you, you said it'll be two weeks before you know if you're PG. Usually, that would mean (on the average) that you'd be ovulating about now. You also said in your first post that you'd either gotten your last period on the 5th or the 27th. Where those both in September or was the 5th in October? Are you still really irregular? Give me a run down, and maybe we can figure out if the timing is even anywhere near right.

When you talk to your bf be honest. Just tell him that you want him to know that there's a possibility and let him know that you trust and believe him (about him telling you that he'd take care of you and a baby) but also let him know that you just need to be reassured right now because you're scared. I actually had to do this just yesterday when my fiance was here. It's normal when you've not been trying to have a baby to be a little scared...especially if you're not married.

One more thing with your body...remember that stress does nutty things to it. It's important to take some deep breathes and take care of yourself. Maybe a lazy afternoon with a good book is in order, or a long bath....

You also mentioned that you're in Chicago...I'm from Grand Rapids and I'm at MSU right now... Small world

~Claire

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Sun, 10-19-2003 - 8:01pm
my last period was on sept. 5....my very first one was on the 5th as well...the next couple one after that was around the 5th not exactly on the 5th just close enough ( like the 4th or the 7th ) i think that i started gettin irregular somtimes last summer.. before any sexual contact...some month it was around the 5th some month it was around the 27th.. ( for example..say i got my period on the 5th of may and next month i would get my period on the 27th of june) yea my last period was on sept. 5th...since then i hadnt gotten my period...i hadnt receieve this month's as of yet..i mention that i might know by the halloween because im hopin that maybe this month it decides to come on the 27th...

as for the talk i guess its gonna get post pone...something came up and he wasnt able to make it today...he's on a church basketball team ( hes sorta religious ) and his coach makes them attend church service every sunday..i tried callin him but he had turn off his cell...

ur in mi? wow thats like a 2 -3 hrs drive from chi...wow it is a small world...

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Tue, 10-21-2003 - 7:56pm
oooo good news or is it? i think i got my period today...but i dunt know if its really my period..i noticed it when i got home from school a couple of hrs ago.. but i remeber reading something bout implantation bleeding..so im not sure as of now..its still kinda early i wasnt expectin my period to sometime next week or after this weekend..its kinda real light right now. its like a pinkish color but left a brownish color on my panties...like dried blood..is that my period or implantation bleeding..oooohhhhhh...im happy yet confused at the same time.....
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Tue, 10-21-2003 - 8:13pm
Wait and see....if it's possibly implantation bleeding it won't pick up. Remember that if it is your period early, it probably would be lighter than normal. Here's hoping for fresh blood (how gross is that?!)

Anyways, sorry I couldn't get back to you sooner...I really did mean to. Today is my roommated birthday and her sister and the sister's boyfriend showed up during homework time to take us out yesterday. I've pretty much been going non-stop since then.

I'm getting really anxious for this week to keep going. I'm technically expecting myperiod tomorrow, but it'd be helpful if it didn't come till Monday... (My b-day is Saturday and I'm going to a Matchbox20 concert Sunday night.)

I'm trying really hard not to stress about my period...like I said, either way, we'll (the fiance and I) will be happy...

Anyways, keep me posted!

~Claire

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Wed, 10-22-2003 - 4:50pm
Hey...I've actually got a question for you....there's someone I wanted to look up in the Chicago area...I'd rather not post the info I have online, so if you could e-mail me, I'd appreciate it (my address is on here somewhere....)

~Claire

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Wed, 10-22-2003 - 4:58pm
OH! i think it was my period cuz it was too heavy to be implantation bleeding..oooh! im so glad im not preganet...oooh this taught me a lesson for sure! oh but dont worry bout the last couple of days...i only check like once a day cuz i wasnt really feelin well so i spend most of my days sleepin or on homework

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