What to do???????Help!
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What to do???????Help!
| Thu, 11-06-2003 - 11:15pm |
My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for 16 months now. We have had 2 miscarriages in the past 7 months and have had some very difficult times. We started trying again 2 months ago and nothing yet. He got called away on business for 10 days and of course, it will be during my ovulation time. So, we have been debating on whether or not I should fly out for a few days to see him. I will not have anything to do except work out and relax in the room. On one hand, this might really help me relax and on the other it could put more pressure on us! It is not the greatest area, so I am told, and will not be able to venture out on my own. His days are very busy and he will leave about 8:00am and return after dinner. Part of me really wants to go and not let a whole month go by again (it seems like forever) and the other part of me says we will take the month off and maybe that will be good. I know if I don't go, there is no chance of getting pregnant. We both feel the same way about me flying out to see him, one minute we want me to and the next we are not so sure.
Help! Please let me know if anyone has any advice on this!
Help! Please let me know if anyone has any advice on this!
Thanks!

Summer
Thanks for responding, I do appreciate the info.
We have already had every test in the book. Everything is negative. My husband has been tested. It is now just a matter of it happeining again. I just feel crazy flying to where he is to try to get pregnant.
Thanks again,
Jen
Summer
Thanks for the info.
Summer
This is just my opinion, I think that if you go meet your husband and make it a sort of "rendevous" or a romantic getaway, it could be fun and take the pressure off you both. Sometimes a couple of days away is all you need to make it all work out.
I don't think that's crazy. I think it's spontaneous! :)
Good luck (to all of us!)
Rachel :)
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I think I might go ahead and just do that. It is a hard decision because of his work schedule doesn't leave us much time to spend together. I will be alone most of the day and part of the night, but that might be a good time for me to relax. Thank you for telling me I am not crazy. Sometimes you feel so anxious that you make yourself think that your crazy!
Thanks again,
Jennifer
I agree with Rachel. Make it fun. If its a nice hotel you should be able to get a massage or do some nice things for yourself while you were there. Make it fun and romantic. It doesn't have to be all about TTC. Just get away for a while and make the best of it. Good luck. Keep us posted! :-)
Michelle
I appreciate the advice. It is nice to know that there are other people that think like me.
I will keep you updated.
Jennifer
Edited 11/7/2003 12:19:13 PM ET by jengrl11