who's the daddy?

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Registered: 08-17-2003
who's the daddy?
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Sun, 08-17-2003 - 6:46pm
im 16 years old and about 8 weeks pregnant. im really good with kids, but i still dont think i need this yet in my life. i thought about my possible decisions. and im going to keep it. but i just dont want it growing up without knowing who its daddy is. it could be two different guys, but i dont know if i can find out whose it is before it comes out. i heard somewhere that they can take a blood sample from the baby before it comes out, but i dont know if it was true or not. this is going to bother me forever if i dont find out. please add any comments at all. it will help alot. Thanx, Zoey
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Registered: 08-17-2003
Sun, 08-17-2003 - 6:56pm
Hi Zoey,

You have made the first step in finalizing your decision and Im sure that was tough enough. I can understand your need to find out who the father is but from what I understand, this can not be done until after the baby is born. I would focus on your pregnancy more than worry about who the father is at this point, you will have a lot of emotions going on with the pregnancy and any added stress will just keep you from enjoying the beautiful experience. Get yourself through the next 9 months and you will be rewarded with the joy of your child. Your baby needs you, it will bond with whom ever the father is afterwards. Stay focused and keep yourself healthy for both of you :-)


Best of luck to you,

Ledera

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Sun, 08-17-2003 - 8:53pm
Hi! I understand ! I was 16 when I had my first child and I made it so i know you can to ! They will not be able to find out who the daddy is tell the babys born . Dont worry about that right now just take care of your self and your baby the time will come when you will have your answer !

HUGS!!

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 08-18-2003 - 10:57am
I know they can get paternity if you have to have an ammnio. But, Zoey, being your age, your baby has very low risks of genetic disorders. Chances are that your doctor would not do it just to find paternity. The risk of something happening to the baby are larger than the risk of something actually being wrong with the baby. Talk to your doctor on your first visit, which you should make very soon.

Good luck. You are embarking on one of the most difficult journeys of your life. There are a lot of resources for young mothers out there. USE THEM! It could make all the difference.